Meet the parents!

[megsmeadow]

Well since getting engaged last September and obviously now with bubs on the way I feel we really have to introduce mine and my OH's parents to one another!!! I don't see it going down too well them meeting in the postnatal ward somehow.
So I have no doubts they will get along very well but the problem is finding a way to introduce them that is informal with no pressure.
OH thinks a restaurant would be too much pressure. I thought we could have a BBQ at our house but my mum really doesn't like the dog in the same room (she freaks out!!) and his mum loves the dog to bits and I don't think she would see that it's a problem. So I don't want there to be issues from the outset.
So does anyone have any ideas on how to introduce the parents to one another??? Should have really done this before Christmas but time ticks on.....

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Hmmmm............

What about going for sunday lunch maybe in a nice country pub? Or a casual get together at your local? Then its totally informal and relaxed....

Its a hard one....xxx

 

[titch]

yep we've had the same problem. We ended up going to a regatta, and my OH came with his parents, they chatted for about 5 mins and that was it. Lol. but at least theyve laid eyes on eachother!! I think next it has to be a sunday lunch in a pub or something, nothing too formal like dinner out in a posh restraunt. Its really hard isnt it, when you just want everyone to get on!

 

[megsmeadow]

I'm glad it's not just us!! I just had lunch with my folks and they said just a pub lunch or something would be fine. Problem is my dad can be a bit funny, it has to be somewhere he is comfortable as he's registered blind and my mum usually reads out the menu so if it's somewhere he knows he can usually decide what he wants before he goes, he's a proud wee man!!
I think it'll have to be a sunday lunch or something!!

 

[titch]

My OH's dad is also funny about eating out. He gets 'bad nerves' which I dont really know what that means but basically doesnt really like going anywhere new, and gets stressed out if he doesnt know what will be available. I wonder whether he's autistic sometimes!! Your Dad has a very good reason to worry about it though. Some restraunts our way put their menus online so you might be able to get hold of it the night before? I can imagine not wanting ot be read to infront of in laws!!

My mum just rang and is inviting them to sunday dinner at their house on Sunday. Shes gonna ring his Mum tonight. I bet they say no lol

 

[megsmeadow]

If it's somewhere local he's been already he'll be fine. My mum is awful about food, no garlic.....at alll.....not even a hint!!!! And OH's dad doesn't eat anything 'fancy'. The place I went to with them this avo would probably be ok actually.
Your mum sounds like a brave woman!! I hope they say yes!! And if not, at least she's made the effort!!

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

Good luck MM - a nice pub lunch sounds relaxed enough

 

[megsmeadow]

Thanks! I've just mentioned it to my OH and he said he'll plant the seed with his folks!

 

[titch]

good luck!!! Im waiting to hear back from my mum about whether OH's parents are coming to my parents for sunday lunch. Would be fab if they did but Im not convinced. I think my lot are gonna meet after the baby is born at this rate! At least we've tried though eh?

 

[tiggerbounce77]

A pub lunch sounds like a good idea, if you contact the pub before you go they may be happy to email or fax a copy of the menu to you then your dad will know what he has to pick from before you go

 

[vixforever]

LOL we've not even done this yet! Might have to be in the postnatal ward for us at this rate

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

My parents have never met O/H mum cos she's not involed in laceys life but they've met O/H dad. He was acting like the proud grandfather to start with but we haven't seen him in over a year now so I think the novelty has worn off! They did kinda get on with him but found him very false and well he's proved he is false now!! I'm sure your parents will get on with your in laws though!

 

[megsmeadow]

Well we've 'planted the seed' on both sides. Seems there will only be a couple of weeks available as my folks are on holiday then OH's folks go away (for a month) a few days after I'm due. Since this is my first I'm likely to go overdue, so OH's folks probably won't get to see LO for weeks, nevermind meeting my rabble!

 

[FebMum2Be]

Oh dear, I hated the meet.. My OH only met my brothers when I was like 7 months pregnant I was so scared, I am the baby see... But if they can't meet up beforehand it can't be helped.. They will all be on such a high when the babys born there will be no awkwardness and fumbled words Just smiles and baby!x

 

[titch]

we had the meet last weekend and I have to say it went shockingly well. OHs dad was really chatty and jokey which was totally out of sorts. He hates animals and kept fussing the dog and throwing a ball for her.

Unfortunately the next day he had a ministroke, he's alright but still in hospital, so we're guesssing the personality change was down to that, long may it last!!