Newie just joined yesterday, terrified and clueless!

[Dustydog]

Hi everyone, call me Dusty I am 36yrs on 30th Oct and live in West London suburbs. I am 7wks and 4days with my 1st pregnancy and absolutely terrified and clueless. I am off work at the moment as I fly for a living and can't fly while preggers so they will find me a ground job. I really want this babe so bad as we have been trying for over 3yrs. all this miscarriage stuff scares the living daylights out of me. i am trying to enjoy it but lack of symptoms is really worrying me, I have not slept very well the past couple nights so really shattered . My OH works away between 7-14days at a time so feel a bit isolated. I haven't told anyone else as i don't want to speak to soon in case it goes wrong.When do people normallly tell their close family and friends? Is it normal to worry excessively about this? I also heard you can have a miscarriage with no blood so you wouldn't know about it, is this true? I am normally relaxed happy go lucky person but don't think i will til 12wks when I get the scan.
Luv Dusty

 

[lfc_sarah]

Its up 2 u when you tell them, when you feel comfortable.
Most wait until after 12 weeks when the risk of misscarriage lowers

Good luck x

 

[sarah113]

hi and congratulations

 

[Becky]

Hiya,
When you tell your friends and family depends entirely on you. I've always told my mum and dad early on as I would depend on my mum's support as well as my OH's to get through any problems.

As Sarah says, the risk of miscarriage does lower after 12 weeks and also it's around this time you have your first scan so many people wait until they have had confirmation that all is ok.

Try not to worry as 4 out of 5 pregnancies don't end in miscarriage so the chances are not that high that you'll have a problem.

Hope this helps, try not to worry

 

[Laura_James&Amber]

Welcome to the forum

 

[trixipaws]

hey, congratulations and welcome to the forum!

i think it is normal to worry especially in the first 12 weeks- but babies are resilient little things- i didnt kno i was preggas until i was 6 weeks and had been doing all sorts of things VERY dangerous for pregnancy! so was extremely worried and i didnt have very severe symptoms either. try not to stress about it too much
i told everyone straight away but some like to wait until 12 weeks its personal choice

 

[rach]

hi and welcome try not to worry xxxxxxx

 

[Bee]

welcome to the forum

All the best for your pregnancy - there's loads of info and a great community on here

 

[mummykay]

congrats and welcome

 

[Sugarhigh]

Welcome to the forum hun

I'm sure everything will be fine!

wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy

 

[EllieBelle]

Hi hun and welcome to the forum

Its totally natural to feel anxious and scared in the first trimester!! I promise it does get a little easier as the weeks go on!

Feel free to ask as many questions you need to, and you will find everyone so warm and welcoming - I dont think I would have gotten through the last 23 weeks without all the wonderful people on here

 

[cez8457]

Hiya welcome to the forum

I told my family when i was about 7 weeks and asked them not to tell anyone else until i was 12 weeks.

Try not to worry i know thats easy said than done.

 

[xjdx]

Hiya

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Hi welcome to the forum
congratulations on your pregnancy
id wait till 12 weeks everyone is right the risks are reduced then
i know its hard not to worry and everyones in the same boat when they first get pregnant and have our babies its all new to us all we learn as we go its a rollercoaster ride but oh so worth it!!!!!!!
You will find so much help and support from the forum the girls are so lovely

Sarah

 

[kelsey]

Hi

 

[mermibridg]

Hello and welcome to the forum
I'm new to the forum too. I'm 35 and I'm 6 weeks pregnant and its my first too. I'm currently doing a 6 hours commute so I hope when they find out that's going to stop too. Do you miss the flying?

I can really sympathise with all the worrying. I thought as soon as I was pregnant I would be so happy that all the worries would be miles from my thoughts but all I do now is worry about something going wrong. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow but don't know when my first scan will be. I hope it might be earlier than 12 weeks as I think that would make me feel better to have had a scan and know everythings in the right place.

I'm also quite isolated as my family are miles away and I don't have any friends where I live as I travel a lot for work. I'm sure we'll both make lots of friends on the forum though so you don't have to feel alone anymore

I was going to tell everyone at 12 weeks but I've been off work two days so I might have to tell work sooner rather than later. I have only just started getting symptoms. I'm sure you'll have some too so don't worry too much. We're all different. Just make the most of the good nights sleep you're getting at the moment!

MMB

 

[BountyBoo]

Welcome And Congratulations!!