Should I take him out of nursery?

[x-kirsty-x]

Ryan started nursery a few months ago and ever since then he's been poorly almost all the time. I think he's only ever managed 1 full week but obviously I'm still having to pay a fortune every month whether he goes or not.

He's had...

- Sickness & diarrohoea 3 times

- Viral infection

- Conjunctivitis

- Now he's got a chest infection

There isn't even any space between them, as soon as he gets rid of one thing, he picks up something else.

I'm tearing myself in 2 all the time, OH won't take time off work so it's always me who has to do it. I can't deal with it anymore

 

[mary70]

kids seem to be ill all the time anyway hun but with kids so close togeather all day they will be picking different bugs up, can u afford not to work and take him out? if so then i would if not could you look at a child minder where he wouldnt be with so many different children

 

[x-kirsty-x]

kids seem to be ill all the time anyway hun but with kids so close togeather all day they will be picking different bugs up, can u afford not to work and take him out? if so then i would if not could you look at a child minder where he wouldnt be with so many different children

I dunno if we would be able to manage if I quit work. We managed before but now that we have my wage coming in we've realised how much better things are with that little bit extra.

I want to stop work, take him out of nursery and see how we manage for a few months. If we struggle I'll go back to work and put him back into nursery, if we're ok then I'll stay at home with him until he's a bit older, then go back to work.

I really don't know what to do. When I was a SAHM, all OH used to say to me was that I had an easy life, and I got the 'I work and you don't' lecture all the time. I really can't be bothered with that again

 

[x-kirsty-x]

How much do Tax Credits go down after a child's 1st birthday??

 

[Babylicious]

He could be picking things up from your eldest too

 

[trixipaws]

I want to stop work, take him out of nursery and see how we manage for a few months. If we struggle I'll go back to work and put him back into nursery, if we're ok then I'll stay at home with him until he's a bit older, then go back to work.

do that then i think

I really don't know what to do. When I was a SAHM, all OH used to say to me was that I had an easy life, and I got the 'I work and you don't' lecture all the time. I really can't be bothered with that again

i get that too! even tho i do work (albeit part-time)! grr it bugs

 

[monster_munch]

I can't remember how much they go down - although it's a bit - I don't get why - it's not like babies get cheaper once they hit one

Just looking at my tax credits paperwork and the blumming thing doesn't tell me...
Although I remember being a bit miffed at the difference when DD turned one.

If I were you (and I know it's easy to say when you're not the one in the situation) but I woud stop work for a while.
I get the guilt trip from DH so you're not alone there, I just withdraw sexual priviledges as I'm so tired from my 24/7 job being a mummy - at least he gets breaks at work, I don't! Plus he'd be pretty pissed if work rang every 2 hours in the night for a feed

 

[Rosieroo]

It might not be nursery - Alex was like it for months and months. In the space of Jan to April he had 3 chest infections, 2 sickness and diarrohea bugs, 1 ear infection countless coughs and colds on top of his asthma. He's been on 5 lots of antibiotics and was sent to hospital with his wheezing at one point, and I'm SAHM! I think he was getting stuff from toddler groups and also one of DDs friends who is always full of germs. So nursery might not be to blame, he could just be sickly like DS. This is the longest since he's be born that we've been away from the doctors surgery, nearly 3 weeks now!

 

[leckershell]

It annoys me too hes only been in a month and had chest infection and chicken pox, but I'll keep him in as I don't have an option otherwise. I'm looking at higher paid jobs and I'll probably have to get a new nursery if I got any of them anyway, and maybe a childminder might be better for us too.. hmm. Tax credits (I believe) go down by half... but I might be wrong.

 

[Princess_Puddles]

I think its totally normal hun, he's mixing with alot of children now and because he obviously hasn't built up a very good immune system as he hasn't been exposed to all these bugs untill now. Him getting ill, although it's not nice, it is helping him build up that barrier and I think taking him out of nursery will stop them illnesses for now but he'll only get them when he starts to mix with children again. I know this because since Harrison started nursery in January he has a cold every week, seriously! He has also had 3 chest infections, tonsilitus and an ear infection, I've taken him to the doctors many times because of it and they always say the same, because he has started mixing with other children he is starting to build up his immune system to these bugs and that if I had have waited till he started nursery then he would have caught these things then instead.

 

[Lulubelle]

When I started teaching, in my first year I came down with so many bugs and colds, but it was all just building up my immune system. It's something every child has to go through, and surely it is beter to do that now rather than when LO starts school?

 

[Sage]

i think Princess_Puddles is right. I work in a nursery and most of the new kids get alot of coughs, colds etc to start with. Even the staff do! within the fisrt few months i was there i picked up everything but luckily since (4yrs) ive never been ill once to this date, not even a cough! so it kinda might be worth it if it helps build up his immune system!

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Yeah we've been talking and OH said he wouldn't mind if I wanted to leave work and be a SAHM again, but after thinking about it I decided I don't wanna leave work so we'll just keep things how they are.

Maybe one day in the future I'll be able to say 'Yay, Ryan hasn't been poorly for a week!'

 

[Bagpuss17]

I know it doesn't feel like it at the moment but in the long term Ryan will benefit from all these illnesses because it's building up his immune system.

The more children he can mix with the better. It's normal that they pick up every bug going to start with but it does settle down. My son was the same. A year on, he's nowhere near as sick as he used to be.

Only this week in the news it was saying the more your children can mix with large groups of other children the less chance they have of getting a certain type of leukemia because of the fact that they are building up their immune systems.

It is a pain that you have to pay regardless of whether or not they attend nursery and juggling alternative childcare whilst your child is ill but it will settle down.

 

[mrs h]

I was in the same situation as you Kirsty, Judah was constantly ill and i had to take loads of time off work and still pay for nursery so it wasnt worth me working.
Plus he was up all night screaming and i couldnt cope being up all night and then going to work.
He hasnt slept through for 5 months and i was at my wits end
I have been off work for 3 weeks now and Judah has totally changed. He no longer has a cough/cold or any bug (this also could be due to the weather tho)
He still doesnt sleep through but i can deal with it better now as i no longer have to get to work.

 

[lisa&alex]

I think its totally normal hun, he's mixing with alot of children now and because he obviously hasn't built up a very good immune system as he hasn't been exposed to all these bugs untill now. Him getting ill, although it's not nice, it is helping him build up that barrier and I think taking him out of nursery will stop them illnesses for now but he'll only get them when he starts to mix with children again. I know this because since Harrison started nursery in January he has a cold every week, seriously! He has also had 3 chest infections, tonsilitus and an ear infection, I've taken him to the doctors many times because of it and they always say the same, because he has started mixing with other children he is starting to build up his immune system to these bugs and that if I had have waited till he started nursery then he would have caught these things then instead.

hsve to completly agree it will happen when he goes to school anyways.

 

[paradysso]

Alana has been in nursery about a month now, and been ill every week but we were expecting it, and like others said it will happen in school.

It will make there immune systems stronger and it will improve

 

[paradysso]

Also when baby turns 1 your tax credits will be the same minus the baby element which is only £545 a year so you will loose about £10 a week

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Also when baby turns 1 your tax credits will be the same minus the baby element which is only £545 a year so you will loose about £10 a week

Yeah that's exactly what they've gone down by

 

[Becci]

Hi there,

Your kid could be catching the infection from the nursery too. As diarroea is generally caused by infected food. If you feel that the nursery is not clean, well ventilated and sterile enough for you child, it is time you change the nursery. I too had experienced this problem with the first nursery I put my child in. My baby was always sick with some problem or the other but things changed after I changed the nursery. I was able to kind a really good nursery close to where I live through Emergency Childcare. Maybe you can get in touch with them. Hope it is of some help to you. Bye and all the best.