Pregnant after 2 Miscarriages - Updated from 13 week scan!

[charlie26]

Hi leannesxb

Yes certainly. I am not telling anybody (family & friends) my news until i am 12 weeks, only me and my husband know. Last time i made the mistake of telling everybody which made it increadabily difficult when i had a mc.

I am going to the Doctors today to ask for an early scan, i dont think i can wait till 12weeks. x

 

[Hope81]

I had a mmc too and I a dreading the next time I will be pregnant. A few friends knew about this and made it so difficult after the mc.
Next time around I will not even tell to my parents. I am even thinking to tell to my oh after the 6 weeks maybe and not immediately lol.
Bit I completely get it how scared you are.

 

[leannesxb]

I am not telling anyone as I couldn't bare the thought of telling anyone again if things go wrong plus I have a 13 year old and this will all be confusing enough without telling him and then having to explain if something goes wrong.

I spoke to my doc about my concerns and fears and I am booked in for a early scan (if I make it to 7 wks) at the hospital. Its a good idea to push for one I can't wait but dreading it at the same time. Got such a fear of getting there and them telling me there is no heartbeart. I am keeping myself calm at the mo by poas everyday on ebay cheapies. Providing I see a bfp everyday I am ok.

 

[charlie26]

Everyday is a mile stone. I am going to the midwife next week and im going to push for an early scan if not ill end up paying for one.

Its hard keeping it a secret but its best for everyone. I want to go to sleep and wake up in 7 week

xx

Hi hope81,

a mc is the worst thing any person could ever suffer, i wouldnt wish it on any1. My midwife told me today every pregnancyis differnt so just hang in there and dont be lifting etc, and eat well. so thats what i will be doing esspecially in these early weeks. When did you mc? x

 

[Verity2011]

Hello all, just thought a quick update was in order as you have all been so supportive. I had my 13 week scan yesterday and thankfully everything was fine. The baby was doing little wrestling moves, stretching out their hands and fingers and generally being very cute and active. My poor OH came into the hospital this time but sat in the cafe so whilst I got to find out straight away all was ok, he had to wait for 40 minutes!

Anyway we're thrilled although still only quietly excited - hoping that I will start feeling more confident once I can actually start feeling the baby move. But it is a massive relief so for all you ladies who are still waiting on your 12week scans and early scans, that relief will come - please update us on how everything is going.

P.S. Welcome to Leanne and Charlie - you will get lots of support here!

 

[dyscochick]

Verity thats fabulous news, I'm so so happy for you all!
xx

 

[charlie26]

thank you hun, i wish i would have joined this in may when i had my mc. Hopefully i should get a scan in a couple of week xx

 

[So_hopeful81]

Hi, it's so great to hear all of the positive news on here. I really understand. In the last year I have had 2 Mmc's and decided at that point that I couldn't go through it all again. However, I found out 2 weeks ago that I was pregnant again. Unlike 'normal' people I cried for a week out of fear about this 'wonderful' news!!!

I have an early scan tomorrow, at what the midwife believes will be 6 weeks 5 days. Again, unlike so called 'normal' people, I am terrified and my brain has almost already started to accept the loss of this pregnancy and I feel like I want it all to just be over. Every pain, twinge or cramp that I feel in my lower abdomen I see as negative. I have no other symptom ( no sickness, no sore breasts, not tired!) and it almost is making me feel like I'm not pregnant at all.

I just feel so negative I don't really know what to do. I think that if the result tomorrow is a bad one, I am going to have a coil fitted, because I simply cannot go through this fear again!

Does anyone else feel like this?

 

[Nurse 26]

Hi, it's so great to hear all of the positive news on here. I really understand. In the last year I have had 2 Mmc's and decided at that point that I couldn't go through it all again. However, I found out 2 weeks ago that I was pregnant again. Unlike 'normal' people I cried for a week out of fear about this 'wonderful' news!!!

I have an early scan tomorrow, at what the midwife believes will be 6 weeks 5 days. Again, unlike so called 'normal' people, I am terrified and my brain has almost already started to accept the loss of this pregnancy and I feel like I want it all to just be over. Every pain, twinge or cramp that I feel in my lower abdomen I see as negative. I have no other symptom ( no sickness, no sore breasts, not tired!) and it almost is making me feel like I'm not pregnant at all.

I just feel so negative I don't really know what to do. I think that if the result tomorrow is a bad one, I am going to have a coil fitted, because I simply cannot go through this fear again!

Does anyone else feel like this?

Hey hun, i am in a similar situation to you, i had 2 MMC and pregnant for the 3rd time, i had an early scan last friday and everything looks good, heartbeat at 7+1, it was terrifying but so worth it. Hope it all goes well for you let us know.

xx

 

[benjis mum]

yeah felt just the same. I had an early scan at 6 weeks and because there wasn't a heartbeat they asked me to come back in 2 weeks. I led on the bed with my eyes closed so tightly, when the sonographer said i can see a heartbeat, i burst into tears, partly through relief and joy but also fear, now it had a heartbeat it was real, but would I be able to keep it safe inside me.... then a bit of bleeding meant a scan at 11 weeks and there was a healthy lively baby!! But again i couldn't look, i was so scared. I've now reached the magic 12 weeks but still don't feel confident to tell people or allow myself to feel pregnant (even though i've got a massive bump already) I've got a 13 week scan for next monday and really hope I feel a bit more confident after that.....

 

[So_hopeful81]

Thank you so much benjis mum and nurse 26. You have defo given me some hope. I will let you know how it goes tomorrow. My fingers (toes and anything else possible) are crossed!

All the best with your stories too. Please keep me informed on how you are getting on! Xxx

 

[So_hopeful81]

Well, I had my scan. They think I'm 6.5 weeks and there was a little heartbeat- so right now, everything is normal! Fingers crossed it stays like that. Xxx

 

[Verity2011]

That's great news! And as you know a very very positive sign! I completely understand how you're feeling, mmcs are so difficult and I felt pretty hopeless too after my second, I think you and all the other women going through the emotional turbulence of pregnancy again are extremely brave and I have everything crossed for all of you.

Hopefully the time will go quickly between scans and you will get to 12 weeks soon. I'd like to say I'm completely relieved after my 13 week scan but I am still worried everyday but I'm sure it will get easier and I have started to feel able to engage with the pregnancy more now. I'm sure we'll never feel as relaxed as we would if we hadn't had our mcs but it also means we don't take anything for granted and we really do cherish it.

Good luck lovely ladies and let us know when your next scans are scheduled. Are they soon? xxxxxxx

 

[Nurse 26]

Well, I had my scan. They think I'm 6.5 weeks and there was a little heartbeat- so right now, everything is normal! Fingers crossed it stays like that. Xxx

Thats great news congrats!!! xxx

 

[benjis mum]

Hurray! Really pleased everything looked good! Try to relax (I'm good at telling others to do it!!) and hopefully the next few weeks will go quickly for you!

 

[So_hopeful81]

Thank you everyone. It's so good to know that we are all supporting each other.
I will keep everyone updated. Hope you all do too. Xxxx

 

[dyscochick]

great news, everything crossed for you for the future xx

 

[So_hopeful81]

Just out of interest, I wondered how everyone is getting on?
I'm on holiday at the moment and unfortunately, I feel like my negative state of mind is spoiling my fun quite a lot! Worse than that, I am concerned that it's ruining my fiance and daughters fun too!
I might try to book a private scan for when I get home, if I have no bad signs before then!

 

[Nurse 26]

Hey hun, i had another scan today at 9+4 and all is well

When is your next scan booked for? you could try phoning the EPU when you get back and asking for another scan, they have been very good to me and given them as reassurance.

Hope your having a nice time try not to worry, i know its impossible but you had a good scan already that a great sign

 

[So_hopeful81]

Hi Nurse,
I am back from my holiday- and still as yet, I 'appear' to be OK. My fiance today has booked a private scan for me on the 6th September. I think I should be a little over 10 weeks if I manage to get there- so that hopefully (fingers crossed) might make me feel better!
I have a midwife appointment on Sunday morning, and I think I will inform her about the panic that I am putting myself through and see if there is anything she can suggest! It's just such a daunting time!

I am so pleased to hear of your news! It's wonderful to know that your bump is continuing to grow strong, sticky and healthy! Keep positive!!!!

Hope everyone else is doing Ok too! Lots of hugs xxx