Separation anxiety?

[T84]

It's kicking my ass!! Been a tough week getting my 10 month old down. Naps no bother and will go down wide awake but night is a whole other story! It's taking up to 90 mins to get her down, she will fall asleep in my arms then cry herself to sickness if I put her down again. Between doing this myself while hubby is at work, housework and my own work I'm seriously struggling. It's one sleep problem sorted and a new one starts!!

 

[StaceyRainbow]

I could have written this myself! Stanley has been so clingy with me recently, night times are now a disaster haha last night he screamed everytime I left his room. He's been poorly on and off for ages cold/viral infection/ teething/ sore bum! His sleeping is out the window and with us putting him in with us he's just expecting it now/..
No advice Jen but I feel your pain x

 

[Mummybexee]

oh Hun - it's tough isn't it

Have you tried siting next to the cot on the floor and just humming and signing a calm song

Works for Oscar and now he self settles - it's just keeping him asleep that's the problem

What's her naps like at nursery etc? Is she tired or could she be stimulated or over stimulated - do you wind her down in the evening etc? X

 

[Mackmummy]

I feel your pain! Xxxx

 

[fcroxy]

I think there's another sleep regression around 9-10 months? Could it be that? X

 

[Mummybexee]

Yea the 9 monther although never recovered from the 4 month one here - one big sleep regression haha

 

[T84]

It just feels neverending at the time eh?! She's terrible at napping any where else bar her cot so when she's at childcare she's terrible. For instance she didn't nap mon/tue but napped 2 hrs today so there's no rhyme or reason. I have to be physically touching her too Bex, it's crazy!! Night times have always been the same routine, bath bottle bed in her room since 8 weeks.

Think it's just another ride it out phase. You get over one and another starts tho eh?!

 

[Mummybexee]

Yeah not good
Have you spoken to HV about some sleep training? Or tried any of the sleeping techniques etc?

 

[StaceyRainbow]

Totally! I'm the same nothing has changed and stanley likes me to stoke his head or hand so he know I'm there I think my back has just about had it leaning over that cot for so long haha tonight has been better though he settled ok.
He also went through a phase of crying in the car when it was dark! Never used to but for about 2 weeks he would scream, but that's stopped now!

 

[T84]

Maybe this'll be the same then Stacey! My back was killing too so I've started putting my arm through the bars but the wee monkey would wake up with me pulling it back through!!

I do leave her normally if she's just moaning Bex but this is an irrational, so upset cry to the point she's actually being sick and bringing up her bottle. In the end I left her tonight and sat and ate dinner cos I was starving then it all went quiet. No rhyme or reason x

 

[StaceyRainbow]

This parenting lark is so unpredictable haha! I can't fit my arms through the bars I've tried
I did the whole leaving him to cry but when he wasn't well I kept going into him incase it was genuine. Now he's better I will be leaving him to cry again.

 

[Mummybexee]

You should go in every 10 mins apparently ? Show your face and go bCk out ?

 

[T84]

Where's the bible that tells you all this malarkey?!! Lol.

I kinda get my elbow stuck Stacey and she wakes up with me tugging it!

 

[StaceyRainbow]

I do do the every 10 mins thing depending on his cry. Sometimes I think he knows I'm guna come in sooner or later so just carries on ha

Haha Jen I've got images in my head of that its like me trying to creep out the door without standing on the squeaky floor board!

 

[T84]

We should have went to ninja training not antenatal!! Haha

 

[Kiagirl]

I had this! It was awful, we did a few weeks of her coming in our bed as it was easier but then we bit the bullet. I couldn't do cc as she would make herself sick. I started by putting a mattress on the floor next to cot and I would lie on it holding her hand through the barsuntil she fell asleep then I would creep out. Did that for 2 nights then started just laying, not touching, each night I moved the mattress a bit further until I was just near the door. I had also started giving her a bottle in bed. After 5 nights she would just lie with her bottle wide awake and I could leave her to fall asleep. It's not everyone's cup of tea but it worked for us, she didn't get upset at any point. X