May 2017 Mummies *NEW*

[nikkix86]

aw lisey that's great! I've love a pink one

 

[lisey]

I didn't have a preference after all we had been through but I have always dreamed of having a girl. I never thought it would happen though. My sister has three boys and she has always said to me how I would be the same and not have a girl. I don't know why i believed it cos she can't possibly know lol but when you hear something enough I guess!!

I can't believe it, I am officially in tri 2!!! Xx

 

[Eryinera]

Yay congratulations

 

[Emily0505]

Woohoo to Tri two!!

I'll be over there in a few days too!!

Eeek!!

XX

 

[nikkix86]

woo congrats on getting to tri 2!

 

[Eryinera]

Off to work soon.
Scan tomorrow argh.
Sickness high
Nerves higher lol
Found out last night I get enhanced maternity pay. So looks like I may be on maternity for 16 weeks rather than the 6 I initially planned.
Please be OK little nugget. X x x I don't know how you girls did it!

 

[lisey]

It's exciting. I am so desperate to shop more but feel like I should wait. I will probably buy stuff and then find things I prefer nearer the time
Ery, lovely bumpage xx that's good about maternity. I think I just get stat maternity pay. Need to check really, I am not really sure how much that is. How long is everyone planning to take off? I want to take the max! Is it a year you can have? Xx

 

[kabuk1]

Yay, Lisey! There are a few of us that'll be joining you over the coming days. Can't wait to make that move to tri2.

Nikki, glad your mum is here for support. Like what was said earlier, you may have to ignore his texts, otherwise he may not stop. Plus it'll help keep your sanity.

Ery, just one more sleep. Looking forward to hearing the good news after your scan!

 

[Eryinera]

Stathe mat is 6 weeks at 90% pay then the rest of the 39 weeks at 90% or something like £144 a week whatever is less then you can have up to 52 weeks unpaid. **I think** we are doing shared paternity so I'll probably take 16 weeks and give hubby the rest up to 52

 

[Mayday17]

I was planning on working up until 4 weeks before dd, but realistically there is only so many light duties that can be done! I'm now considering coming off closer to the 11 weeks before dd and may not go back to work! Oh says he doesn't mind if I dont go back to work and to be honest childcare where I live is awful!! That's great so many of you are In or so near to tri 2 a bit of a wait for me yet! Xx

 

[Mayday17]

How do you girls get the tickers on your posts!? Xx

 

[snowbee]

Mayday if you click on one you like it should take you to the page it was made on and then you can make your own.

lisey happy tri 2 and 14 weeks! What type of UK break would you prefer? City, country etc? And what time of year are you thinking?

Ery and Emily you both have great bumpys already! And only one sleep until scan now Ery!

 

[snowbee]

Nikki pleased your mum is about for you, I hope you get the house you want too Don't get dragged into arguing pointlessly with him you will just stress yourself out.

I'm not sure what I'm doing with 'time off' as my job is a bit unusual. I think I'll be back for the odd hour as soon as I'm feeling up to it (with the little one when the tasks allow), for example we pregnancy scan cows every 6 weeks and I can still do the paperwork as normal which will be a huge help to my husband than leaving him to cope on his own. I've also got to be up there anyway every day as my two horses are there and need looking after, so it is easy ish to pop and do a small task for him to help him out.

 

[kabuk1]

I'm planning on working until I'm due. I haven't looked into maternity leave here yet. I need to. Wishing I were in a mainstream school now as it would defo be better leave. However, I'm teaching a school that is part of a youth club. I love the job and don't miss mainstream, but as it's not very well funded, I have a feeling I'll only be entitled to SMP. That's okay. I'll stay off until Jan 2017 and then may only go back as part-time 3 days per week for the rest of the school year. We haven't decided what will happen beyond that time yet.

If my dw gets her pay raise by summer 2017, then I may look for a new part-time post closer to home (I travel about an hr each way). Assuming buying this flat doesn't fall through, we'll be doing a loft conversion into an en-suite for an au pair. It'll add value to the flat and an au pair is so much cheaper than nursery. I'd like to work 2-3 days a week and once the baby is 18 month, then we might do part-time nursery 2-3 days a week for interaction with other children. Plus we can get a Dutch speaking au pair as my dw is Dutch and we want the child to speak it. I'm working on my Dutch, understand quite a bit but have a bad habit of responding in English. I was au pair and loved it, so we are hoping that'll work out to keep costs down and let me work part-time.

We are hoping that in Jan that my in-laws can come stay with us for a little to help out. They run a B&B in Ireland, so Jan-Mar is off-season, so we are quietly hoping they'll be interested, which I think they will be, but for how long is the question.

 

[Rachel82]

I'm going to be in a redundancy situation at the end of March. I'm hoping they will make me redundant so I get my contractual redundancy pay. I'll also get my SMP as I'll be past my qualifying week. If they redeploy me I'll be taking the full 12 months and I'll also have to tag my annual leave for the year on somewhere, which is almost 6 weeks, so over 13 months in reality.

 

[nikkix86]

ooh ery it's so close!

I ended things with oh he said he needs 2 weeks I said no stress isn't good for me or the baby and he won't budge so called it a day. need to for my sanity lol feeling OK though just keeping hopes up about the house! need to keep things calm for me and baby! hoping to be moved by Xmas!

 

[Leighwiltshire]

Nikki, im in the same boat as you! OH drinks a lot and when he drinks he becomes verbally agressive to me, saying he doesnt want the baby etc, then cried when i took him to the scan - work that one out

anyway...

i have applied for a house near to my parents and i havent told him, if i get a house i will give him the choice to come with me or do it myself - i think i will end up doing it myself he is very selfish and his mates and pub comes before me and his daughter he has now

i try not to worry about it i know my family will stand by me and the only thin important to me is my little bean! we will see how things go but im not hopeful. he will have a rubbish day at work or get grief off his ex and im the one who he takes it out on. ive moved my whole life to be with him and now regret it - dont regret my baby but regret leaving everything behind for a man!

i believe things happen for a reason! and what will be will be keep strong for your little bean

life is sent to test us xx

 

[lisey]

Nikki, good for you. I bet you will feel great relief once you get used to it all. My sons dad was a bit like him and once I completely broke it off with him, I felt so free from stress and worry. A great weight lifted.

Ery, thanks for the advice on maternity. I don't think we have the option for shared maternity/paternity but it wouldn't work for us as OH earns well and he found out the other day that he only gets stat paternity pay (he is not happy!!). Stat matenrity won't be so different from my normal pay as I am only a part-timer etc.

Snowbee, I like country breaks but I really don't mind any suggestions of areas xx

 

[lisey]

Nikki, im in the same boat as you! OH drinks a lot and when he drinks he becomes verbally agressive to me, saying he doesnt want the baby etc, then cried when i took him to the scan - work that one out

anyway...

i have applied for a house near to my parents and i havent told him, if i get a house i will give him the choice to come with me or do it myself - i think i will end up doing it myself he is very selfish and his mates and pub comes before me and his daughter he has now

i try not to worry about it i know my family will stand by me and the only thin important to me is my little bean! we will see how things go but im not hopeful. he will have a rubbish day at work or get grief off his ex and im the one who he takes it out on. ive moved my whole life to be with him and now regret it - dont regret my baby but regret leaving everything behind for a man!

i believe things happen for a reason! and what will be will be keep strong for your little bean

life is sent to test us xx

Leigh, him being verbally aggressive is not on. That can so easily go to physical. I am not saying it would but it can happen.
My Dad used to be verbally abusive to my Mum when he was drunk and it is not a good childhood when you hear and see that. I hope he can sort himself out for you xx

 

[Leighwiltshire]

i know lisey - ive promised myself if he doesnt change then im not bringing a child up in that environment!

i never argue back i just take it all in but its not fair and it hurts, my child wont be brought up around that xxx