sarah1
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Hi everyone - apologise now for the long post, I'm just very frustrated and upset.
So I had a call on friday from a gp - it was one I went to see a while ago and he was rude so I asked for another, but they told me last week he was the only one who could ring with blood results.
He said all my blood tests had come back fine except I have an imbalance in hormones which means I have PCOS - don't know why didn't see this on any of the scans I've had (about 20 since I was 18)
So I then asked if I could have just developed this since after my MC last year, as I've been tested for it several times and I've always been fine. He said it can't just appear but I've since read online that it can - and obviously has as I haven't had it before! Plus I got pg fairly fast last time.
So I asked what I was meant to do next. His actual words were 'Keep at it. You might eventually get pregnant.' Very positive! He said it seems quite mild PCOS. I asked when I could see a specialist he said he didn't know. He said all they could give me for it is clomid but they won't give me cos of my age and you can only take it for 6 months (I didnt know this) in your whole life. He said I could only have it towards the end of my reproductive years. I tried to say that my hubby doesn't want to be old when he's a dad (age gap) but his reply was 'well he'll keep producing healthy sperm till he's 70'. Great He also said 'you won't get given it either if you are a big girl' so I told him I had lost just under 4 stone in a year and had a healthy BMI. He then decided that it wasn't PCOS stopping me from getting pg it was cos I was starving myself! I said it had been gradual and I hadn't starved myself, just ate healthier and exercised regularly. He wouldn't have it and kind of blamed it all on me.
After asking him (again) about my scan results he set up a referral to a gyno - make clear this was only for probs I'd been having with cycles - mid month bleeding, something that might be a cyst and lots of other stuff. When I mentioned hormones being up and down he said 'well women like to blame everything on their hormones don't they? this is nothing to do with hormones so it must be something psychological'.
So I came off the phone pretty upset. I've calmed down and will deal with diff gp from now on if I can but the questions I have are:
- Why didn't anyone tell me about this a year ago after I was ill from the MC? I have spent a year back and forth to docs with the same problems
- Is the cyst in my uterus anything to with PCOS? again why wasn't I treated for this a year ago? ( I was given antibiotics for 'infections' then told to go away and keep trying)
- If pcos 'can't just appear', how did I get pg easy when I was fat, but now I'm thin I can't get pg?
- How can I keep my weight down but eat lots more (he said I had to keep my energy levels up) the minute I have a day where I eat a lot more I put on a few pounds, plus I'm just not that hungry.
- How do I cope with having PCOS - irregular cycles etc - is there any way to treat it?
- When can I see a fertility specialist? I was told by the other gp I'd get referred.
The gyno I am going to see is also the fertility specialist for the area so I can maybe ask him a few questions, but I just feel very confused and meeved at my gp's - if I had known all this a year ago I'd have been saved a lot of stress.
I know I'd have big probs with side effects from clomid even if they'd let me take it - I can't take pain killers without having an attack of IBS, and I once took the pill and felt awful all the time. Any tips from anyone with PCOS?? I don't know anything about it!
I just want an appointment with someone to ask these questions. I feel like I'm stuck in rut here and not sure where to go next. Hate gp man - he's so rude to me, and talks like its all my fault.
Thanks - again sorry for long post. Love to all xxxx
So I had a call on friday from a gp - it was one I went to see a while ago and he was rude so I asked for another, but they told me last week he was the only one who could ring with blood results.
He said all my blood tests had come back fine except I have an imbalance in hormones which means I have PCOS - don't know why didn't see this on any of the scans I've had (about 20 since I was 18)
So I then asked if I could have just developed this since after my MC last year, as I've been tested for it several times and I've always been fine. He said it can't just appear but I've since read online that it can - and obviously has as I haven't had it before! Plus I got pg fairly fast last time.
So I asked what I was meant to do next. His actual words were 'Keep at it. You might eventually get pregnant.' Very positive! He said it seems quite mild PCOS. I asked when I could see a specialist he said he didn't know. He said all they could give me for it is clomid but they won't give me cos of my age and you can only take it for 6 months (I didnt know this) in your whole life. He said I could only have it towards the end of my reproductive years. I tried to say that my hubby doesn't want to be old when he's a dad (age gap) but his reply was 'well he'll keep producing healthy sperm till he's 70'. Great He also said 'you won't get given it either if you are a big girl' so I told him I had lost just under 4 stone in a year and had a healthy BMI. He then decided that it wasn't PCOS stopping me from getting pg it was cos I was starving myself! I said it had been gradual and I hadn't starved myself, just ate healthier and exercised regularly. He wouldn't have it and kind of blamed it all on me.
After asking him (again) about my scan results he set up a referral to a gyno - make clear this was only for probs I'd been having with cycles - mid month bleeding, something that might be a cyst and lots of other stuff. When I mentioned hormones being up and down he said 'well women like to blame everything on their hormones don't they? this is nothing to do with hormones so it must be something psychological'.
So I came off the phone pretty upset. I've calmed down and will deal with diff gp from now on if I can but the questions I have are:
- Why didn't anyone tell me about this a year ago after I was ill from the MC? I have spent a year back and forth to docs with the same problems
- Is the cyst in my uterus anything to with PCOS? again why wasn't I treated for this a year ago? ( I was given antibiotics for 'infections' then told to go away and keep trying)
- If pcos 'can't just appear', how did I get pg easy when I was fat, but now I'm thin I can't get pg?
- How can I keep my weight down but eat lots more (he said I had to keep my energy levels up) the minute I have a day where I eat a lot more I put on a few pounds, plus I'm just not that hungry.
- How do I cope with having PCOS - irregular cycles etc - is there any way to treat it?
- When can I see a fertility specialist? I was told by the other gp I'd get referred.
The gyno I am going to see is also the fertility specialist for the area so I can maybe ask him a few questions, but I just feel very confused and meeved at my gp's - if I had known all this a year ago I'd have been saved a lot of stress.
I know I'd have big probs with side effects from clomid even if they'd let me take it - I can't take pain killers without having an attack of IBS, and I once took the pill and felt awful all the time. Any tips from anyone with PCOS?? I don't know anything about it!
I just want an appointment with someone to ask these questions. I feel like I'm stuck in rut here and not sure where to go next. Hate gp man - he's so rude to me, and talks like its all my fault.
Thanks - again sorry for long post. Love to all xxxx