Not really feeling like sex.....

[flutey]

I have a wonderful hubby who has been really supportive since we found out I'm expecting, he is always telling me I'm beautiful and that he loves me, as he says he doesn't want me to start thinking that his feelings towards me may have changed just because I'm pregnant.

When we first found out (within a couple of weeks!) that I was pregnant we were extremely 'active' and it was great, but then I had a bit of bleeding and I was a bit scared to do anything for fear of losing the baby. Everything is fine now, but we're still not really back to normal, but really due to sickness, tiredness and our work schedules. We never have a day off together, work totally different shifts, eg I'll start early and he'll finish late etc, so when we are together I'm normally asleep!

I just feel guilty as I know he still has the same sex drive, and don't get me wrong, I'd like it from time to time too lol, but I feel like it's totally my fault for being constantly nauseous and asleep! I know he wouldn't go elsewhere, but even the thought of him feeling deprived makes me feel awful, and I'm getting stupidly paranoid about him flirting with girls at work etc, and I just feel like I'm going to drive myself mad, into a vicious circle of feeling negative about it so feel I need to stop these feelings now! Hormones all over the place really isn't helping.....DH also says I can't blame hormones for everything though!

Does anyone else feel anything similar to this?

 

[Ashbee]

I know where your coming from. I dont think my OH realizes that pregnancy can change your sex drive and is still constantly wanting it ( even more sometimes ) so im basically convincing myself i want it even when i dont. Im just not in the mood for whatever reason

 

[mellie_88]

I feel exactly the same, feel like I best occasionally still have sex with him just to keep him happy when I'd be perfectly happy not to. Bloody hormones

 

[flutey]

Glad it's not just me! Thanks ladies xx

 

[ema-lou24]

Same here but I dont give in lol. I say to him "would u rather have sex with me when I want it too and enjoy it or just do it to keep you happy and not actually enjoy it" he prefers me to want it rather than doing it to keep him happy, he says he can tell the difference.
Im quite happy to not do it at moment. Still suffering with sickness so the motions of sex....no thanks!plus I have bad SPD...no sex for me please.
He will make a comment now and again about the lack of it to which I remind him I dont exactly want to NOT have a sex drive and its as frustrating for me as it is him but im no gonna force myself. X

 

[sunflower85]

I wish I could stay awake long enough for that!

 

[doommer]

Hmm as being in a different boat (being a that male partner) and damn being active everything in me kind of changed after girlfriend got pregnant I know that she doesn't feel like having sex, and sometimes she goes over her moods etc and says "yes" for a sex (in a way)... but for me its totally horrible morally to know that my girlfriend doesn't actually feel like it, and i rather not have sex with her when she doesnt want it. Sometimes she does want it rarely and then im happy and same is she. I just rather wait and get both satisfied than be "physically" satisfied myself and morally be unhappy that she isnt happy...

 

[quato]

If she is not in the mood we don't do it, simple as that I can take care of myself if I need to anyway.

 

[ShirleyR]

I agree quato!