Rant

[Sk8erzeh]

I'm going through a really hard time right now. I've been on this journey for 2 years now and to be honest, I'm exhausted. I'm tired of setting myself up for disappointment every month, tired of the vitamins and poas. Everyone around me is having unplanned babies, including my irresponsible teenage niece (2nd baby). My OH is so calm about everything but then again, he's not the emotional type anyway. I just wanna scream!
Sorry for the negative post. I just really needed to vent

 

[Donna88]

Vent away, sometimes it's good to get it out.

It can be so hard when we're trying and you can guarantee everyone around you will be having babies when it's what you want. I don't think that will ever get easier.

I know it's easy to say this than do it, but try not to judge (possibly the wrong word) or even think about other people's circumstances when they get pregnant. Even if people tell you it was an accident (which I'll be honest I find very odd, I don't know if I would announce that to everyone unless the circumstances were exceptional) but they are having their own journey and as unfair as it is (and I will say as it is, and not as it seems) they will also be having their own difficulties.

Wishing you all the best for your baby making future, I hope it isn't much longer until you receive your BFP xx

 

[UpseyDaisy]

It's so infuriating when you want something so badly and others seem so blasé about it. Really hope things work out for you.

 

[Sk8erzeh]

Thanks ladies. I just want this day to be over

 

[anon123]

I had the exact same rant earlier in the week! It feels better to let it out to people that understand! It's a tough journey but will be worth it in the end! Fingers crossed and positive thoughts being sent your way x x x

 

[PeanutButter]

It took us 2 years and several losses to. I lost twins in November and then had to go to a family Xmas party (before I found out I was preg with this one) and I had a fkin break down... there was so many babies from family who don't even care for them. Also my first pregnancy was due in June 16 and sadly lost... then my cousin announced her pregnancy and we had the exact same due date :/ and so I was faced with seeing what I should have had at the party to. Needless to say we left early.

You just need to remember you will get your baby. It seems hard now but eventually you'll get there and they will definitely be worth the wait. I honestly started giving up thinking we'd have a baby, I was looking into adoption and all sorts and then this little miss came and stayed! X

 

[_GG_]

Oh bless you. Oh and I have been waiting to try for 9.5 years. I'm now possibly losing this pregnancy, too early to scan so I just have to wait and see.
One of my dearest friends, due early August said that it won't be hard as it's not a baby yet, too early to be a baby so nothing to get upset about. Inside, I wanted to scream. I've lost at 14 weeks before and when you're so desperate for a baby, get positive tests and then have bleeding, they are not the words you want to hear.
Then I thought that actually, she did get pregnant first time trying, had sickness but no complications and as I love her dearly, I'm glad that she has this slightly niave perspective as I'd hate to see her in the pain that many of us ladies know.
I also know that her words weren't meant in a mean way...just her way of trying to get me ready to move on and try again.

We all deserve a good rant from time to time, venting out our anger, fear, frustration and I do think that it's best to just feel happy for others that it's worked for them but.............

.........we all absolutely reserve the right behind closed doors to say that it's not f***ing fair and wonder why it's us that draw the short straw.

So, have your rant, you deserve it and I send you huge squishy hugs and cwtches. Xx

 

[Donna88]

^^Wow I can't believe she said that, but it's good that you could see past the hurtful comments and see that there intention was not that way.

Try and stay relaxed (easier said than done), I'm sending all my good thoughts your way, really hope when the wait and see period passes it turns out your baby is still hanging in there and just putting you through some extra stress.


I've just had another pregnancy announcement, really happy for them... but also quite jealous we can't start trying yet. Especially because even when we do start I know there's a short time frame we can fall in before we have to put it all on hold again because of my studies. but I suppose all that is better than not trying at all until I graduate

 

[PeanutButter]

What a cruel thing to say people don't really get it until they've been through it imo.
It was still your baby, you didn't see it like that, and then you get the disappointment of not having that baby and loosing everything you thought was going to be. It's frustrating!
Feel better soon hun x

 

[liz85]

I have been on the ttc journey for 18months. I have never experienced a positive pregnancy test before. I find myself getting upset every month. Everyone needs to rant now and again. It's an emotional roller coaster that no one understands until you experience it yourself. I hope you get good news very soon x

 

[LuckyLaura]

Hi,

I know I haven't been on this site very long but I really hope you are feeling better than when you wrote your original post. I am new to the ttc journey however reading everyones stories and hopes and fears on this forum really has opened my eyes to how strong and amazing every one is- you included xxx