Ladies who are pregnant from fertility treatment.

[snowbee]

I think go with what you feel comfortable with. A simple yes or no would answer most people (or you could just say I don't know much about my family history so I'm unsure). Without testing the answers out you can't always predict what they may say next.

 

[Blueflower]

At our antenatal class last night she said soon after the birth the midwife asks you what contraception you will use and said we will be super fertile just after giving birth. Most of the girls said "oh no!" but I kept quiet and the other girl who had ivf's husband was comforting her. I am very unlikely to conceive naturally after waiting so long this time and not even using my own eggs so will the midwife still have that conversation with me do you think? Do they tend to be more tactful if you struggled? It will say on my notes how old I am too!

 

[snowbee]

I'll bet they say it regardless. Depending on how I've found the rest of the pregnancy and the actual birth will depend on my answer. I'll either go with took us a long time and treatment to get this far so we will risk it as we would like another or never fear I'm never doing this again contraception all the way!

 

[millielaura]

I know quite a few people who either struggled to conceive or who had multiple miscarriages who conceived their 2nd baby super quickly within a few months of birth and have all be ok!

Not sure what I'm doing ntnp wise as it would be unfair to Imogen if I had another so soon after if I got hg at the start again but then part of me thinks having just had a pregnancy might make things better for a next pregnancy being sticky too as my body knows what to do. I def wont be having contraception though after what the pill did to my cycles.

When I was in for monitoring yesterday one of the midwives was talking to the other about her love life and how she was done and she jokingly pointed at my bump and said thats what boys do to you. Lol I really wanted to say actually my fertility nurse did this to me haha.

All our friends and family know about our losses and about my pcos and our iui's etc. Xxx

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[Blueflower]

Yeah one comment on Facebook was "that's what doing it twice in one evening gets you!" If only they knew! Probably guessed actually and it's just a joke cos everyone knows how long it's been.

Maybe we will use something for a year just in case cos another baby with twin toddlers would be very hard and then not bother with anything as it's so unlikely to happen!

 

[lisey]

I am not sure what we will do contraception wise, technically we could get pregnant but for some reason wasn't happening. I wouldn't want to be pregnant too soon after though as I get too sick in pregnancy and couldn't cope with that and a young baby, along with my son. I will likely go on the pill to prevent endometriosis pain, not sure if it will be better or worse after pregnancy xx

 

[Eryinera]

I honestly don't remember them asking at all after my son. I remember them warning me I was going to be very fertile and said if i was concerned to speak to the gp. But no "what do you plan on doing" etc maybe it's changed in 8 yrs though lol

 

[Browneyed Girl]

They did ask me after I had my lo, I don't think your history comes into it to be honest. I just said it wasn't an issue and it wasn't - assisted delivery with an episiotomy saw to that! The midwife at my booking in appt with this baby said she sees it so often where the couple had ivf for their first baby and then got pregnant without trying for the next one. I know stories like that can seem so unlikely but it did happen to me and I'm the last person that thought I'd have another baby! xx

 

[FBTTN8079]

We've already decided that we won't be using contraception ever, it took us a long time to get here & if by some amazing chance we ended up pregnant without assistance (which they've said is very doubtful) then it would just be amazing

 

[Jasmine111]

This has been a bit of a pet hate of mine. Every time a midwife or health visitor says to me "we need to speak to you about contraception". I just say politely you don't need to as I can't conceive naturally. They ALWAYS say to me "I had a friend who had ivf who was told they couldn't conceive naturally and ended up getting pregnant naturally with their second" etc..

I feel a bit uncomfortable as I feel like I have to tell them that I had tube ligation which I don't like doing but it shuts them up lol xx

 

[Blueflower]

Yes maybe if I tell them my eggs were no good it might shut them up. My colleague keeps saying I might easily have another one afterwards, it's really annoying. Like all the old clichés we heard when LTTTC! "It only takes 1!" etc.

 

[Clementine]

We didn't go down the IVF route however no one should feel pressured into telling people their personal business.

 

[star101]

Hi ladies, I posted this in tri 2 forum last night in a panic but I think this might be a better home for it. Hopefully I can get some opinions on this here but I am going to contact the midwife today too.

I'm 13 weeks pg with twins from ivf. I've been on fragmin injections, progesterone pessaries and prednisolone up to now. When I was discharged from the ivf clinic at 8 weeks they said I would probably stay on these for longer than 12 weeks as I have twins.

My gp prescribed them from 8 to 13 weeks up to my first consultant appointment yesterday. Unfortunately there was some medical crisis with a patient while I was in the waiting room and the consultant got taken away for surgery. This wasn't explained really and I didn't realise I wouldn't see him at all. I saw another doctor who was also rushing to be in surgery who immediately said I could stop all of the drugs now. When I said what the ivf clinic had said he then prescribed me a bunch of progesterone for 6 weeks? I am a bit disturbed at how quick the decisions were made as he needed to get out of the room to go to surgery. I am worried to just stop the others as I have no idea if they are still supporting my pregnancy to any degree. It all seemed too rushed.

Anyone else with a twin pregnancy on these drugs, how long did you stay on them? Mine are each on their own placenta btw.

Thanks for your input (also I know I need to wean off prednisolone not just stop!) Xxx

 

[Blueflower]

Star, I had to stop everything at 12 weeks but had started to ween off the steroids before then. Can you ring them today to check. I got the fertility clinic to contact the GP as it seemed sudden and I was concerned.

Clementine I wouldn't tell everyone, it was just that we heard the midwife routinely asks you about contraception after the birth!

 

[Laura1992]

Hi ladies, I have not been through FT myself, but I was watching a youtube video the other day and wondered your thoughts on it as you have been through this journey.

The video was from quite a popular American couple on youtube (they make videos on there for a living) that have been through FT themselves and went through many years of not getting pregnant, clomid cycles and eventually got BFP through IVF and had a little boy. 18 months later, they were surprised to find out they were pregnant again, so now they have two children.

They seem like truly lovely people and parents, but I am really uncomfortable about the fact that they made a video a few days ago announcing that in order to celebrate 1 million subscribers, they will be doing a competition to fund an IVF cycle for one couple. You have to send them a 2 min video about your "infertility journey" and then they will pick their favourites and upload their videos onto youtube for the public to "thumbs up" if they like them. Whoever gets the most thumbs up will get their IVF funded by them.

So I understand the lovely gesture behind it all, and wanting to give back, but it just really sits uncomfortably with me to turn someone's very personal and emotional struggle into almost a reality show/competition? It feels like "send your begging videos in and if you're lucky, we'll pick you". I'm sure they don't mean it this way, but I feel like it would be much kinder and more meaningful to just donate the money to a clinic and they can decide. Or put names in a hat so it's fair.

What do you ladies think? Interested to hear your thoughts. xx

 

[Blueflower]

That does seem very public and I agree it would be better to give the money to a clinic, but they don't sound like the sort of couple who would do anything behind the scenes! I expect there will be couples willing to make their private lives public in order to win treatment though. I wouldn't!

 

[snowbee]

It isn't for me, we are quite private people. I'm sure they won't be short of entries though and it is a nice idea to gift money to someone struggling to pay for treatment. How they would tell if people are genuine or not though is another story!

 

[Papermoon]

Hi ladies, I have not been through FT myself, but I was watching a youtube video the other day and wondered your thoughts on it as you have been through this journey.

The video was from quite a popular American couple on youtube (they make videos on there for a living) that have been through FT themselves and went through many years of not getting pregnant, clomid cycles and eventually got BFP through IVF and had a little boy. 18 months later, they were surprised to find out they were pregnant again, so now they have two children.

They seem like truly lovely people and parents, but I am really uncomfortable about the fact that they made a video a few days ago announcing that in order to celebrate 1 million subscribers, they will be doing a competition to fund an IVF cycle for one couple. You have to send them a 2 min video about your "infertility journey" and then they will pick their favourites and upload their videos onto youtube for the public to "thumbs up" if they like them. Whoever gets the most thumbs up will get their IVF funded by them.

So I understand the lovely gesture behind it all, and wanting to give back, but it just really sits uncomfortably with me to turn someone's very personal and emotional struggle into almost a reality show/competition? It feels like "send your begging videos in and if you're lucky, we'll pick you". I'm sure they don't mean it this way, but I feel like it would be much kinder and more meaningful to just donate the money to a clinic and they can decide. Or put names in a hat so it's fair.

What do you ladies think? Interested to hear your thoughts. xx

Wow that is something! Do you have a link to the youtube video?

 

[Laura1992]

I'll PM it to you papermoon, I don't want to advertise it xx

 

[Papermoon]

Okay cool thanks Laura!