New to forum and need some advice!

[Keekeers]

I took some home pregnancy tests last friday and they were very faint positives, I took one monday that showed a much quicker/visible positive. I went to the hospital on monday as well for blood work, tuesday I received a voicemail from a nurse I've never spoken with telling me "Don't worry you aren't pregnant" which sent me into a fit. I've had 2 miscarriages and I really wanted this pregnancy to work out. I called back that nurse very upset she left me that voicemail like that and I ask her how i have numerous pregnancy tests that are showing positives and how every day that goes by it becomes more visible that they are positives also that they are different brands. She tells me that I probably had a miscarriage then because there is no way I'm pregnant my results are negative. She canceled my 48 blood test without speaking with me first (I was supposed to get that done this past wednesday), she just says I already canceled your blood test for wednesday you don't need to go in anymore and that is all she can help me with.

Wednesday comes around I take another at home pregnancy test..again its a visible positive. Its not getting weaker the positives are showing much more visible. I call the office upset about what happened with that nurse and to get help because I'm scared. I wasn't explained anything I was just told this is how it is and goodbye on the phone after a upsetting voicemail.
They said I can come in Thursday.

It's Thursday I go in to do the urine test and it comes back negative. Then she explains its a miscarriage but also starts talking to me about a chemical pregnancy, I honestly started zoning out/crying harder. The only thing I can get out is the pregnancy tests I'm taking are positives. She starts telling me that they will get weaker because I'm not pregnant. I told her I took one this morning and right away I'm looking at a positive. Before they were weaker and now its stronger. I don't even have to wait the full waiting time for that brand for a positive result. She tells me I bought a box of faulty tests. This sets me off! I tell her how can I buy a bad box if I'm buying different brands from different stores and they are all showing up as positives. Friday I could barely see them but now they are show up as quick positives. They aren't getting weaker what is happening is the exact opposite.

I've bought cheap $1 ones that weren't showing last friday so I put them away but I decided to try those out one more time and there is a postive, I've bought expensive ones that showed weak positives last friday but are quickly showing positives within seconds today. I've gone to different stores to buy them. I have no idea what else to say to her.

She talks about inducing a period instead so we can get me regulated. At that point I'm just done with listening to her. I told her I want my blood work done today (which i went and did) and tomorrow I'll get the results from that. Right before I left my appointment she tells me she looked over my results and saw some of the levels/values, whatever it is called, have gone up so there is a super slim chance I am pregnant but she really doubts it. This was told to me while I'm standing at the desk around people.

I'm upset that my 48 blood work was canceled and I have no idea why they would even cancel that, all I can think of is what if my results changed in that 48 hours but instead you decided to break my heart with a voicemail and uncaring phone call. I'm upset that I've been told I'm not pregnant/I had a miscarriage/I'm going to have a miscarriage/there is a small chance I'm actually pregnant but doubtful/lets induce your period. I've gone through so many emotions but the biggest ones coming through is grief and paranoia. Grief because they are telling me I'm not pregnant or I've miscarried already. Paranoia because in my head and heart I feel like I am pregnant but I caught it extremely early so they don't believe me when they do their own tests. I feel like if my values/levels have increased even slightly that is the opposite of me having a miscarriage. If pregnancy tests I've taken that showed me negative at first are now showing positives there is no way I'm not pregnant or I'm having a miscarriage.

I'm sorry I'm going into this rant, I'm so confused about everything and I'm starting to obsess over these at home pregnancy tests. I'm planning on waiting 2 weeks after I get the results from this blood work before I touch a pregnancy test again.

Is it even remotely possible that I'm really early in my pregnancy?
That my early detection pregnancy tests caught it (barely) and that as time has gone by the pregnancy tests are just confirming that I'm right? How can I have so many positive pregnancy tests (that are showing up faster every single day) from different brands from different stores but im being told I'm not pregnant or I've already had a miscarriage from one blood test with my second one canceled.

I just don't understand how my at home pregnancy tests come back stronger but I'm being told they are actually weaker since I've miscarried already. It's making no sense to me and I'm losing my mind!

Has something like this happened to other people? Am I having some bizarre phantom pregnancy only I know about and only my tests are positive??

Also sorry if this isn't the right thread :/

 

[WinterWolf]

That is really bizarre. My advice would be to go to a completely different doctors surgery and explain what's happened. It's possible they've mixed up your blood tests or contact details somewhere along the line. If you've had a few different brands coming up positive then you're pregnant, or something else is going on that needs investigation. The tests at doctors offices aren't as sensitive as the home ones so they don't even bother with them at a lot of places. The way you have been treated is absolutely disgusting, I would be putting in a complaint. It's not acceptable. I hope you get some answers soon xx

 

[Jade jones]

I'd sue them for being so neglectful of your feelings and metal health then I'd take all the pregnancy tests to a different doctors explain how you've been treated and as them to do a full body check bloods urine ect and repeat it every 48hrs for a week to get a definitive answer

 

[night owl]

Have you got pictures of the positive tests you can post? Did you show the positive tests to the doctor? Sounds like your doctors haven’t bothered doing your blood tests properly, maybe the first one did come back negative as it was too early on but then sounds like they didn’t bother to do any more after that. Hope you get some answers

 

[Keekeers]

That is really bizarre. My advice would be to go to a completely different doctors surgery and explain what's happened. It's possible they've mixed up your blood tests or contact details somewhere along the line. If you've had a few different brands coming up positive then you're pregnant, or something else is going on that needs investigation. The tests at doctors offices aren't as sensitive as the home ones so they don't even bother with them at a lot of places. The way you have been treated is absolutely disgusting, I would be putting in a complaint. It's not acceptable. I hope you get some answers soon xx

Once I finally got the order for another blood test yesterday, did it, I received a call from the doctors office that I've been seeing for all of this congratulating me on my pregnancy. Monday on the beta-hcg test I was 3 but today I'm 38 now. Now I'm no longer having a chemical pregnancy, it's all normal. I couldn't even feel excited about this because of everything they've told me.
I made an appointment with my Primary Doc, they are going to run tests to make sure I'm pregnant (everything is normal) and he is going to help me find a new OB in our area. I would like to get everything done in the next week but once I switch OBs I'm planning on leaving them a bad review and lodging a complaint.

 

[Keekeers]

I'd sue them for being so neglectful of your feelings and metal health then I'd take all the pregnancy tests to a different doctors explain how you've been treated and as them to do a full body check bloods urine ect and repeat it every 48hrs for a week to get a definitive answer

I don't think I'm brave enough to sue someone but if all of this makes me miscarry from the stress, I'm going to talk with my husband about us getting a lawyer possibly. I honestly just want to get away from them and set up with someone new fast. But yeah they called me today congratulating me on being pregnant and that I did test positive for pregnancy when they made me feel like I was nuts. My primary Doctor is seeing me Monday and checking to make sure I am pregnant (and that everything is alright) then he is going to help me find a new OB.

 

[Keekeers]

Have you got pictures of the positive tests you can post? Did you show the positive tests to the doctor? Sounds like your doctors haven’t bothered doing your blood tests properly, maybe the first one did come back negative as it was too early on but then sounds like they didn’t bother to do any more after that. Hope you get some answers

I took pictures to my appointment Thursday showing her the ones I took that morning, the time stamp and the waiting period for results on the tests then how quickly the positives showed blah blah blah...she didn't care. I was planning on sneaking in 4 different ones when they ask me to come back in (I pee in a cup first thing for the appointment) and showing it to her right when I hand her the cup so she could explain how that works to me. I'm planning on finding a new OB next week and my Primary Doc is helping me out with everything till then but I was called today by my OBs office congratulating me on my pregnancy and how its normal now. Normal early pregnancy. :I

 

[Jade jones]

glad you got a bfp just try and not stress out too much xx