Verity2011
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Hi There,
I've just joined today because I feel like I need to talk to people who are in the same boat as me or have been through it already. I have no children and have had two miscarriages already, my last was in March this year. My O/H and I didn't find out this time until my 12 week scan where we were told our baby had died at around 9 weeks. Needless to say this devastated my O/H and I, as we had assumed that as we had no problems and all my symptoms were still present that there would be a heartbeat. (We had also had a scan at 9 weeks after I was hospitalized with hyperemesis, there was a heartbeat although the baby had measured at only 7 weeks 6 days but the nurse just told me I had my dates wrong and that's why the baby was smaller).
This has also been more difficult because I am the youngest of a very large family who all have lots of children and no one in my family at all has ever had a miscarriage. They are all very supportive and want to look after me but they ultimately just do not understand how upsetting this and how insecure it makes you afterwards. I also found out two weeks later that my eldest sister was pregnant with her fourth child which just made everything worse. And for a while I was so resentful and sad and jealous.
I am now pregnant again and will be 10 weeks tomorrow. I had some extremely heavy bleeding at 5 weeks and was told I had probably lost another baby but at the 6 week scan there was a little heartbeat. I started bleeding again at 8 weeks and I went for another scan which showed a heartbeat and that the baby was the right size, although there was some bleeding round the pregnancy sac. Luckily there has been no more bleeding but I am just so terrified that I will go to my 12 week scan and my baby will no longer have a heartbeat.
I feel so alone right now. My O/H is being great but doesn't want to come to any scans with me so I'm having to go to every appointment and scan by myself. He's supporting me in every way but just doesn't want to get attached but that's impossible for me, how can we not get attached to the babies inside of us? And my family are great but they don't know what I'm going through at all and meanwhile my pregnant sister who is now 5 months keeps texting me about every tiny great thing that's happening with her pregnancy without realizing that perhaps right now it's really tough for me to listen to that or be supportive. I feel so sad and lonely and worried. It's so tough when people around you are so certain that everything is going to go fine with their pregnancies and you're a nervous wreck everyday.
I'm sorry this post is so long I just needed to tell my story and actually feel like I was talking to people who knew how I felt.
Thanks
I've just joined today because I feel like I need to talk to people who are in the same boat as me or have been through it already. I have no children and have had two miscarriages already, my last was in March this year. My O/H and I didn't find out this time until my 12 week scan where we were told our baby had died at around 9 weeks. Needless to say this devastated my O/H and I, as we had assumed that as we had no problems and all my symptoms were still present that there would be a heartbeat. (We had also had a scan at 9 weeks after I was hospitalized with hyperemesis, there was a heartbeat although the baby had measured at only 7 weeks 6 days but the nurse just told me I had my dates wrong and that's why the baby was smaller).
This has also been more difficult because I am the youngest of a very large family who all have lots of children and no one in my family at all has ever had a miscarriage. They are all very supportive and want to look after me but they ultimately just do not understand how upsetting this and how insecure it makes you afterwards. I also found out two weeks later that my eldest sister was pregnant with her fourth child which just made everything worse. And for a while I was so resentful and sad and jealous.
I am now pregnant again and will be 10 weeks tomorrow. I had some extremely heavy bleeding at 5 weeks and was told I had probably lost another baby but at the 6 week scan there was a little heartbeat. I started bleeding again at 8 weeks and I went for another scan which showed a heartbeat and that the baby was the right size, although there was some bleeding round the pregnancy sac. Luckily there has been no more bleeding but I am just so terrified that I will go to my 12 week scan and my baby will no longer have a heartbeat.
I feel so alone right now. My O/H is being great but doesn't want to come to any scans with me so I'm having to go to every appointment and scan by myself. He's supporting me in every way but just doesn't want to get attached but that's impossible for me, how can we not get attached to the babies inside of us? And my family are great but they don't know what I'm going through at all and meanwhile my pregnant sister who is now 5 months keeps texting me about every tiny great thing that's happening with her pregnancy without realizing that perhaps right now it's really tough for me to listen to that or be supportive. I feel so sad and lonely and worried. It's so tough when people around you are so certain that everything is going to go fine with their pregnancies and you're a nervous wreck everyday.
I'm sorry this post is so long I just needed to tell my story and actually feel like I was talking to people who knew how I felt.
Thanks
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so pleased for you, us updated with babys progress 
