Not even OH is on my side

[pinkyprincess]

He's back from his mums so dunno if MILs been saying something but he's just turned round and asked me if my teething boy is unsettled because he needs solids!

Seriously!?!?

Thus man who has NEVER picked a baby book up or googled anything is now a baby expert!

 

[Princess81]

Clearly he's been getting "advice" from somewhere lol

 

[l_maclean]

Don't be too hard on him. He maybe thought he was being helpful. I reackon you've gotta be pretty solid in your knowledge to stand up to others suggestions - and if he knows he's know expert maybe he thought it was just something he hadn't thought.

Xxx


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[pinkyprincess]

Don't be too hard on him. He maybe thought he was being helpful. I reackon you've gotta be pretty solid in your knowledge to stand up to others suggestions - and if he knows he's know expert maybe he thought it was just something he hadn't thought.

Xxx


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I see what you're saying but its not the only thing. The other day he said 'I knew we should've bottle fed him' not nice to hear.

 

[l_maclean]

Don't be too hard on him. He maybe thought he was being helpful. I reackon you've gotta be pretty solid in your knowledge to stand up to others suggestions - and if he knows he's know expert maybe he thought it was just something he hadn't thought.

Xxx


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I see what you're saying but its not the only thing. The other day he said 'I knew we should've bottle fed him' not nice to hear.

oh, ok, thats to very nice to hear. xxx

 

[Pickledonions]

Grr

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[vickib_1984]

Pinky your his mum your with him all the time stuff them you do what you feel is right for him xx


xxx

 

[Susanne]

Sounds to me like MIL has had a little chat... My husband also often treats me like I'm a bit of an idiot for exclusively breastfeeding and not weaning until 6 months, but I pretend to be too thick to understad his snide comments and ignore them. I think men sometimes feel a bit left out while we are breastfeeding, and that's why some of them are so keen for us to bottlefeed or wean early. Ignore him and do what you think is best.

 

[NinjaKitty]

It does sound that he has been getting 'advice' doesn't it. Except what he's saying is critical and not constructive Have you asked why he thinks that. I know it's difficult without sounding like you want to start an argument. He might just be feeling like he wants some more involvement maybe. At least you'll find out if MIL is sticking her nose in.

 

[TORino]

Aw, tell him the nhs advice is not to wean until 6 months.

My oh makes comments about breastfeeding all the time and how I shouldn't do it and it drives me mad!!

 

[pinkyprincess]

He's very aware on my views on early weaning. He also told me to out sugar in a bottle so he'd take it so he can help at night he got snapped at for that, I know he's helping but I know his nan did that with him as a baby when she was looking after him and he never took a bottle again without it! Not to mention its bad for baby! He wonders why I hardly leave him I'm scare stiff i'll come home and he'll be eating a fry up and drinking tea out of a bottle!!

Just having a time of it ATM as Tyler's teething so he's up for hours at a time in the night when I do sleep I have bad dreams about my dad. OH has been letting me have naps and lay ins but as soon as I'm back out babies handed to me again. I asked him to hold him earlier (I was washing my hands) and he said 'again?' I'm at my mums next weekend so I should get a bit of a break but she's got a 5 y/o and a 7 y/o to worry about.

Sorry a bit of a rant there!

 

[LaurenMM]

Aw hun maybe just explain to him if you havent already that you both need to agree on things and it can't just be a one sided thing all the time. I'm scared to leave Angel with my own mum and in laws for same reason, that they won't respect my wishes with regards to feeding, crying settling etc and it really shouldnt be like that. Hope you're ok xx

 

[NinjaKitty]

I think you need to hand him the NHS/HV official advice, it'll soon shut him up. As for sugar in stuff my mum did that to me and I've always had weight problems so he can stick that in his pipe n smoke it.


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[TORino]

The sugar water thing is interesting.

My aunt mentioned it to me ages ago and said it would calm Tilly down and I kinda snorted and said thanks very much (and thought secretly I won't be doing that)

However.. when we were in the hospital they gave it to tilly! I asked about it and the consultant said sometimes old wives tales are proven correct by science. Apparently there is some research saying that it can be beneficial to babies. I didn't look it up but I took her word for it.

I doubt if it was that bad for babies they wouldn't give it in hospital.

 

[vickib_1984]

Sugar water is good for tummy aches etc it's only a spot if sugar you use though I've never used it though


xxx

 

[LoopyLouize]

Ahhh I totally know the feeling about people giving "advice" to OH...

I had OH's best friend questioning why I was weaning H now and why she was in a cot in her own room at 12 weeks... For a start it's none of his fecking business but I still felt the need in telling him the reasons why! Funnily enough it was advice from both a Nurse, Doctor and HV! I'm going to listen to them over OH's friend!! Grr!

 

[positivity :)]

I think in a way that at least he is taking an interest and cares. Some men wouldn't even suggest anything or be bothered. I'm gonna be honest, if my oh suggested something for Will I would just say yay or nay coz at the end of the day he is his son too. Men just have terrible delivery! Xx

 

[winnie89]

My hubby is exactly the same he won't pick harry up when he cries and barely even notices him when he's at home, I have to nag him to change his nappy (and I get the I have to hold him again thing so pinky ur not on ur own) but he always has to make a comment on how I should be holding him or bf him , I actually had marks nan take harry off me because he was crying literally I was about to feed him as she comes over and takes him away from me I could of slapped her I gave her such a bolloking for that! I suppose men must feel pushed out with bf mums because they want to feed them and obviously they can't stick to your guns hun x

 

[JJ Mum]

Oh dear, MIL's what a pain they are! You wean him when your ready as it sounds like yourll be the one doing it all, tell him that and see his chin drop! Men..

My oh and I had 3 bottle fed babies, and then a fourth and he was exclusivly BF. He thought his xmas 's had all come at once, no feeds to do! and he works nights now so no night waking at all, he sleeps on couch the other 3 days as he likes to stay up late!! nightmare....

So unless he is prepared to get stuck in, you make the rules.

Suger water!!?? sounds like a slipery slope.....

 

[Sarah13]

I've had exactly the same from my oh, and you know what the next 'advice' you will get will be they are not getting enough through BLW and need spoon feeding puree. This was yet another battle I had to prove even though they read nothing but get the odd feeding snippet from old fashioned MILs!