please help

[marley]

Ahh penguin!

Must be something in the air!

Are you still feeling like its the end today, or are you feeling better about things? Xx


Apologies for any typos!

 

[redbear]

I make an effort very rarley now and its never for OH, i will put on a nice dress to go out somewhere but the first thing i do when i get home is go upstairs put my comfy clothes on and relax, if he had a problem with it i would be pissed off- the last thing i need is to feel like i have to be 'on show' in my own house iykwim? Oh is always joking about my granny knickers but when i actually have put on sexy knickers for bed this week (twice) i fell asleep both times while he was feeding Alice lmao - im a shit wife honestly xx

 

[prettypenguin]

Feel less mad at him, don't feel all gooey over him though...we dtd the night before and I was just doing it to shut him up more than cause i.wanted to, I did want to a bit but was glad when he was finished lol, couldn't wait to get hack to sleep...I'm not even sure he did finish properly iykwim? Usually I can tell... Yeah I totally agree I shouldn't have to look like a model in ky own home x

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Babe don't do it coz he wants to do it coz U want to.. He needs to make the effort to make u feel special! He put u down so he should be the one that picks u up again! He can't moan at u til he gets his stuff tidy! How hard is it to rinse the bath or put stuff in the bin?!

Thinks will get better soon babe xx

 

[Hayley1608]

Maybe if he did make more of an effort you would want to dtd? Have you told him this? My dh kept pushing me and I told him no and when I wanted to I would... When we did it was amazing but it took ages to actually want to.

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Exactly.. It's not enjoyable when it's not wanted on both sides!
After we first DTD we got back on track 100%! I was so shocked! We had been at each others throats for weeks.. Then a laugh playing the wii made us in a good mood so we DTD and it was like it was back to how we were when we first met! Strange!!

 

[redbear]

Definatly both need to want it for it to be any good. Your OH should want to make you feel special and beautiful even when your feeling your worst..... maybe if he put some more effort in you would feel a bit better about your relationship - get him to babysit one night while you have a bath or go out for an hour. Maybe if he see's what you have to do all day he will realise why your not in the mood to dress to the nines just to sit at home! xx

 

[prettypenguin]

Grr just had a big fat row over texts, our dog is constantly playing up cause she can't be the centre of attention anymore, the main problem I have with her is that she doesn't go the toilet in the pen we built for her, she did used to do it but lately she waits til I shut the back door and go back to Charlie and then goes onto the grass, and then she eats it up, so when Charlie's crawling outside I will be worrying he's crawling in that and if he touches the dogs face hell get ill cause she's got a grump on...Grr she annoys me loads, she did it this morning whilst my mum came to pick Charlie up and I just give up, I text rick saying I'm fed up and didn't know shed be this much hard.work, rick never walks her or gives her treats its always me having to walk her and drag the pram on a muddy field and clean up after her, and rick just (still) keeps dumping his stuff wherever he wants, and then he comes home and says 'oh the house is a mess' grrr. I know hes not the worst person to be with some peoples OHs go out to the pub all the time and go their mates every night and to be fair to him he doesn't do that just works but I'm sick of telling him about the stupid tw*tting dog, he goes 'oh well ill take her out more's but never does... So angry, just left the dog in the gqrden she can stay there eating her crap. Ricks said we will put railings up that she can't jump over but i just don't even want that I want her gone hut ricks not budging... Last night she was eating crap outside n I just felt fed up, I was scrubbing the kitchen so I just put her to bed early and rick replied to my text today saying maybe its cause you've kept her in her room for 14 hours (was qctually 9pm til 8.30am) see how you cope if you did it!' So I just said how about you take the dog and disappear I'd cope a lot better without having to clean up evryone else's mess!!!


I honestly don't mind cleaning up, its when the dog craps all over the grass, or in the house, or when.rick comes home and iust dumps his shirts on the bedroom floor, leaves the bath a mess (despite me nicely asking him to clean up after himself) I just don't feel happy anymore I wish I had somewhere else to go, feel trapped in a way as he pays all the bills, the house is in his mum n dads mortgage, there's no room at any of my families houses, there was at ky mums but my sister has moved back in last week... :,( so fed up, so sorry to go on x

 

[redbear]

dont be sorry hun rant away - why didn't he let the dog out before he went to work? i wouldnt want to get up early to let the dog out when you have a baby i try to stay in bed as long as i can! Tell him that he needs to sort the dog out, can he not pay someone to walk the dog? A young relative in need of a few quid? I would have loved to walk a dog for a bit of spend. Or get rid of it. Its not up to you to run around after the dog when your busy! xx

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Baby before dog, sorry. My sister has the same problem and the dog is pushed down the importance list and she looks so sad they'd be better off getting rid as mean as that sounds.. She didn't even want the dog he just brought her home one day! He does fuck all for the kids let alone the dog! Let's not mention the bloody lizard!!

If u really can't cope with the dog can u send it to a relative? Or to a dogs home?