Upset

[rachaellouise]

I think we have lucked out this month now. think hubby is feeling the strain, the past 2 nights he has not been able to cum. I am so frustrated as today is probably our last chance this month and he cant do it
I guess I just have to hope that the spermies in there from sun will have been strong enough to do us proud

 

[MissJuly10]

Oh hun. Do you know when you OV? In good conditions, they can survive for up to 5 days so don't lose hope hun.

If he's feeling the pressure, then try something different which will relax you both. For my husband, it's BDing when we want rather than when I think I'm most fertile. I also have a few outfits up my sleeve.

Hope you're ok hun. x x

 

[Geminiblue]

Tell him youre no longer OVing and just jump him anyway say you just want to feel close to him....ha ha its a plan not sure it will work but I never told oh before when I as oving in case it pressured him too much, it was pressing me so much I had to get conceive plus!!!

ps Im sorry youre upset, I was last night hence my current feeling status. Hope you have a better day today and the lovely weather cheers you up....then again its only sunny in wiltshire at the mo not sure what its like in Surry (I used to live in surrey) big hug xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

*big hugs* we used to have the same problem. now I dont tell OH when i am Oving although he has a pretty good idea of my cycle now, we just BD regulary through my cycle, and we make sure we try different things, keep it fresh!

 

[LouiseB]

I'm sorry Rachael

I've never encountered this issue before, and if he's taking his time then switching techniques works wonders for us normally.

Give some thought to what is happening leading upto and during the bedroom session and see if you can see where the presure is coming from.

Also, how did you react when he didn't come? If you started getting frustrated and crying and things it's not going to help him for next time, is it?

 

[rachaellouise]

Thankyou for all your kind words, it means a lot.

Thing is this cycle I did try not to tell him when I OV'd so as not to put pressure on him, but when he said he was too tired last night, the fact that I knew I was probably still in with a chance did make me very upset and I did shed some tears and told him that it was probably our last chance thi month.
He then managed to wake himself up enough to get going but no matter what position we didhe couldnt do it to which I probably did not react the best way, I looked at him and said 'why?'
MissJ, I think I had my surge Sun/Monday so I am guessing I OV'd yesterday.

 

[s1972]

I know exactly how you feel. My OH has this issue regulary (he can get it up but can't cum if we have sex too often - I have to time it perfectly so that we have 10 days in between which plays massive havoc when I'm OVing. I really feel for you sweet cos I have exactly the same thoughts, tears and 'why' questions ... he says its not me but I can't help feeling that it is sometimes. Many hugs coming your way and I hope that your OH just had an off month feeling stress and that all with be fine for future months x x x x

 

[MissJuly10]

It sounds like it's just the pressure of performing and knowing how much it means to you both as well as being at a crucial time too. I strongly recommend just relaxing about it, I know OV is an important day but you can still do it the day after and be in with a chance as the egg will survive for up to 24 hours.

Your reaction prob wasn't the best but I'm sure any one of us would have been just as upset too so don't beat yourself up hun. x x

 

[linxminx21]

im no expert but how about a nice massage for him in some sexy undies just to get him relaxed or a nice bubble bath, make it different if youv got 24 hours then im sure half hour in bath getting him in the mood wouldnt hurt anyone
and if ur confident enough a little fancy dress could go a long way

 

[rachaellouise]

I know exactly how you feel. My OH has this issue regulary (he can get it up but can't cum if we have sex too often - I have to time it perfectly so that we have 10 days in between which plays massive havoc when I'm OVing. I really feel for you sweet cos I have exactly the same thoughts, tears and 'why' questions ... he says its not me but I can't help feeling that it is sometimes. Many hugs coming your way and I hope that your OH just had an off month feeling stress and that all with be fine for future months x x x x

Thankyou so much, selfish as it is, it means a lot to know I am not alone
Hubby can normally go every other day but if we do ever go everyday it seems to mess him up.

 

[xshauna_bazx]

I say keep trying him, have you not tried getting him to do it himself then doing it near the end ive done this when i really couldnt be bothered with it ? xxx dont worry you still all a good chance hun .

 

[rachaellouise]

Well I did try getting him going before hand so he wouldnt have much work to do, but that didnt seem to be the problem, he just couldnt finish and siad that he didnt feel like it was going to happen.

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Relax hun. Any luck? xxx

 

[rachaellouise]

Relax hun. Any luck? xxx

We had some when he got home from work
I am thinking that may be the key, 'jump him before he gets too tired!'