SEX (sorry if TMI girls)

[PrettyFx]

Hello hello ladiesss...

(going a bit post mad these days- sorry)

I had to find out something.... Does everyone enjoy sex?! because I don't! I have been 'sexually active' for about 3 months now, and I never enjoy sex. I don't feel any discomfort, well most times, but usually... I don't enjoy sex. I do it for my husband, and obviously for the TTC thing, but its not enjoyable... Is it just me or is am i odd?!!


Please help here girls.... because I am confuzzzled!!

 

[FebMum2Be]

I have been sexually active for a few years (god that sounds awful! ) And have only truly enjoyed sex with my OH who I have been with almost 2 years.. Not right away either, once we relaxed and were comfortable with what we were doing was when I started enjoying it.. Are you nervous? x

 

[jardiggle]

I don't think you're odd at all. I definitely don't always enjoy it either!

 

[PrettyFx]

hey girls.

yeah im completely comfortable with him, i love him. I dont know, i just dont enjoy sex. the past few times we have done it, it has been slightly painful aswell... like the first time we did it, we have had a 2 weeks break from it so im thinking that may have something to do with it. lol.

maybe it will take time?

x

 

[Kezzamunster]

I thoroughly enjoy sex & have ever since I was 14, yep I was an early starter!

I have had quite a few partners as well so they have all been different but all enjoyable, it's only my partner now that has ever bought me to orgasm though so yay him

We are all different hun, doesn't make you odd or anything

xxx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Like Kezza said everyone is different hunny, i know you were feeling this way before ttc but this also can put alot of pressure on your sex life x x


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[Esperanza84]

I have always enjoyed sex as well. I think you should give it some time, and try to experiment with your DH. Find out what you like and what you don't like. Tell him you need time and that this is new to you! I'm sure you will enjoy it once you figure out what you like!

xxx

 

[dita_parlo]

I haven't always enjoyed sex, and certainly didn't enjoy it for a good few years after I lost my virginity. I think you should experiment with positions (some positions even now still hurt me) and communicate with your husband what you like and don't like xxx Also maybe try to have sex more than than every 2 weeks hun, I'm sure the more you do it the better it will get lol xxx

 

[Nurse 26]

I also havnt always enjoyed sex. It was always just OK with previous partners but now with my husband its very different and very enjoyable, i think when you are comfortable with each other and know what each other like it's great.

You are not odd, as M2A said maybe the whole TTC thing is putting pressure on you and you are not relaxing.

 

[LouiseB]

I think you just have to take more control over the situation.

To me - any discomfort is either caused by a lack of lubrication or by him penetrating too deep.

I often find i have a lack of lubrication and admittedly it is because of a lack of foreplay.

If you spend about 30 minutes kissing and touching and maybe some oral sex, then it will be much more lubricated. Not all girls can just turn it on.

The alternative is using an artificial lubricant, but it has to be a sperm friendly brand like preseed. If you don't want to tell him, you can always use a little without him knowing

If he is penetrating too deep, you have no alternative but you ask him to not go so deep. Don't be scared to stop him from getting too close with your legs.

After all that, if it still isn't the fireworks you were hoping for then try stimualting yourself with your hand while he penetrates you.

 

[PrettyFx]

Thanks girls xxx

 

[cherrybinky]

Hi hunny,

I agree with Dita and Louise.

Ive been on the pill 15 years which killed my normally massive sex drive and the partners Ive had were borrring!

However, I met my current partner a year ago who has the same sex drive as me and finds me irresistible and were both into trying anything which does help. Kissing, touching, games etc are all a huge part of it and dont think about it just get on with it and enjoy it. Spend more time exploring what DOES do it for you and and do things for your partner. Being in control is sometimes a huge turn on.
Good luck
X

 

[lrb]

I also dont always enjoy sex, and like all the other girls said, you need to try lots of different things to find out what is comfortable..
i found out when i was having physio for my back that my pelvis area is very weak.. i find it difficlult to go on top most times. I cant hold myself up or move without giving way..
And like kezzamunster.. it's only my partner now that has ever bought me to orgasm and thats because we feel sexual comfortable around each other.
Hope this helps x

 

[Maybe_mummy]

I go through phases where Im ok and then I cant be bothered I did whilst on the pill go through a long spell of only wanting to do it to please the husband and basically very little foreplay as I couldnt achieve orgasam without use of my trusty rabbit . However since coming off the pill I feel more up for it and get much more satisfaction from intercorse, so for me seems it was the pill surpresing my sex drive!

If you know what makes you feel fullfilled without your partner then introduce him to that ie if you enjoy masturbation or using toys without him let him join in by watching and then when you feel comfortable/ready let him join in to.

 

[amyjayne77]

I'm the same as you prettyfx. Lost my mojo long ago

 

[zozo]

You're soo not alone, I've been with my OH for 5 years, since we were in school, and we waited before we had sex, nearly 2 years into our relationship. We did however replace it with lots of foreplay but no actual sex. Then when we did have sex i was really disappointed, but honestly, as your sexual relationship with each other grows, you find out what your partner likes, and then BOOM. It's awesome. I'm really lucky, i'm glad I waited too cause Im glad OH has been the only one. My first everything lol But everyone is diffrent xx