I concur the ladies above. We have just found out at our 20 week scan that our baby will not make it to full term.
I am absolutely in pieces, and my husband has seemed like everything is normal. He even asked if we wanted to go caravanning at the end of June and if we wanted to go to a friends BBQ next weekend (whose wife would be due the same time as me). He feels insulted when I ask what the hell is wrong with him to ask such a thing right now, he can't understand what he is doing wrong. He says he doesnt know how to deal with it, but thinks the best thing is to be try and be strong.
It's no good if both parents go to pieces, as the mother you are naturally going to feel it more. Your husband thinks his job is to hold the fmaily together, take on the practical jobs, look after the other kids while Ive just lay in bed and cried for days. On the surface it looks as though he taking it well, but the truth is he just doesnt know what to feel and he thinks he is being strong for me by taking the household responsibilities off me and keeping everything ticking along.
It doesnt mean they dont care about the baby, they just think they are helping you by being the strong one x