Pros and Cons of finding out babys sex

[Piglet's Mama]

My lovely aunt has offered to pay for a 4D scan for us but hubby and I think babies look a little bit like aliens on the 4D...! Plus it's nearly £140... gulp!

We were going to ask if instead she would pay for us to find out the sex which is about £79 but then I can't decide if I want to know or not...

The pros are that we can buy the right clothes, bits for the nursery, and just be better prepared in general but then by the same token, the surprise would be lovely at the end...

For you ladies that did find out, why did you want to? And for the ladies that didn't, why did you want the surprise?

Thanks all xxx

 

[tinytoes]

I didnt find out with my last . I wanted to but oh didn't so we didn't . In the end I was glad I had that amazing moment waiting to hear "it's a girl" . There I's also the selfish reasons of if I had told everyone it would have taken away the excitement when she was born . Xxx

 

[jld123]

I've always known with my first that I'd find out. I see it like this ; I have never felt the feeling of being pregnant before, so this is a suprise. I have never had a scan before that shows another human growing inside of me, so this is a suprise. I've never had a bump & felt the amazing movement of my own little person before, so this is also a surprise & I have never felt the feeling of being in labour or giving birth before, so this is a surpise. Its nice to know one thing, and that is that im doing it all for my baby GIRL

Second time round, we wont find out

 

[clairebear22]

We always said we'd find out, even whilst TTC. Our reasons were basically because we're too nosey to wait and we have a very low budget with us both being self employed so we wanted to have everything before he arrives and have his room decorated etc, rather than having to buy everything in neutral and then buying stuff for theright sex once he's born.

Plus its nice saying 'he' or 'our baby boy' instead of it!

 

[heidi-hi]

We aren't finding out... the main reason being a bit like tinytoes mentioned. Growing up and imagining pregnancy and labour i always imagined being told by OH 'its a boy' or 'its a girl' a bit like u see in films! Haha wishful thinking i know but i really cant wait for that moment. Also i love surprises and i really don't mind the sex of this baby as long as he/she is healthy.

I can completely understand peoples reasons for finding out... lots of people say to me, it will be different with your second u will want to find out but i realllly dont think i will. Dont hold me to that but if im luckily enough to become pregnant again i think i will be the same and want my OH to tell me again!

xxx

 

[Lou_1]

i never found out on my first but this time i did really only as it would save a lot of money in the long run i think with it being our second we wanted to buy the right couloured clothes and things this time round and basically because i am so impatient is unreal... On the other hand now i wish i had waited as someone said all the excitment of not knowing is gone

 

[snr1982]

I didn't with my first and not going to with my second mainly because I love surprises and it will give me something to focus on in labour & to take my mind of the pain.. ! Also because either way I'm happy so I don't see the point in paying out all that money when I'm going to know what it is eventually.

 

[midnight]

ive experienced doing both and its easier knowing and i felt like ive already bonding before hand and tbh you still check the sex when born to make sure just in case lol

 

[KellyHook]

I didnt find out with my first.. only because they didnt tell you at my hospital then, and just never got round to booking a gender scan.. otherwise i would!
But i am finding out this time.. i could go find out on the 28th feb which isnt long away, but think we going to wait till 20wk scan and see if they can see and if they can't then we will pay for a scan after!!

 

[xshauna_bazx]

I found out i dunno how anyone can wait lol. Not a great deal of clothes to choose from either x

 

[Rachey]

I found out, I didn't plan to but I got too nosey lol! I think it's been good for OH knowing, it kind of helps him to bond a bit? Like cause he can think of baby as his son rather than 'the baby' or 'it'..I've loved being able to buy little blue outfits too rather than all cream means you only need to think about either a girl/boy name too!

I think it's great that some people can wait until baby arrives though, having someone say 'it's a girl' or 'it's a boy' would be amazing x

 

[heidi-hi]

I loveee all the neutral clothes, ive seen loads of nice stuff... im not gonna go mad buying it though, im just getting enough for first day or two coz i know when the baby comes i will just go out and buy the colours depending on the sex! I love all the neutral themed stuff too, on the downside to some of the neutral 'play' things though is on the reviews it says the neutral isnt stimulating enough and the people babies got bored easily!

xxx

 

[midnight]

babies see white, black and red the best so these are the best colours for any visual stimulation

 

[heidi-hi]

Ooo interesting! Im gonna be on the lookout for those colours now xx

 

[midnight]

http://www.lamazetoys.co.uk/lamaze-contrast-37-c.asp contrasting lamaze

 

[heidi-hi]

I have been looking at these on the babies r us website! Going on the weekend so will have a proper look then xx

 

[amandapanda]

I was absolutely sure that I wouldn't find out - really wanted that suprise at the end, think it must be the most magical thing ever!! But then I developed problems with my pregnancy and was admitted to hospital, they told me my placenta could rupture at any time and I could collapse and need an emergency c section - in which case I'd be unconscious! So when they told me that there was a big chance that I was not going to have that normal delivery and lovely 'it's a...' announcement, I decided to find out after 27 weeks of holding out!!

It's definitely nice to be able to say he and my boy etc, rather than it, but I do feel I'm missing out on that amazing suprise at the end....especially now they've told me I might actually be able to have a normal birth after all!! xxxx

 

[heidi-hi]

I was absolutely sure that I wouldn't find out - really wanted that suprise at the end, think it must be the most magical thing ever!! But then I developed problems with my pregnancy and was admitted to hospital, they told me my placenta could rupture at any time and I could collapse and need an emergency c section - in which case I'd be unconscious! So when they told me that there was a big chance that I was not going to have that normal delivery and lovely 'it's a...' announcement, I decided to find out after 27 weeks of holding out!!

It's definitely nice to be able to say he and my boy etc, rather than it, but I do feel I'm missing out on that amazing suprise at the end....especially now they've told me I might actually be able to have a normal birth after all!! xxxx

Amanda... I didnt even realise u had found out the sex... Congratulations! Aww thats lovely. I think i would have done the exact same in your position, sounds a bit petty but id probably be gutted if i was unconcious and come round to find out other people knew the sex before me! I realise oh will know before me in labour but i can let him off for a few seconds! Congratulations again xxx

 

[hopefulmummy]

I have never wanted to find out - I understand all the logical reasons behind wanting to, but emotionally I cannot understand why people would want to be told beforehand!

Personally I would have felt that I had missed out on a big part of becoming a mother by not having the sex revealed in the delivery room.

Also, I would hate to be told, "I'm pretty sure it's a boy/girl." I would hold onto that 1% that may not be right. It's only an edacated guess, after all, and I know a few people who've been told one thing and then after the birth they realise it was not a girl all along, and it's a boy (or vice versa).

 

[amandapanda]

I was absolutely sure that I wouldn't find out - really wanted that suprise at the end, think it must be the most magical thing ever!! But then I developed problems with my pregnancy and was admitted to hospital, they told me my placenta could rupture at any time and I could collapse and need an emergency c section - in which case I'd be unconscious! So when they told me that there was a big chance that I was not going to have that normal delivery and lovely 'it's a...' announcement, I decided to find out after 27 weeks of holding out!!

It's definitely nice to be able to say he and my boy etc, rather than it, but I do feel I'm missing out on that amazing suprise at the end....especially now they've told me I might actually be able to have a normal birth after all!! xxxx

Amanda... I didnt even realise u had found out the sex... Congratulations! Aww thats lovely. I think i would have done the exact same in your position, sounds a bit petty but id probably be gutted if i was unconcious and come round to find out other people knew the sex before me! I realise oh will know before me in labour but i can let him off for a few seconds! Congratulations again xxx

Exactly Heidi!! And thanks for the congratulations xxx