silent miscarriage - so upset

[lillie]

I was expecting to be moving to the second trimester forum this week, but had my 12 week dating scan on Monday and was told the baby died 6 weeks ago.

I cant believe this has happened, I'm in total shock. I've had morning sickness up to and including today, and I've had to buy new clothes to fit me, all for nothing.

Although I had slight bleeding at 5 weeks I had Hcg tests which showed the amounts were increasing, and was told everything was fine. Obviously it wasn't. The hospital doctor said my body has contiued to believe it was pregnant, which is why I havent had a full miscarriage.

It was so sad to see the little shape on the scan but being told it was dead. I've been crying two whole days and cant stop. I'm told I can start trying again soon, but I cant bring myself to think about it, it. Not sure I can cope with the thought of this happening again. Dont think I can even cope with having a D&C next Monday either. I've never had an operation before I dont know what to expect.

Sorry to go, I just dont know what to do with myself.

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Ah Lillie Im so sorry for your loss.....Im sorry I cant give a lot of advice on this subject or D&C but wanted to say Im thinking of you and sending you hugs.....so sorry xx

 

[inky]

I'm so sorry lillie, I can't imagine how you must feel, I'm sorry I don't have any experience or advice but couldn't read your post without saying anything, my sincere condolences

 

[Mervs Mum]

So sorry for your loss honey

 

[lanny]

so sorry for your loss i really feel for you take care of yourselfxxxxx

 

[laura dec 1988]

so sorry hun

xxx

 

[louise280981]

so sorry thinking of you xxx

 

[becks20]

Im so sorry to hear of ur loss hun! Take care! x

 

[lyndseyd]

im so sorry hun, thinking of you xxx

 

[adele88]

hey lillie

i can understand how you feel i have had 2 mc before its a really terrible thing. I am now pregnant for my third time and totally paranoid been at the hospital twice for two emergency scans but i am now 13 weeks 3 days i never thought this day woulkd come

so sorry for your loss dear xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Mamafy]

So sorry for your loss hun

 

[karenandbump]

Aw sweetie....so so sorry for your loss. I miscarried earlier this year and words can't describe how tough it was and my thoughts are with you. Lots of love and hugs and we're all here if you need us xxxxx

 

[FebMum2Be]

so sorry x

 

[Annie050408]

So sorry to hear this hon, I can't imagine how you must be feeling . xx

 

[hayels]

am so sorry for u loss. xxx

 

[*Hope*]

I can compleetly sympathise hun and really feel for you.

I had almost exactly the same thing happen to me in 2008. i went along all hapy and oblivius to the risks to my 12 week scan and they saidmy baby had died at 8 weeks. I had to wait a whole week for my D&C and i was a mess for that week..

i never did find out why it happened but got told a hundred times it was never meant to be, baby wouldnt have developed properly, it happens to 1 in 3 first pregnancies etc and nothing makes u feel any better.

personally i decided not to get pregnant again till late 2009 but that was for other reasons. whatever works for you and try and lean on those close to you for support. I went the other way and distanced myself which was a bad idea xxx

 

[Star*]

Im sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers are with you, lots of love xxxxx

 

[rakrak]

oh hun, I'm so so sorry to hear this. I know nothing I say can make things any easier for you but just wanted to say you're in my thoughts and take care...there are loads of people here if you ever need to talk xxx

 

[JJ Mum]

Oh I am really sorry for you Hun, If you want to chat please just message me anytime for support or a rant.

I don't know the answers to your questions as I am just going through the same thing this week too, so I do understand what you are going through,

Scanned at 11 weeks on monday and there was no heatbeat and looks like the baby died at 9 weeks and no miscarriage yet. I am having a D&C Op on friday unless I have a very heavy bleed before then.
Had cramping tonight, but I have a preop assesment appointment tomorow ready for friday or if I bleed lots before then they will scan instead to see if it all has come away safely.

Please try to not blame yourself, searching as I have been for reasons why, it was out of your control.

Take care and try to get some rest - Jenni X

 

[Mamafy]

How are you doing hun?