not a good day so far..

[sarafet]

OH just went back to work this week, after his paternity leave. today i was venturing out for the first time by myself with aiden.

i've been feeing rubbish the past few days, and i think i've got yet another UTI as i'm in agony now so i phoned the doctors first thing this morning for an appointment. after arguing with the receptionist to be seen today, i was told to come down at quarter past 11 and expect to wait a while, and the first free doctor would see me

anyways, got aiden ready etc, such a task in itself getting ready to go out went to the bus stop, waited from 10:35am and the bus comes at 115am the bus ends up being one of the ones with 3 steps up, to get on it, and the bus driver says - you need to fold the pram up.. there was no way i could do that myself - fold it up while holding aiden and the bus driver just shrugged and drove away

i could feel tears welling up in my eyes i walked home and phoned the doctors to tell them i couldn't make it, the receptionist went on about how someone else could have had that appointment i asked for another appointment, she said, no, we have none today or tomorrow i hung up

aiden has a viral infection, isn't sleeping, crying all the time and wanting bottles constantly to top it all off, the cats are driving me up the wall

i don't think i'm cut out for this mum stuff

 

[MrsBrightside]

awww darling

firstly im sending you big hugs



I dont believe for a minute you are not set out for Mum stuff...

If you had been helped onto the bus then you would have met your appointment (bloody bus driver growl) you managed to get yourself organised and at the bus stop and if the driver or someone on the bus had been more help you would have made it to the appointment so dont beat your self up over it.... it will get easier darling you bound to find it hard if OH has just gone back and your feeling how different life is now... this will be normally you have gone throu lots of changes.... which wont be helped that your not feeling 100% in yourself. I know when I feel ill nothing works out right for me......

keep your chin up darling

 

[samandbump]

how rude of the bus driver and receptionist!!!
you poor thing they could of helped you instead of been so rude
i would complain too the bus company

 

[jennywren]

awww hun

Twatty receptionist - I would complain

Twatty bus driver - I would complain!!

I think its a case of baby blues as it kicks in around this time, you are a great mum and will come out of this smiling!

 

[Suzie and Faith]

just pm'd you hun

definitely complain though! xxxxx

 

[Becky]

Aw please don't think that, don't let a snotty receptionist make you feel that bad. I don't know what it is about them but they seem to always go on about how busy the docs are - as if you're a time waster.

If I were you I would get your OH to ring and insist on a home visit from your doc as you shouldn't have to deal with a UTI with a new baby.

Also I would complain to the doctor's surgery about the unhelpful attitude of the receptionist!

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Id report the bus driver he SHOULD have helped you
and your a great mum 8) hun dont think your not
i strugled for a while when james left as i had to the domestic stuff he did it was so hard to manage it all

but i dose get easier as you get into your own routine

 

[Babylicious]

 

[abcd1234]

As people have siad report the bus driver, the company can trace exactly who was driving at the time and have a word, if nothing else it'll make him thin ktwice about being so rude again!!
Our bus service is crap but even those drivers will help and other passengers usually do to.

As for your UTI i would go to you're nearest walk in centre, ours is really good, if you go during the day you'll be waiting a little while but should be seen and sorted.

I hope the rest of the day goes better for you hun

 

[sarafet]

thanks so much girls

well i phoned the doctors back up and said i wanted an appointment today, they said is it an emergency, i said yes they got a doctor to phone me back.

it was the doctor i see who keeps an eye on my bp and iron levels, and he said to come down right away so i ordered a taxi and went down. he seen me through his lunch break, he's such a lovely old man he gave me some strong anti-biotics, because i've had recurrent kidney infections through pregnancy, so fingers crossed it goes away asap.

aiden is sleeping just now and i'm having some lunch, feeling a bit more calm.

thanks again everyone

 

[Becky]

That's great that you've got some antibiotics!! A day or two of them and you'll def be feeling better. Being a new mum can be hard enough without having a UTI to deal with too!!

 

[keli]

Glad you feeling better

 

[kalia]

I remember that first trip out on my own with LO - it was really scary and hard! You're not the only one to feel like that. It gets a bit easier with time. I hope you feel better soon

 

[lfc_sarah]

Oh my god!
How rude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[sarah2807]

sending you some hugs hun..
sounds like a rubbish day but things will get better. I cried at the thought of my oh going baack to work, but a few days in things get easier.
glad you got to see a doctor.

 

[soverign]

Aww bless you hun, sounds like it was one of those days. I hate the bus drivers here. Me and OH got on a bus and the fare was £1.70 for the two of us. I handed him loads of 10p's and 5p's because I only had a £10 note or the change. He said sorry I am not accepting that. I said well its that or the note. He said well you will have to get off then. (I was heavily pregnant at the time and was not going to walk into town) My OH then started to kick off and the whole bus was just staring at us. He eventually let us on.

When he pulled up into the bus station he had to get off for the next driver to take over and he started to fight with my OH. He went to hit him but another bus driver put his arm out to stop it.

We made a formal complaint but no action was ever taken. He still works for the bus company. He knows my face and won't look at me when I get on.

 

[1sttimemum]

i Hope the antibiotics start kicking i soon.

xx

 

[Charlie:-)]

I know exactly how you feel, I had my first trip out with Maia yesterday now im back in the driving seat after my section.

My outing was pretty dire as well, I wont bore you with the details but it got me really down and I felt like I couldnt do it.

Today though I decided to try again and I ventured to the supermarket and it was much easier than yesterday, ok so some things went wrong again but I felt better able to deal with them after my episode yesterday.

I think its just a matter of getting used to these new tasks we have to do, remember we havent been anyones Mummy before and everything is new and we have to learn how to do things. If things dont go well one day then try again the next day and do things slightly different and see if it works, hopefully it will but keep going until you find things that work for you

 

[Full of hope!]

Awww you poor thing, what an awful day! It does get easier honestly Hope you feel better soon x

 

[Teej]

its really hard isn't it? some days i can't face going anywhere as it seems such a mammoth task and i'm terrified of Sam kicking off as he's just so unsettled and crying all the time at the moment. its totally normal as well to think you can't do it i've been like that alot! people keep reassuring me it gets better, and day by day it is...