Blackroseuk
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Ok I'm not saying I'm not ready anymore for a bay but there's one thing that's been worrying the hell outta me! Im worried during pregnancy and after my husband won't find me attractive or want sex. His sex drive has always been low apart from when we first met and during dialysis years ago we went for extremely long dry spells that broke us up. We are so much closer now being older and having experienced so much together. However latley his sex drive has decreased again and he never seems to be in the mood. Partly cos hes put weight on and feels unsexy, partly cos if his steroids he has to take, partly due to not being healthy enough to feel awake and energised or relaxed a lot of the time (doesn't do much cos he doesn't eat right). But I'm worried it's more than that.
He has always said he thinks it'll be sexy to have sex when I got a bump and I'll look beautiful and sexy.
However I asked him the other day would me having a baby effect how he sees me as in my goodies so to speak cos the baby would've come out of me and be making use of my breasts if I breastfeed which I plan to. He's not one for breasts so much anyway but loves my bum and legs more. He replied I don't know yet. I asked him what does he think at the moment...will he have a problem when the time comes? He said at the moment I don't think so. I said if he loves me it shouldn't be a problem.
Having read just now on google links tons of people saying their husband or boyfriend doesn't want sex or anything anymore since they got pregnant or got bigger and even months or years after the baby! I don't want to be one of those people , especially as I'm a real romantic cuddly kinda person who needs the comfort and closeness. I've gone through this kinda thing before loads times and don't wanna go through it again, especially cos he's not asking for sex now. He's even worried that he won't want sex or feel sexy when it's time to TTC. That's ages away!
These women say their men go off and watch porn but wont touch then or show any interest!
I understand some men feel with a baby on the stomach their wives would be uncomfortable or they feel unsure it'll harm the baby and get discouraged because their touch makes their wife sore. Another big thing is that the baby makes the man feel they arnt alone in the sex, especially if baby is kicking. That's understandable as I'm sure it would put most men off. But to be like that with your wife or girlfriend and even after the baby is ridiculous! I know it's tiring and new and all and effects the father greatly but even months afterwards or years??! I'm really worried now!!
He has always said he thinks it'll be sexy to have sex when I got a bump and I'll look beautiful and sexy.
However I asked him the other day would me having a baby effect how he sees me as in my goodies so to speak cos the baby would've come out of me and be making use of my breasts if I breastfeed which I plan to. He's not one for breasts so much anyway but loves my bum and legs more. He replied I don't know yet. I asked him what does he think at the moment...will he have a problem when the time comes? He said at the moment I don't think so. I said if he loves me it shouldn't be a problem.
Having read just now on google links tons of people saying their husband or boyfriend doesn't want sex or anything anymore since they got pregnant or got bigger and even months or years after the baby! I don't want to be one of those people , especially as I'm a real romantic cuddly kinda person who needs the comfort and closeness. I've gone through this kinda thing before loads times and don't wanna go through it again, especially cos he's not asking for sex now. He's even worried that he won't want sex or feel sexy when it's time to TTC. That's ages away!
These women say their men go off and watch porn but wont touch then or show any interest!
I understand some men feel with a baby on the stomach their wives would be uncomfortable or they feel unsure it'll harm the baby and get discouraged because their touch makes their wife sore. Another big thing is that the baby makes the man feel they arnt alone in the sex, especially if baby is kicking. That's understandable as I'm sure it would put most men off. But to be like that with your wife or girlfriend and even after the baby is ridiculous! I know it's tiring and new and all and effects the father greatly but even months afterwards or years??! I'm really worried now!!
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to assure him I told him he won't have to give up all the spare time. I know it'll be much more tiring and all that I can even imagine but I plan on taking the baby out a lot once it's settled in. I go for coffees a lot with my sis (who is also trying at the same time!) and I go shopping whereas hubby doesn't. He will still get some relaxation and gaming time lol!
, we do still indulge in doing the deed when im not feeling tired but his sex drive has usually been very high! 
