Pulling up a chair ....

[tweetyfoo]

I’m a PF alumni and while I don’t really belong in here I thought I’d pull up a chair anyway because I feel like I’m in limbo

My husband and I have two beautiful boys age 5 and 3. 2 kids always felt like enough until about 6 months ago for me.

Since then I’ve been desperate for another but had not said anything as I knew hubby was done.

Last night I “asked” if we could have another and got a definite never and I respect that and will not try to convince him otherwise. I am completely devastated though. I do t know why but I really thought he would say yes. I’ve led all the ttc up to now and he’s just “gone along”.

I don’t expect him to ever change his mind and I certainly won’t be asking him to. But I’m going to sit in here with a glass of wine and some cake just in case

Actually wine and cake be damned - I’m wanting to shift a bit of weight and get into tip top shape “just in case”

Is anyone else in the same boat or is this a one man canoe?

 

[jennyQ12]

Hi tweetyfoo im in exactly the same boat! We have 2 boys 3 and 6 months and I was 100% sure I was done when I was pregnant with the second, even had hubby booked in for the snip! (Which I made him cancel!) But then when I'd had him and snuggled a newborn again I realised I still want more!! Hubby has always been really good and gone along with whatever I want but he does say he's done and doesn't want anymore 😩 and if I'm honest I don't really know if I do or don't want anymore. If I'm practical about it I'd say we would be financially better only with two, and life would be easier if we stayed as we are, but at the same time my hearts telling me Just one more!

So pass the wine and we can wait together 😊

 

[Emily0505]

Hi hun! Lovely to see you back! Hope your boys are well?

I had our second in May and I never thought we'd have another! Hubby had said no to a second, given it serious thought and still a no. I left it at that and a while later was taking photos of our travel system to sell it. Hubby asked why I was doing that and when I replied that we obviously weren't going to need it and I knew of someone who may buy it, he shocked me completely by saying we could have another baby!! It was a tough journey to get her with nearly two years and three miscarriages before I fell pregnant with her and we kept going through it all so I know he was certainly on board. He's booked in for the snip now though so she'll definitely be our last regardless.

I never thought he'd change his mind but he did! Hopefully your hubby will too.

XX

 

[kim88]

Hi tweetyfoo. I recognise your name from when I was on here with my first around 2012/13 ? I’m in exactly the same boat, if my partner turned round and said let’s have another I’d be made up but I think he’s done. I have a 4 YO and 1YO and like you thought I would be done but it’s all I think about lately! Financially and practically I should be done but it still doesn’t stop the feeling of want! So who knows what will happen in the future but pass me a chair and lets wait and see hah. Xx

 

[Becky1]

Similar situation here too, 4yr old and 2yr old always said 2 but now I kind of want another. I really love newborn snuggles and feel so sad at the thought of never having another baby, never being pregnant again, never feeling babies kicks etc. Hubby says no more, I think having two stresses him out enough! Financially I know 3 would be a push - we

 

[linxminx21]

Hiya tweetyfoo.
How's your boys doing? I think of Aaron and his little journey a lot around this time of year! Hope your all doing well.
I cm got two. 12 and 6. One of each sex so iv been very lucky. So it's not even longing for a specific sex of baby that's driving me.
Financially it will be a struggle to have another baby at the beginning and with the amount of stuff id need to re buy. I saved nothing... Because 2 children, one of each, was all I could ever want... Untill about 6 months ago.
I'm lucky in the respect that my oh either wants another... Or is saying it to keep me happy!
He has been looking at prams ect and me not telling him too though.
I'm month 2 ttc and just ovulated.
I never thought he would come round to the idea either.
I really hope oh changes his mind..
Lots of love and hope you have an amazing Xmas x x

 

[russellmuscle]

We are in WTT again.

I was told no more after Jackson.

I think Id like about the same gap as the boys - so we wont be actively TTC for a few year yet. OH swings in round abouts, sometimes its never and then the other day he hinted that it "wasn't up to him" - so we are good for a 3 but just not right now.

Guys change their minds loads - 2 for some is really enough though. I was asked that the other day actually by someone "isn't 2 more than enough?!" I guess it depends on who you ask

Fx he changes his mind.

Cx

 

[Princess81]

Ah hello!! A face nearly as old as mine around here! I want 2 more, o/h is on board but I think we will be in the other boat that he wants loads of kids but I want 2 in quick succession and then done!

 

[tweetyfoo]

Wow! Hello, lots of familiar faces. The boys are great thanks for asking. Aaron is in school and is doing really well. Scott is my wild child and is full of beans and mischief, but he's a proper mummy's boy and loves cuddles too!

We've since had eleventy million chats and it's a confirmed never from him.

I'm struggling with it much much more than I ever anticipated and all I want is for him to say yes.

it's honestly breaking my heart that I'll never do the baby thing again.

 

[Princess81]

Aw really? I’m guessing you’ve articulated how much it means to you. Really didficult position to see that you’re not done. I don’t know what to suggest Hun x

 

[Mrs CW]

It’s so hard being in that position. I knew after our 2nd I wanted a 3rd but my husband was a firm no so I left it. We had a happy accident in April which sadly ended in a missed mc but it showed me that I definitely want a 3rd. My DH saw how much I wanted that baby and after a lot of discussions we have decided to try again in the new year. It is possible for them to change their minds x

 

[netty]

hey tweety!

i really hope you manage to get your wish! so good to hear aaron is doing so well and that you've had another baby!

 

[Donna88]

I hope he does change his mind for you,

I think others are right men seems to change their mind quite often