M/C has started

[KarolinaMoon]

hey all,

I started getting mild cramp pains last night, and bleeding a bit more heavy. This must be the start of the m/c. I havent had to take any painkillers yet, and so far it is very like my usual period. Just wondering if it will stay steady like this, or if it will become more severe. I have the painkillers at the ready....and hoping my body will do it's job. I am just relieved that it has started the natural process, as relieved as I can be in these circumstances
xxxx

 

[Kayelle]

Aw hun so sorry this is happening to you
Best to be in the idea that it will get worse, so u are prepared!
Just look after yourself x x x

 

[kanga86]

Hey Hun, I just copied this from my thread from when I had my mc in June. Hope this gives u an idea of what it was like for me.

Hey ladies just thought I would update u all. Last night around half ten I had a gush of blood, I felt it happen so legged it to the loo, it filled the new pad I just put on and the toilet water was a dark red!! Scared the crap out of me! I then thought wow it could actually all be over for me soon, bad I know but I need to move on and not be in limbo.

The cramps started off shortly after, like strong period cramps, and every hour til 5am this morning I was passing a 50p sized clot. At 5am the cramps got quite bad, cant compare to labour pains as never been pregnant before, and I sat on the loo til around 6am where I broke down crying. I hadn't slept all night because of the pains so I just had had enough. My oh was a sleep all night as he has work today and I didn't want to disturb him, thought I was coping ok. The cramps got quite a bit stronger,so much so that I couldnt concentrate to talk! Myth went downstairs and got me some pain killers, we only had co-coda mol, so took some and crashed out.

I still can't feel any cramps, and not long woke up, I went to the loo where more clots came out. Is this all I am to expect or is it going to get worse? Should I go to the hospital to see if they will help me out? I am going crazy doing this all naturally and really don't cope well with blood! It really is messing with my head and not sure I could cope all day like this on my own! Xxx

 

[kra0]

I'm sorry hopefully you won't have to go into hosp now. Can't comment if pain will get worse or how or when it will get worse as I had the medical management. But from when I took the tablets, it started off with mild cramps and period like bleeding which both worsened as the day went on. Have the painkillers handy and be good to yourself xxxx

 

[KarolinaMoon]

Hey,

Thanks Kayelle, and Kango . I think you are right Kayelle, defo best to expect it to get worst and be prepared! Kango thanks so much for sharing your experience with me, from what I have read, everyone experiences it different, but the pain and blood loss seem to be severe for most. I havent had any gush of blood yet, it really is like a normal period, only clotty! I have been warned by M/W to expect bad cramps and to pass a jelly like tissue. hmmm...sounds lovely!! I guess that the body has to get rid of the gestational sac and other pregnancy tissue in there, which in order to do so the uterus has to contract and produce lots of horrible pain!! So I think this is only the very beginning for me....it's just a waiting game now for when the tissue will pass....
I havent told family about this, they didnt even know I was pregnant, and I have to go to a family thing this weekend, and will be staying at my Mum's, really dont want to cause them upset and worry so would rather keep this from them!! Just hoping it all doesnt kick off this wkend!!!!

Thanks again for your kind words of support ladies....xxxxx

 

[CARNAT22]

I am glad hun (that is a sick thing to say but I know you wanted it to happen natrually)

Mine was an incredibly painful period, I had waves of pain in my uterus for about 24 hours before it eased off. I took some pretty strong painkillers but it still hurt like Hell.

That said I remember I actually doing some chores whilst it was happening and I even cooked dinner, not that I was hungry. For the most part though I was curled up in bed with tea and magazines.

As well as the pain, I bled pretty badly for a few days [my periods are heavy anyway so it was bad] I was changing my towel every few hours and leaked a bit during the night.

BUT I was kind of relieved as I knew my body was doing what needed to be done.

I went to EPU 3 days after M/C for an internal (my womb was empty and I didn't need any more medical assistance) and was back at work that same day. Mine occured over the Bank Holiday weekend so I didn't even take any time off of work

It's a horrible thing to happen but at least it's happening how you wanted it to.

If things do start to get worse for you maybe you can rethink the weekend thing? Or else just tough it out? My family and OH's knew about M/C but I decided against telling anyone about my recent chemical pregnancy.

Lots of love and cyber hugs to you

xxxxxxxxxx

 

[KarolinaMoon]

Hi Carnat,

Thanks hun!! I'm not really getting an awful lot of pain yet, it feels like it might be building, and I know that in order to pass all the tissue, there kinda has to be pain!!!
I know what you mean about feeling relieved, even just to have the inevitable start, is a relief. I was kinda beginning to wonder maybe they had got it wrong!! But now at least I know it was never meant to be
I didnt know what to do with work, I kept going in until last friday. Id been to m/w and she was saying that I should really take it easy, when she asked what date suited for my next appointment I was trying to fit it all in around work, when she said work can wait!! lol . I feel a bit of a cheat for taking time off work, as I know I could tough it out. But my work is quite demanding and I take quite a bit of verbal abuse!!! I had visions of a really bad day of taking cr*p and then breaking down!!! Also a very good friend who i work with is pregnant, and talks constantly about her plans!!! It was becoming more and more difficult to cope with, knowing my preganancy wasnt to be

Its horrible not knowing how, if or when this is going to kick off !! I have thought of putting off the weekend, but my mum would be soo disappointed!!! I think I will just tough it out and hope nothing dramatic happens!!!

Thanks for your support xxxx

 

[TORino]

Sorry to hear you are going through it, but glad it has started so it might be over soon for you.

FWIW, I had the medical management which induces the cramps to happen quicker etc. I didn't find it that bad pain wise. I didn't even take any drugs to be honest. So it might not be as scary as you think.

I hope it is over soon for you x

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Its good its started, now there wont be any faffing and you can deal with this difficult time in peace xx hugs xx

 

[CARNAT22]

Hi Carnat,

Thanks hun!! I'm not really getting an awful lot of pain yet, it feels like it might be building, and I know that in order to pass all the tissue, there kinda has to be pain!!!
I know what you mean about feeling relieved, even just to have the inevitable start, is a relief. I was kinda beginning to wonder maybe they had got it wrong!! But now at least I know it was never meant to be
I didnt know what to do with work, I kept going in until last friday. Id been to m/w and she was saying that I should really take it easy, when she asked what date suited for my next appointment I was trying to fit it all in around work, when she said work can wait!! lol . I feel a bit of a cheat for taking time off work, as I know I could tough it out. But my work is quite demanding and I take quite a bit of verbal abuse!!! I had visions of a really bad day of taking cr*p and then breaking down!!! Also a very good friend who i work with is pregnant, and talks constantly about her plans!!! It was becoming more and more difficult to cope with, knowing my preganancy wasnt to be

Its horrible not knowing how, if or when this is going to kick off !! I have thought of putting off the weekend, but my mum would be soo disappointed!!! I think I will just tough it out and hope nothing dramatic happens!!!

Thanks for your support xxxx

Oh I wasn't suggesting for a second that you should have carried on working my dear - I just wanted to give you a time frame (I know we are all different of course) and mine was about 3 days.

Keep well - make sure you eat and drink. If you feel rotten at you Mum's makes your excuses and rest.

lots of love

xxxxx

 

[KarolinaMoon]

Have just spent the past hour passing huge clots and tissue.....I had moderate waves of cramps and it took me by suprise, felt the urge to pee, and out it came!! (sorry tmi!!!). still getting mild to moderate cramping, but not much blood, just passing tissue in unexpected bursts!!! Seems very different to what others have described!! Unless this is still just the begininng?? Im not sure....
Im alone, hubby is at a meeting, but been texting him thoughout, and he wanted to come back, but I am ok so far

xxxx

 

[CARNAT22]

Have just spent the past hour passing huge clots and tissue.....I had moderate waves of cramps and it took me by suprise, felt the urge to pee, and out it came!! (sorry tmi!!!). still getting mild to moderate cramping, but not much blood, just passing tissue in unexpected bursts!!! Seems very different to what others have described!! Unless this is still just the begininng?? Im not sure....
Im alone, hubby is at a meeting, but been texting him thoughout, and he wanted to come back, but I am ok so far

xxxx

No-one can say for def how this is going to go for you, but hopefully it wont get much worse?

In all honesty there isn't much hubby can do and I ended up telling my OH to pi55 off to his Mum's for a few hours when I had my M/c (he was driving my nuts with the tea and sympathy!)

The more "stuff" that comes out the better though? It's better out than in.

I suggest going back to EPU when things calm down so they can scan and make sure it has been a complete M/C and then you need to take some time to get through this

xxxxxxxxx

 

[TORino]

I'd say you are likely to have passed it hun. This is exactly what happened to me, it all came out in one or 2 plops like that, that's when I had the worst of the cramps.

Have the epu said you have to go back for a follow up scan to check it has all gone? It is important you have this done because left over tissue can get infected and cause the mc to last weeks and weeks.

You'll probably find that the bleeding will be heavy for a few more days and then it will taper off and become more annoying than anything else.

Xx

 

[VikkiR]

Big hugs, I hope it doesn't get unbearably painful for you xxxxx