MIL (monster in law)

[Bee7]

I really really cannot stand my MIL lol. I've always found her to be a bit bitchy and petty - like shes always got a nasty comment to make about someone even if it's just over something pathetic. I know she's not too keen on me and the feeling is mutual but because of OH and Jack i feel like i have to be civil to her and it's just getting so hard lol!

When OH was being an idiot a few weeks ago she was really nasty to me. He was totally in the wrong but she defended him 100% which is understandable, but then started making out that I was to blame. Then on fathers day she rang him at 9am to see if he'd got a card. I was still in bed at this point and hadn't had chance to give him it so obviously he said no. I then wake up to a horrible txt off her telling me how selfish and out of order i am! What's it got to do with her? Even if i hadn't sent him one (which i always would) is it really her place to have a go at me? I tried telling OH this but he just likes to keep the peace and just shrugs it off.

Then the other day OH asked her to babysit without even checking with me as we were both going out separately. I didn't leave any of Jack's bath stuff out because OH said he'd be home in time to bath and feed him, which he was. But she'd taken it upon herself to bath him which meant she'd gone through all of the drawers to find his stuff. Everythings clean but some were a bit messy and i just know she would love bitching about how disorganised and messy i am.

Its really getting to the point where i can't stand the woman and i'm dreading things like birthdays and christmases because i know she'll take massive offence when i don't want to spend it with her, especially now we have Jack too. But i really don't want to spend any time with her, never mind special occasions and it's actually all her own doing for being so mean in the first place. I just wish OH could see where i'm coming from because it's starting to cause rows between us. I understand she's his mother but we're also his family now and i just feel like i'm constantly picked on and nobody defends me. My mum never gets involved in our rows, even when OH does really out of order things.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! Sorry, rant over. x

 

[littlemuffin]

It's really funny as I have come on here to rant about my MIL and now it will be monster in law, and I will have a little laugh to myself if I ever have to introduce her to anyone.

I can't believe she sent you a text like that. How rude. I'm surprised that she didn't have a go at you for not being up.
I live with my MIL, and it's a nightmare. I can't wait to move out. If M has a bad night and I am up for hours then go back to bed when M is sleeping she will tell people that I am having a lay in. I have heard her on many occasions.

Right now she is sitting on the sofa playing a game with her feet up. And the house is a tip, but it's nothing that belongs to me, DH or M, it's all there crap everywhere. She is dirty and I can't wait to move out.
Try living with your MIL!

 

[steffy]

Haha, i love it! I also call my MIL monster in law.

I have the same, i do not want to spend time with the woman. She is constantly telling me I am doing things wrong with abi and interfering. Now i dont mind advise, but im a nurse and im not stupid at all. Always telling me how to feed, asking why abi is on special milk, she would be better on the breast blah blah blah. Thing is i had a huge blood loss after labour, ended up in hospital for 5 days and although i attempted breast feeding i didn't have enough. Then after that i bought an electric pump and it didn't matter how often i expressed i got 5 - 6oz a day maximum. But she makes me feel like its my fault i didn't produce the milk for her.
We had the same on fathers day and when OH said yes i got a card and present she wanted to come over and look like she didn't believe us! She came over on mon and bcas she hadnt seen abi for 3 days she said oh she has changed so much and ive missed it!! in 3 days?? stupid effin cow!
I know there will be a row about where we go at xmas but we alternate families and its my families turn this year - im fully expectin a hissy fit but she can bollox, i cant just change how its done as its not fair on my family. She always asks when we are seeing her family and goes on about abis uncles, aunties and great grandmas (her side) and asks when we are seeing them yet never even considers when i see my family.
She asked us when she could babysit and was telling us we should go out and spend time as a couple. First thing, she is not babysitting my child and second is im just not ready to leave abi yet. Just feeling like im being pushed into it.

I think its best just to realise we shall never be able to do anything in their eyes. I'm just going to ignore her from now.

 

[VikkiR]

Im sick of people that ought to know better peeing me off, mentioning no specific people
Do what I've just done, book a holiday over the Xmas period - job done no one knows yet tho eek! xx

 

[littlemuffin]

We are with his parents this year but spending Xmas eve with my parents so they will see M First ha ha ha