really upset about other people pregnancy

[Maximus17]

hiya so this woman at work is pregnant again! I mean she only had her first baby like a year ago. When I noticed she is pregnant I got so upset and didn't even want to talk to her and avoided her completely. Anyone also get sad to hear other people pregnant? sooo annoyed and upset that I can't get pregnant

 

[xMillie]

All the time

I've lost count of the people on Facebook who's posts I've got set to hidden because I don't need to see or hear that they've got yet another baby on the way while I still have NONE.

I find it so so hard to be happy for people and it sucks

 

[Maximus17]

it's a really strange feeling to see other people pregnant especially people at work, arghhh how I wish to be pregnant now
I really hope it will happen for us too soon. My fertile week this month around the corner and I am getting my hopes again and will try and try, but I am really losing my hope nowadays, we are doing everything right, ovulating, no fertility problems but still no baby. I wish these pregnant women will disappear until I get pregnant ...

 

[Phillipa]

I can relate.
A friend of mine recently announced her pregnancy on Facebook after her 12 week scan. I've known since the get go, and even though I'm happy for her and her husband, it's really hard to see. I feel bad because I couldn't even bring myself to comment congrats on her post. She got pregnant on her 2nd go, and even though my husband and I are now in our 5th month of trying, it's still really hard, especially when this is something I've wanted since I can remember.

I'm due to ovulate in a couple of days, so I'm hoping for a new year miracle!! Fingers crossed!!

Best of luck girls! xx

 

[Alexis2017]

Yup all the time for me too. Same thinh happened to me twice in work recently. So hard not to get upset. Plus about every 2nd post on facebook is a girl announcing they are pregnant... I don't think tbere can be anyone left bar me now. Hugs to you! Just remember your not alone here x

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

It's so hard. I just have to keep telling myself they don't know what you are thinking so they don't mean to be tactless.

I went to a baby shower recently of someone who got married same year as us and in jest she said your turn next and then said I can't give you any tips on conciveing cos we went away for the weekend and got pissed and bam job done. I could have cried or screamed there and then x

 

[Maximus17]

I think it’s the shock to find out someone else is pregnant. Just I get used to it I find out someone else is pregnant

 

[Frankinstein12]

There are 7 pregnant ladies at work all due similar times next year. Yep you read that right, 7! Haha
And you know, it’s really nice watching their bellies grow, getting to feel their bumps and being part of their journey. At the end of the day, it’s a new life and I’m super excited for them all. They all have their own TTC journeys some really sad, so it’s nice to just be supportive, they are of my fertility problems.
Xx

 

[MoominGirl]

Some days, I'm fine but in general, I do find it difficult being around people who are pregnant. Although I don't necessarily know, I find it more difficult around those who I perceive to have 'had it easy'. Obviously I can never know for sure but there's something about someone who's recently married or makes comments suggesting it's easy that just gives off that message. I could be completely wrong of course!!

I don't do Facebook etc as I don't want the good news of someone I barely keep in touch with shoved in my face when I've had a bad day. I want to be happy for others but it's very, very difficult and it doesn't make me feel particularly good about myself but it is what it is I try to find a balance between being pleasantly interested while protecting my own feelings but it's hard.

We've been off contraception for nearly 3 years but really it's the last year that I've found has changed emotionally for me. Before that, I was pretty chilled but now I'm at a point where I just don't see it ever happening so it's very difficult to see it comes so easily for other people.

 

[Frankinstein12]

I do understand, it felt not so much difficult but just a bit frustrating going into the newborn centre today for an appointment I had with the gyneachologist and seeing lots of new mums etc
I do find it easier if the pregnant person is a friend or family more than anything because they understand my problems and I enjoy their support

X

 

[Elven]

Definitely. In general I'm happy for them, but sometimes I can't help but feel particularly sad and disappointed that they're pregnant and I'm not.

One of my colleague's had a baby a few months ago, and I had to unfollow her on Facebook because it just depressed me too much. I'm happy she's happy, but I didn't feel like having something I don't have brought up constantly.

 

[CDK500]

I am really glad I’m not the only one. I hate how jealousy makes me feel.
I’ve really been struggling this month particularly too. When the conversations in work are about babies I can’t even bring myself to join in, it’s just too difficult. And people talk about it so flippantly too.

It always seems everyone else around me falls pregnant so easily - though like MoonminGirl said it’s just speculation on my part. Just bothers me so much when they’re “accidents”.

I’ve cried so much this month over it, I just can’t help it. I try to go about my day but i just keep having random bouts where it hits me and my eyes flood with tears. I think I’m just coming to terms with the fact it may never happen.


Not sure why this month has hit me so hard - love to try and get a bit more optimism in my life!! Hopefully everyone here will get their BFP’s soon.

Do feel like I needed a good rant though

 

[MoominGirl]

Ranting on here helps so much!!

I've had a bad few months emotionally but I seem to be coming out the other side again. I'm probably the most negative I've ever been but it's helping me towards a sort of acceptance of our situation despite how crap it is. I'm a lot less stressed overall and I'm feeling a lot better for it. I try to discreetly avoid baby talk as much as I can. I can deal with children and talking about them its pregnancy in particular I just can't deal with.

 

[Maximus17]

Hiya just catching up with this forum. I found out yesterday my close colleague is pregnant and she just got married!!! I am in shock to be honest. Seriously why doesn’t it happen for us so quick. Like you said I feel like it’s not going to happen for us even though we haven’t been trying that long. It’s my fertile week now but I didn’t even lay down after BD as I can’t be bothered anymore those things just gets my hopes up. I should be ovulation in 5 days but not even going to try to do it every day this month. It’s sooo hard seeing pregnant women though all I keep thinking wish it was me all glowing and growing a belly. Also my mum told me that it took her 2 years to get pregnant with me, 3 years with my sister!!! So I hope it’s not genetic !

 

[liz85]

I get sad all the time to the point I can’t go see anyone’s baby. I think people will think I’m selfish but they don’t understand the un bearable pain of not being a mother is. I totally understand we’re you are coming from.

 

[PeanutButter]

I used to be like that, now I have a baby I feel guilty when Ikno people are ttc because I know how much it hurts. My cousin didn't come to the family party because I was there with dd, made me feel so upset for her, she's been ttc for 10 years and has also had many mcs The Xmas before we were both sat talking about it. Now she doesn't even come to stuff, doesn't have me on FB anymore :/
You will get your babies. Xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

I used to be like that, now I have a baby I feel guilty when Ikno people are ttc because I know how much it hurts. My cousin didn't come to the family party because I was there with dd, made me feel so upset for her, she's been ttc for 10 years and has also had many mcs The Xmas before we were both sat talking about it. Now she doesn't even come to stuff, doesn't have me on FB anymore :/
You will get your babies. Xx

Aww that's so awful for her I feel the same. I love checking in and stalking all my ttc friends on here but have the guilt then that I might be coming across as insensitive by showing up xx

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[KatD]

I used to be like that, now I have a baby I feel guilty when Ikno people are ttc because I know how much it hurts. My cousin didn't come to the family party because I was there with dd, made me feel so upset for her, she's been ttc for 10 years and has also had many mcs The Xmas before we were both sat talking about it. Now she doesn't even come to stuff, doesn't have me on FB anymore :/
You will get your babies. Xx

Aww that's so awful for her I feel the same. I love checking in and stalking all my ttc friends on here but have the guilt then that I might be coming across as insensitive by showing up xx

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Never! It's good to have you drop by. Wouldn't want it any other way xxx

 

[KatD]

I think it is really hard for anyone to feel genuine happiness for someone who has what they want but can't have. The fact that each of us try our best is good enough for me.

It's really hard for me to be happy too when someone says, 'oh, no, it was just like our first, we had it on the first try.' Or, 'I wouldn't be able to give you any advice, we never tried more than two cycles before we got ours.' Recently I had to face the fact that now all of a sudden I am possibly not even ovulating...slap in the face, much?

None of us are crap people because we dream of being moms. We try our best not to allow our emotions of getting in the way, but can't help but flinch when the announcements come at us like daggers.

I'm just grateful I've got you ladies for support. It means a lot xxx

 

[Fela]

I definitely felt this way after my miscarriage. We went to the 1st birthday party of the daughter of our uni friend, I was sat there 2 weeks post miscarriage next to one friend who can't have children and another who had a very tragic loss a few years ago justdrinking gin and surrounded by babies.... I felt like a failure... then there was the old "your turn next" stuff happening which made it even worse.

It's definitely made me think very differently about how I will share my news should this be a sticky bean for me, we may announce on FB but not with a scan, probably in a jokey way and from then on until the birth I'm planning to avoid any pregnancy related updates, I know how they can hurt others....