Never give up hope...

[Apple2018]

Hi ladies

I have been on this forum for awhile now and have had many ups and downs. With a short luteal phase, periods that are classed as "regular" periods by doctors but varied 27 to 32 days. Also what seemed like an eternity watching everyone get pregnant bar me and having to constantly hear 'just relax and it will happen'.

Well i got my bfp just before i got referred to the fertility clinic and my hubby awaiting sperm analysis results! I was 3dpo when i got what i thought was my period but turned out to be breakthrough / implantation bleeding. I must have ovulated earlier than my opk predicted. Once my 'period' was over and i was getting a good few days of brown discharge i got a positive opk on 'cd12'.
A friend suggested testing and i got my bfp.

The reason i write this is because I know how hard this journey is and how it can knock you...hard. But here I am 35, had a short luteal phase of 9 days (most i ever got was 10 days) and crazy periods at times and still managed to get pregnant. I would read up on ttc constantly and thought it would never be me.

The month i conceived i was using menstrual cups after sex for the second month using this method, used fertility gel as per usual and fertility meditations for the third month running. I used cheapie opks and clearblue when the cheapies got darker.

So please do not give up hope ladies. It will happen for you. I think with getting the referral moving and tests done for that made me more relaxed in a way as i knew i was going to get help. I really do think relaxation is the key and found fertility meditation useful and uplifting at the same time.

Keep up the good work ladies and please feel free to ask any questions xxxx

 

[Kitana]

Congrats Apple! How long were you ttc for?x

 

[Apple2018]

Congrats Apple! How long were you ttc for?x

6 months. Away to get a referral to the fertility clinic as with nhs scotland if you are over 35 you get referred after 6 months ttc.
But the 6 months felt more like 6 years! Everyone was preggers apart from me and i thought there was something wrong with me.

 

[SockVortex]

Hi ladies

I have been on this forum for awhile now and have had many ups and downs. With a short luteal phase, periods that are classed as "regular" periods by doctors but varied 27 to 32 days. Also what seemed like an eternity watching everyone get pregnant bar me and having to constantly hear 'just relax and it will happen'.

Well i got my bfp just before i got referred to the fertility clinic and my hubby awaiting sperm analysis results! I was 3dpo when i got what i thought was my period but turned out to be breakthrough / implantation bleeding. I must have ovulated earlier than my opk predicted. Once my 'period' was over and i was getting a good few days of brown discharge i got a positive opk on 'cd12'.
A friend suggested testing and i got my bfp.

The reason i write this is because I know how hard this journey is and how it can knock you...hard. But here I am 35, had a short luteal phase of 9 days (most i ever got was 10 days) and crazy periods at times and still managed to get pregnant. I would read up on ttc constantly and thought it would never be me.

The month i conceived i was using menstrual cups after sex for the second month using this method, used fertility gel as per usual and fertility meditations for the third month running. I used cheapie opks and clearblue when the cheapies got darker.

So please do not give up hope ladies. It will happen for you. I think with getting the referral moving and tests done for that made me more relaxed in a way as i knew i was going to get help. I really do think relaxation is the key and found fertility meditation useful and uplifting at the same time.

Keep up the good work ladies and please feel free to ask any questions xxxx

Whilst I agree in theory about relaxation, every time I hear that it makes me feel like it’s my fault that I’m not pregnant yet.

Plus how relaxed does one need to be anyway? I have a stress free job and a pretty comfortable life. I don’t feel stressed at all.

 

[soffphie]

Whilst I agree in theory about relaxation, every time I hear that it makes me feel like it’s my fault that I’m not pregnant yet.

Plus how relaxed does one need to be anyway? I have a stress free job and a pretty comfortable life. I don’t feel stressed at all.

I agree sock. With me and my lucky cycle I dont think i was relaxed per say. Friday 1st of 3 we argued and i got v upset and wound up etc cause a) 2nd bad sperm result b) husband not performing c) it dawned on me ill be past 31 before having baby etc.. it was a simple inject sperm up job!
Saturday we just woke up and just did it. I think he felt he had to be quick about it incase issues (lol). Sundays was a normal try tbh...
I personally think for us the sperm result had changed and wasnt bad. Basically march he had 10m but everything else excellent. Junes 44m but everything else crap so i was devastated! I think the June "everything else crap" was wrong personally and that we had successfully changed the only thing that needed changing (the count) and so we was good to get pregnant now.

So no around tries i wasnt relaxed at all. I was also worrying b4 tries as body wasnt ovulating at all in my mind.

I realised had i gone by OPKs that cycle i wouldnt have caught i dont think cause basically my surge was sunday and i ovulated sunday! We only dtd to cover ourselves for the weekend as we was at my parents.. and fridays was only cause imo he had all dead sperm that needed ridding of now..
So no, opks didnt help us either!
Just got darn lucky that the situation happened as it did.

 

[SockVortex]

I agree sock. With me and my lucky cycle I dont think i was relaxed per say. Friday 1st of 3 we argued and i got v upset and wound up etc cause a) 2nd bad sperm result b) husband not performing c) it dawned on me ill be past 31 before having baby etc.. it was a simple inject sperm up job!
Saturday we just woke up and just did it. I think he felt he had to be quick about it incase issues (lol). Sundays was a normal try tbh...
I personally think for us the sperm result had changed and wasnt bad. Basically march he had 10m but everything else excellent. Junes 44m but everything else crap so i was devastated! I think the June "everything else crap" was wrong personally and that we had successfully changed the only thing that needed changing (the count) and so we was good to get pregnant now.

So no around tries i wasnt relaxed at all. I was also worrying b4 tries as body wasnt ovulating at all in my mind.

I realised had i gone by OPKs that cycle i wouldnt have caught i dont think cause basically my surge was sunday and i ovulated sunday! We only dtd to cover ourselves for the weekend as we was at my parents.. and fridays was only cause imo he had all dead sperm that needed ridding of now..
So no, opks didnt help us either!
Just got darn lucky that the situation happened as it did.

I'm really glad it happened for you, Sophie

 

[Kitana]

6 months is a short time! You're lucky you caught so quickly!x

 

[Apple2018]

6 months is a short time! You're lucky you caught so quickly!x

Yeah but it felt like a lifetime! That's why i always said hats off to the ladies trying longer as i struggled just with the 6 months! Xx

 

[Apple2018]

Whilst I agree in theory about relaxation, every time I hear that it makes me feel like it’s my fault that I’m not pregnant yet.

Plus how relaxed does one need to be anyway? I have a stress free job and a pretty comfortable life. I don’t feel stressed at all.

Yeah see what you are saying. I think what made a difference for me was that i was relaxed for a change as have anxiety and a stressful job xx

 

[chattychar1990]

You are very lucky to fall pregnant after 6 months. Congrats x

 

[Apple2018]

You are very lucky to fall pregnant after 6 months. Congrats x

I consider myself very lucky. I don't know how you ladies do it! You are strong women! These six months have felt like a lifetime and with me thinking there was something wrong because I wasn't a textbook case x

 

[liz85]

Congrats!! X

 

[miamia]

congrats x