Like a couple of the other girls on here I'm wondering about still keeping in touch with some people in my family. Basically it's my grandparents on my dad's side. My mum's side of the family aren't particularly wealthy, are pretty down to earth and generally very forgiving and kind. My nan and grandad have set Ryan up a bank account and spent far too much money on us, but they live in a warden-run home in scotland and my nan pays 20p to play bingo every tuesday evening with the other women there, and they hold raffles for 10p and other sweet old lady things. I got in touch with a "auntie and uncle" on my mums side too who I haven't contacted in years and years and they want to meet Ryan and keep sending little notes saying they never tire of his photos and hope I'll stay in touch. Another auntie died recently - I don't know much about her but I got Ryan's birth announcement card to her before she died which makes me feel glad to know. My family on my dad's side have always been a bit funny. They bear grudges about the silliest things. The grandparents the most though. They never sent me a card or anything for my 21st because they thought the birthday card I got grandma was "inappropriate" (it was a photo card with a picture of a cat on... nothing wrong with it but they thought it wasn't fitting to a grandma-aged lady if you know what I mean, thought it too modern). Ok I let that one go cos 21st was no biggy to me, I'm not much into birthdays. I sent out birth announcements and sent them one and they replied ages later saying grandma had been ill and might not make another year, but they got my Ryan card. Oh did I mention they are *loaded*. I sent grandma a box of diabetic chocolates to say get well soon, and they sent a £30 cheque for Ryan. It was around the time of the postal strikes. I swear to god I replied saying thankyou but it never arrived. So I got a card for christmas for us all but nothing else. This might sound ungrateful but if you knew what they are usually like - well, they are paying my brother's Uni tuition fees and sent him and my younger brother big cheques for christmas, I mean big cheques. I was a bit gutted to be honest. They didn't send anything because they thought I was ungrateful for not saying thank you, and the cheek of it to send them photos and a christmas card (that I'd sat and made with Ryans photo on) without thanking them for the cheque. I'm not bothered about the money because we aren't struggling... but I just feel a bit sad for Ryan that his loaded relatives sent him nothing at all for his first christmas (got a little present list in his memory box). It's the principle of it. I sat down and wrote an apology letter, I didn't call them over christmas because I was amazed they didn't contact us. I just said "sorry, Ryan's been teething, I've not been well and sorry for not being in touch and the thank you letter didn't get through etc". But I haven't sent it because I don't know if I should bother. Compared to my mums side of the family, they have treated me like sh*t (took my dads side when I left home because he beat me up, look down on me because I didn't go to uni etc even though they knew I couldn't afford to). I feel like I should try and involve them for Ryan's sake as my grandma is dying, but at the same time should I really keep making an effort and falsely grovelling when they are being ridiculous in the first place? Sorry for how long that is, I've been meaning to type it since christmas. And again please don't think I want their money as that's not why I contacted them in the first place.