firstfreakout
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Max, I had cramps from when I found out at 3 weeks until about 8 weeks. I'm now 9+4 and still get the odd cramp very low down too. Usually cramps aren't a negative sign as everything is changing and stretching, but also it's quite normal to have PMS cramps around the time your period would be due as your body gears up to miss it.
I saw your other thread in the TTC board and I would honestly stop testing for now. You got a positive first response and a positive digital so you're definitely pregnant, and any further testing before your period is due is just going to worry you if it isn't what you expect.
There are SO many reasons why a test might be lighter than a previous one. Most commonly it's because of diluted urine. Sometimes it's because the HCG levels are so high it actually results in a lighter test (called the hook effect).
If you're worried about your levels/tests because of your previous struggles then you can always go to your GP for some piece of mind. They might do a urine test there or refer you for some blood work to check the HCG.
We're really hoping this is it for you! But woman - stop testing!
Hiya af was due today and didnt come which is good. I had some symptoms disappear this morning mainly the nausea. Thats what happened when I had my MC. I woke up one morning and didnt feel sick so thats why I am worried. I think I prepared myself for the worse and just want to know. I wish I never had a MC before. What happened before is stopping me from feeling happy. Sorry for being negative but I think deep down I just know it wont be good news for me.
Although I've never had a miscarriage I can completely relate to the feeling of having one experience affect how you feel and how you think. I had an absolutely awful labour and post labour experience where I almost died and spent 2 weeks unable to bond with my newborn, and because of this I spent the first 3 weeks after finding out I was pregnant CONVINCED this time I am going to die after delivery. I'm struggling to be happy about this pregnancy (despite it being planned and wanted) because I'm so so worried about going through the same situation.
If you look for similarities between this pregnancy and your previous one you'll find them, but if you look at facts instead of feelings you'll see there is still much to be hopeful about. You've now missed your period and you've had a positive test. Although your symptoms are coming and going this can be so normal, and not every pregnancy is the same for the same woman.
I think getting an appointment with your GP might be beneficial because you can talk to them about how worried you are and get them to reassure you about the next steps. Also if your previous MC isn't on file it might be worth putting it on there so they can be more understanding of your feelings towards it all
Honestly the only thing that'll make you feel more positive is time. When we get the positive test, we then worry our period will come. When we miss our period, we worry something will go wrong before the scan. When we have a healthy scan, we worry about the baby developing a defect by 20 weeks. When we have a healthy 20 we scan we worry about pre term labour and delivery. And then when we're holding our healthy baby we worry about something going wrong in the first year. And so on. And this is even the case when we've never had a traumatic experience to draw from.
Maybe for the next few days try to take your mind off of it. Do something for you and spoil yourself. Try to stay positive. Even though I know it's so much easier to be prepared by focusing on the potential bad.
our bodies can be so cruel at times. Take care of yourself and i hope to see you back on here as soon as you are ready 
I'm absolutely gutted for you. I hope your physical recovery is quick, no doubt it will take time for your emotional recovery. Please look after yourself and I hope to see you back here soon xxx
