Need help with surname please!!

[giuliaplus2]

I am engaged to the father of my unborn b/g twins and we are not getting married until the beginning of 2016. So my last name is Warren and fiancé's last name is Cole
Which name should I give my children? Should it be Cole, Warren or Warren Cole / Cole Warren? Fiancé thinks we should name them Cole, since I'll be taking his name once we get married, but it's still a while till then and I think it'd feel strange if my children had another lastname than mine...
The boy's first name will be Milo and the girl will either be a Poppy, Blair or Evangeline (Evie). Still working on middle names. So should sound good with those names too

What do you suggest?

 

[tinselcat]

If you're planning on getting married and taking his name, then personally I'd go with just your future husband's surname. xx

 

[Kaylip29]

I agree, its only a year to wait until yours will be the same, plus it saves a whole lot of hassel once your name is the same as your husbands, you won't have to worry about changing their names! X

 

[megsmeadow]

My ds has oh's surname, we've been engaged since the month before he was conceived. The only time it's been very odd is when we went on holiday with oh's sister who despite being Miss M on the booking they automatically assumed she was ds mum not his aunt!!
The twins will have your surname while you're in hospital though. So ds shared my name for a wee while

 

[Holi]

My lg was born in July 2013 and we are getting married feb 2015 so had over a ear of different surnames and because I knew id be joining them soon I really didn't mind!

Bare in mind that I don't think it's that easy to change a babies name? So if you gave them your maiden name, them wanted to change it once you were married it might be a pain - might be wrong tho but worth looking into! Xx

 

[Poispinner]

Me and my OH are not even engaged (but been together 13 years!) and our children would take his surname . As has been said if u are getting married soon then its probably easier that they take his now. I know how u feel though, having a different surname to ur children is the only thing that bothers me about not being married.

 

[giuliaplus2]

Thanks ladies! Seems like the majority seems to suggest my fiancés name. You've all made pretty good points! And by the time the babies are here it'll be less than a year till I'm going to change my name... So I guess we'll go with his name then - that's going to make him happy hahah!

 

[Nemi]

I looked into this when I wasn't married and ttc.

Legally if you give your children your OHs name then they stick with it. If you give then your maiden name then you can then legally change it to your OHs name when you get married. (I found out from the CAB website a while ago) Personally that is what i would do as I would hate to have a different surname from my children, but it depends on if you can survive with a different one for a little while.

I hope that helps.

and congratulations, twins!! How wonderful!

 

[OMGbabyno3]

My children are double barrelled, even tho we were engaged years before conceiving. We had planned to double barrel when we married but I've decided to take his name instead.

Really pleased that girls are double barrelled, as it keeps my name going too. They can always choose if they want to drop one.

x

 

[Lyllian]

Id give them his, its a bit of a faff trying to change their names once your married, a hassle you could do without! My lo has my maiden name as one of her middle names if you want to keep it in there somewhere.

Plus Milo Cole just sounds so good!

 

[CARNAT22]

We have no intention to ever marry and son has OH's name, as will this baby!

I think if you are getting married and going to take his name anyway then babies should have his surname?

X

 

[Londongirl]

I didn't want to change my name when I got married but my twins have my dh's surname, mainly because I couldn't be bothered to argue the point and I think it mattered more to him than me. I personally don't mind having a different name - it doesn't make me any less their mummy! Maybe I will mind when they go to school?

Congrats on twins, it's hard work but amazing!

 

[LaceyKeo]

I'm gonna go a little against the grain here.

Only you know what's right.

My ex and I were together 8 years (not married). My boy has MyName-HisName as his last name (other way round didn't "roll" right.

I'm the last in my family line. I know it meant a lot to my dad to have our last name included (this did not, however, help from my decision as I didn't know until after).

Could you double barrel your babies surnames, then when you get married double-barrel your name instead of changing it completely? (Of course you could, I mean is this something you might want/have thought about?).

Just another perspective.