Nursery doubts!

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  1. kittyrooroo

    kittyrooroo Well-Known Member

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    Jack started nursery at 6 months (he's now 8 and a half months) and ever since day one he's been poorly. I fully expected him to bring bugs home and get a bit ill but it's none stop? I don't know if its normal! He's had a nose that runs like a tap from the first day there and a cough which doesn't really bother him but it bothers me!

    I've been to the docs and as I mention he's at nursery they just put everything down to 'nursery bugs'. I don't like him being so poorly all of the time. I understand it will be helping him develop his immune system being exposed to these things but I just don't think he can enjoy nursery or even the summer like this. Today he's woken up with bloodshot and gunky eyes and god knows how long that'll take to clear up.

    Before 6 months he was the healthiest little boy! Now I don't know whether to take him out of nursery, I'm not sure he can cope with all the bugs (all the children are older) and put him in when he's older. He's only there to socialise as he's the only baby in the family and to give me a bit of time to myself (that I would happily give up for a happy baby!)

    Sorry for the ramble! Just after some opinions really :)

    Thanks ladies xxx
     
  2. knopk@

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    Hmmm, i think i would vote for putting him in later. I am not sure how much it helps immune system really

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  3. Leah04x

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    Seeing its not absolutely necessary for him to be there at the moment, I'd probably take him out of nursery until he's a bit older xx
     
  4. clairebear22

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    I was a Nursery Nurse for 5 years after I left school and was ill on and off for the first 18 months!! I've been a childminder for 10 years and have only been ill a handful of times!!! Nursery certainly toughens the immune system up but it's not fair on a young baby.

    Ever thought about a childminder? They usually only have a few kiddies and the infection rate is a lot lower. Especially if he's in childcare through choice not necessity x
     
  5. kedi376

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    I'm scared now, my little girl starts nursery in two weeks.
     
  6. SunnySue

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    I agree, if it isnt really neccessary and it is making you both unhappy then i would maybe start him back at nursery later on. The child minder idea is worth considering if you feel that he needs the time with Other children or maybe there are some groups local to you that you can go to? X
     
  7. Hope81

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    i am so scared now :( she will be 11 m old when she starts and lets hope for the best.

    i would get him out of the nursery xx
     
  8. CARNAT22

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    I would take him out too.

    If he doesn't need to be there especially so.

    xxxxx
     
  9. hellywelly

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    My little girl has been with the childminder 7 months and although she's had the odd cough and cold she has had nothing like this. I'd probably explore other options if you aren't happy. x
     
  10. Emamay

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    Cay's just started nursery this week (6 months old). He had a fortnight of settling in sessions (3 a week, 2-3 hours each), then was in full day Tues and today.

    For the last week or so, he's had a clear-runny nose, and a horrific hacking cough.
    The last coupla days, my partner's had a sore throat, and I've had a runny/blocked up nose.

    I wonder... Xx
     
  11. Belfast girl

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    I think the on/off sickness lasted 6 weeks for us, including a bad reaction to mmr and chicken pox. But since then **touch wood** she has been fine for the past year. Mine was 11 months when she went in.
     
  12. stargirl

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    I'm a nursery nurse. Up until I went off on mat leave I worked in the baby room. I defo think he's poorly because of nursery. There is so many bugs and germs going around because of the amount of children through the doors. His immune system will build up but it takes time, if your unhappy I'd do what you said and take him out and put him back wheb his immune system is stronger, but still expect, when he does go back, for him to pick up a few bugs again for the first few weeks.

    My little boy will be coming to work with me when I return and I've booked him in four weeks before I am due to start back for this very reason. So what ever bugs he gets, If he needs time off with them, I don't have to miss work because I'm already off.


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  13. kittyrooroo

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    I'm trying to look for a nursery that only has children his age. It's quite a small nursery and they don't have the full amount of children so he's usually looked after with some 3-4 year olds. He's not going today, we're off to the doctors instead!
    I'm sure all your other babies will be fine, jack had just never been ill so must have hit him hard.
    I just wanted him to be around other babies his age as there's none in the family, baby groups around here are usually very empty.
    It's a shame because I know he enjoys the change of scenery and he's learning so fast by copying the older children but I'd much rather have my healthy baby back! I'd hate to be ill through summer!
    Thanks for the comments ladies :) xxx
     
  14. TORino

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    I have experienced similar,

    After breastfeeding for a year and having a baby who was hardly ever ill it came as a bit of a shock. She had sniffle after sniffle BUT it seems to have calmed down now (she's been there since march).

    I have been quite ill myself too which is not usual for me. The last thing I caught from her resulted in a perforated eardrum!

    I also technically don't NEED to send her to nursery either. She could go to grandmas. I'm sticking with it though because I think it is good for her to mix with other children and adults in the nursery setting. Plus, if they don't go through this phase of building up their immunity now then it will come later when they go to school etc which will be disruptive for their education.
     
  15. kittyrooroo

    kittyrooroo Well-Known Member

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    That's true and I thought the same, I want him to have a strong immune system by school because of his education and also I hope to be going to work so it would be harder to have time off to care for him.
    I don't have family or friends here so he goes to nursery just to give me a bit of a break, sometimes it feels like I'm not enough too.
    I've been quite ill from it too, and I'm NEVER ill! Xxx
     
  16. Loula

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    My lil one has been the same but theres nothing i can do and she lives it so am keeping her in.
    X
     
  17. Les1504

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    I posted something similar a few weeks ago! I'm fed up of Harry bringing bugs home but I love the idea of nurseries and he loves it (not atall keen on the idea of a childminder) so hope it passes! X
     
  18. Hope81

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    Les can you please explain why you love nurseries so much?? (Amelie is going there next month and I think I have cried every night with the idea of leaving her, looking for some cheering up lol)
     
  19. Belfast girl

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    Nurseries have been great for us! At the start I was horrified at the thought of leaving my little baby with someone else to look after but now we have a happy confident, adaptable little girl. She talks like a 3 year old and has just about grasped the concept of sharing. Its lovely seeing her properly play with other kids and be happy around them - she has a few pals now which she talks about when she comes home everyday. She had pretty horrific stranger danger before going in and would never interact with other kids, she just prefered to watch instead.

    When this one goes to nursery in a year, I will of course be heartbroken again!!
     
  20. Les1504

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    Aww I think it's because I'm a primary school teacher Hope! I love the setting, the vast range of resources and toys they have to offer and the fact they can play with so many different children. It's been a really positive experience for Harry (apart from the constant coughs and colds!) I'm sure Amelie will love it, I cried too at first I felt guilty for leaving him, sad that he would enjoy being there more than with me but now I feel happy and reassured when I leave him there xxx
     

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