Not sure how to feel...

[Laura_C]

Me and my had a bit of an 'accident' on Sunday whilst we were DTD and the realisation hit afterwards that I could easily get pregnant. We don't want to start TTC until at least May when hopefully my body will be better recovered after the c section in November. Thinking of the possibility that I could be I realised that I needed to get some emergency contraception. I know I'm not ready and it terrified me. So I had to take myself off to the chemist yesterday to get morning after pill, I felt awful. We want a baby so badly more than anything but I think I did the right thing. We need to be prepared and have a plan of action with my Obstetrician before we think of another pregnancy. I did contemplate just leaving it and let nature take it's course but it was slap bang around OV time. It was very likely I could be pregnant, only took once with all my pregnancies before.

I just want to be sure we are prepared after losing our son in November, physically and mentally an at the moment I am neither of those things

 

[Nurse 26]

Hey hun, sounds like you did that right thing for you at the moment. Must have been frightening, hope you are Ok now, your doing the sensible thing waiting until you get a plan of action sorted.

xx

 

[Kezzamunster]

Hey hun, sounds like you did that right thing for you at the moment. Must have been frightening, hope you are Ok now, your doing the sensible thing waiting until you get a plan of action sorted.

xx

I second this to, was trying to think of what to write but Nurse said everything perfectly

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xxxx

 

[p1nk11]

Hi sweetie,

I think it was a sensible thing to do (even though it was a hard choice for you ) Like you said its best for your body to have time to heal so it will be the perfect little nesting place for your baby to grow when your are ready

xxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

As above really, you need to be ready and your body needs to be ready xx

 

[Princess81]

It's good to know that u are so in tune with yourself sweetie. You'll know in your heart when the time is right xxx

 

[p1nk11]

I know it's hard at the moment but May will soon be here then we will both be ttc I KNOW we WILL have our little ones soon xxx

 

[Laura_C]

Thanks

I just know now isn't the right time and I'm sort of having to prepare myself that this COULD happen again to us. I need to know that we could cope again if the worst did happen. I feel a little deflated that he Neonatologist thinks that we won't be able to have any sort of testing - I'm going to push that when I see my Obstetrician. He his lovely and I know will be supportive. He is the only person so far to be completely honest with me. Only a few more weeks until I see him hopefully, not got appt through yet though.

I am also finding myself worrying about what my employer would say/feel if I got pregnant again so soon. I know it's none of their business really but I don't like letting people down or putting myself into a situation when this could happen again. I know it's silly to think that but it could potentially mean I would b out of work again if things went badly or even just been on Mat leave. I honestly don't think they would be unsympathetic though.

 

[Princess81]

I'm sure your employers would understand. You had no control over what happened the last time, it's not as if you are taking advantage of them! Plus, you have rights, they can't breach those is the bottom line.
I hope that speaking to your obs really gives you the confidence boost that you need, and yes, may is only 3 months away now (can't believe how fast the year is going already). You have been thru an horrific ordeal with your last pregnancy and I can totally understand you feeling apprehensive about ttc again, but, you got thru it, yes it must have been totally horrendous but you are being very strong xxx

 

[p1nk11]

I totally understand how your feeling about the next time, but you have to try to be positive (I know thats way easier said than done as I feel the same as you hunni) you will be more prepared & next time you can hassel/question them as much as you need to ( I have already apologised to my midwife in advance for next time as i'm going to b her worst nagging patient)

I think your employer would understand but you mustn't be thinking of them now, its time to concentrate on you xxxx