Petrified of the pushing stage :( FOA 2nd time + mums! :(

[Nicky_Jones]

I am not a second time mum... yet, but I had a home birth and it was incredibly fast. The first I felt was at 4pm in the afternoon (just twinges), she was born at 8:45. I literally only pushed 2 or 3 times before Ellies head came out. I did tear quite badly (had to transfer to hospital to be sown as the M/W wasn't confident - comments like I am not sure where this bit comes from...), but I think that was because Ellie was 8lb and had her hand on head, I think it was her fingernails that did the most tearing!!! I would highly recommend the homebirth, and really really hope to have one again (though also hopefully without the trip to hospital afterwards this time).

I firmly believe that it was faster because I was at home, more relaxed and more upright, I spent most the time on the exercise ball.

 

[jennifer1981]

I hated the pushing bit but i can give you a good piece of advice which my midwife did for me? As the head crowned she threw a FREEZING cold bowl of water over my bits and it made me numb for a bit which really did wonders

Surely that can't be good for baby though?

Well im not an expert but im sure the midwife has been trained so she wouldn't have done it if it would have harmed the baby.

 

[Tasha20]

Thank you very much for all your replies.

I have to say wow Nicky!! congrats hun!!


I am definatly feeling a whole lots better and much more confident about it all now, I wil have chat with my midwife when I see her next for any suggestions that she may have, but I think what most of you said about going with my body and trying the raspberry this time will help.

I will try standing up in labour, this is one thing I wasnt able to do last time so will give it ago.

I hope that I get to have my homebirth, would be a dream come true

Thank you all again, I really appreciate your help