No sex

[freespirit29]

I'm 34 wks and suddenly there's no sex. He won't come near me, not a kiss, a hug, absolutely nothing. I've tried talking and finding out why and he shifts the blame onto me saying I'm always moaning abt my aches and pains. I'm feeling very unloved atm is anyone else going through this? X

 

[Mum2betash]

I haven't myself but I know other ladies have been. I've heard it's because they are worried about hurting the baby or feeling the baby. Maybe he won't kiss or anything as he worries it might lead to something? I'm sorry you are feeling un loved at the moment. I hope someone can give you better help than I can xx

 

[Holi]

I know a few men that went off sex during pregnancy (not for me but my mates told me) as try found the whole idea strange when the babies getting so big etc - but this shouldn't stop the intimacy (cuddles, kisses etc) just explain to him how your feeling he probably doesn't realise his actions are upsetting you xx

 

[Rachel80]

Lucky you, I didn't get any from about 20 weeks. My oh wouldn't come near me & at the time it really annoyed me. To him it grossed him out & I totally understand why now. Looking back I now think it would've been a bit weird if he did want sex! To him he would've been putting his you know what near his sons head & that's just wrong, & he didn't view me as a sexy woman whilst I was pregnant, I was a moany achy hippo, not very sexy! Don't worry too much, it's all come back to normal after my lo was born! X

 

[freespirit29]

Thanks everyone xxx I think my hormones are everywhere I can see what your saying rachel80 and yeah it does make sense. I just wish he could talk to me abt it. I'll try talking to him again tonight. Xxx

 

[mel0013]

the rest of u are lucky......... my oh has refused to have sex for the WHOLE pregnancy and we found out before i was a month gone!!! even when my hormones have been raging its been a nightmare so i know how u feel its so frustrating u want to scream at them. its like they forget that ur still their physically available girlfriend/wife and not just the woman carrying their baby. they wonder why u feel insecure with it when they get like that.

it didnt work for me but could u take him to ur next midwife appointment for some reassurance that hes not going to hurt u or baby? and definately what the others said sit him down and talk to him. he may be feeling a bit overwhelmed and bless our men but they are terrible at talking about feelings lol. good luck sorry for the essay and mini rant xxx

 

[freespirit29]

Don't be silly it's lovey knowing I'm not the only person being deprived lol. Thanks Hun yeah going to try and get to the root of it tonight xx

 

[mel0013]

any luck with ur man? did u manage to talk it over ok? xx