*:*:* July Testing Thread *:*:* 3 BFPs

[treetrunks]

It's so faint but thought I'd show and tell anyway lol xxx

Yeah, I can see it. Might be a week before you go to negative again but track your cm as I ovulated on cd9 after last months chemical.

I will get some opks, I cant tell by CM really I dont think.
How are you feeling about tomorrow? Im sorry the bleeding has continued for you, there's not alot I can say really to make you feel any better xxx

 

[_GG_]

It's so faint but thought I'd show and tell anyway lol xxx

Yeah, I can see it. Might be a week before you go to negative again but track your cm as I ovulated on cd9 after last months chemical.

I will get some opks, I cant tell by CM really I dont think.
How are you feeling about tomorrow? Im sorry the bleeding has continued for you, there's not alot I can say really to make you feel any better xxx

Well, there's sweet f a I can do about it so I'm in the lap of the Gods so to speak. Feeling pretty resigned to it being bad news to be honest so...I just have to wait til the morning x

 

[treetrunks]

I see it also, you have better lines on the Superdrug's tests though, have you done any of them? Is anything happening with seeing a specialist about catching but not been able to keep them? Xx

I cant get anywhere without oh sperm analysis. I would have been seen by now via referral.
I wrote a letter to him on Saturday, explaining I can't keep doing this every month as its seemingly unnecessary and unfair on me. I said how many months it seems to happen and that possibly I could just take a tablet and chances could improve.
I think he just cant be bothered. There can be no other explanation.
In which case I think he just has to avoid my ovulation time.
I think he seriously believes it will happen 'if its meant to happen'.
He did see the gp about another issue, but while he was there asked about his fertility and managed to get fobbed off with some tale of 'a simple sperm analysis won't tell you if you are fertile' but instead of him explaining we are trying to get investigations he just accepted it and left.
At the moment he is so tired from working he gets annoyed if I pester him about anything at all.
So maybe that's the way it is. I think I have to start knitting or something haha and give up on the idea.
But I agree GG the egg reserve is concerning as time is ticking by... Maybe I have to accept that it might not be the plan for the future.
Im up in the air with it all ATM xxx

 

[treetrunks]

No Holli, I haven't done anymore Superdrug tests, because they are out of stock and also I concluded with the bleeding that if im not getting a good line on a 15 miu Im not pregnant anymore or at least chances would be extremely slim xxx

 

[_GG_]

Ah TT. I've written letters before when I've really needed to make a point without an argument.
I do think there's only so long you can skirt kindly around the issue though. At some point, you need him to step up and give a shit...because this is so important to you. That might sound harsh, but actually, he is the one person who should want to care for you more than anyone else but on that score, at the moment, he's really letting you down.

Big hugs xxx

 

[holli]

Do you think maybe he's scared that the problem is him? I know my oh would be devastated if it was him xx

 

[treetrunks]

Ah TT. I've written letters before when I've really needed to make a point without an argument.
I do think there's only so long you can skirt kindly around the issue though. At some point, you need him to step up and give a shit...because this is so important to you. That might sound harsh, but actually, he is the one person who should want to care for you more than anyone else but on that score, at the moment, he's really letting you down.

Big hugs xxx

Thanks GG, I think he buries his head in the sand and hopes it will go away.
The strange thing is he really wanted a baby, he was so excited the first few times now he just expects it to end. He says he will go to the GP but I think he's putting it off for some reason.

Hmmm.

Big hugs to you too, at least tomorrow you can get some answers and they can refer you for anything that could help? Xxx

 

[treetrunks]

Do you think maybe he's scared that the problem is him? I know my oh would be devastated if it was him xx

I wonder all kinds of things, I know because he smokes so much that his sperm are possibly low motility and maybe not strong and healthy as they should be. But he wont be told anything.
If he really wanted a baby he'd give up smoking and he knows they will tell him that he needs to give up if we are to have any success.
I think its something that needs alot of thought now. Xxx

 

[BeckyBoo6747]

Hang in there TT I'm sure eventually he will come round.
My OH is exactly the same TT 'oh it will happen soon if it doesn't it doesnt
Not a clue what us women go through emotionally

 

[holli]

Aww TT men can be frustrating some times, can he not use those vape pens? Xx

 

[Sk8erzeh]

I know what you're going through TT. We tried for over a year and I seemed to be the only one on an emotional rollercoaster. He always seems to be nonchalant about the whole thing. This year I sat him down and told him what was going to happen. I put my foot down so to speak. I stopped telling him when I was ovulating but I made sure we dtd at the right time. I know it sounds like a military takeover but I had to take control lol.

 

[treetrunks]

Hang in there TT I'm sure eventually he will come round.
My OH is exactly the same TT 'oh it will happen soon if it doesn't it doesnt
Not a clue what us women go through emotionally

Thanks Becky, I hope you get your BFP soon, fingers crossed it won't take very long xxx

 

[treetrunks]

I know what you're going through TT. We tried for over a year and I seemed to be the only one on an emotional rollercoaster. He always seems to be nonchalant about the whole thing. This year I sat him down and told him what was going to happen. I put my foot down so to speak. I stopped telling him when I was ovulating but I made sure we dtd at the right time. I know it sounds like a military takeover but I had to take control lol.

Thanks Sk8, I dont know, maybe he just isn't that keen. He has no problem wanting to dtd but then seems happy to let the necessary tests go.
I might have to put my foot down and say no until he does his side, oh I dont know im in alot of different minds at the moment.
Hope your pregnancy is going well, any early scan planned? Xxx

 

[treetrunks]

Aww TT men can be frustrating some times, can he not use those vape pens? Xx

He did try and used them for a few weeks, but he's a long term smoker since being a teenager so its a hard habit to break. I understand that I suppose but he just needs to get the tests then I can at least get going with fertility.
Anyhow, its not the end of the world, if I knew we couldn't have children I would just stop focusing on it and move on, but all the maybe I am or maybe im not drives me crazy lol xxx

 

[holli]

Aww TT men can be frustrating some times, can he not use those vape pens? Xx

He did try and used them for a few weeks, but he's a long term smoker since being a teenager so its a hard habit to break. I understand that I suppose but he just needs to get the tests then I can at least get going with fertility.
Anyhow, its not the end of the world, if I knew we couldn't have children I would just stop focusing on it and move on, but all the maybe I am or maybe im not drives me crazy lol xxx

You could really do with sitting down and talking if you can get him to do that, try and get him to open up what's really on his mind, if he's just worried that it's to do with been told to stop smoking or if he's worried about something else, least that way you know where you are xx

 

[_GG_]

Morning ladies. No baby...on to the next cycle.

Fingers crossed we all get our BFP's soon xxx

 

[Sk8erzeh]

I know what you're going through TT. We tried for over a year and I seemed to be the only one on an emotional rollercoaster. He always seems to be nonchalant about the whole thing. This year I sat him down and told him what was going to happen. I put my foot down so to speak. I stopped telling him when I was ovulating but I made sure we dtd at the right time. I know it sounds like a military takeover but I had to take control lol.

Thanks Sk8, I dont know, maybe he just isn't that keen. He has no problem wanting to dtd but then seems happy to let the necessary tests go.
I might have to put my foot down and say no until he does his side, oh I dont know im in alot of different minds at the moment.
Hope your pregnancy is going well, any early scan planned? Xxx

Midwife called, did everything over the phone (odd). Said I needed a higher dose of folic acid coz of my epilepsy. My seizures only occur in my sleep, maybe 3 or 4 times a year so I'm not on any medication. She did say i need to prepare myself for the possible increase in seizures. That scared me shitless coz I haven't had any this year. Other than that, everything seems to be ok for now

 

[Sk8erzeh]

Morning ladies. No baby...on to the next cycle.

Fingers crossed we all get our BFP's soon xxx

Oh dear, sorry to hear that GG. At least there's no more uncertainty so you can plan properly next month
Fx

 

[treetrunks]

Morning ladies. No baby...on to the next cycle.

Fingers crossed we all get our BFP's soon xxx

Been thinking about you, sorry to hear that. Big hugs xx
Did everything look ok? Could they see anything at all or?
Did they give any advice?
I just got a miscarriage leaflet xxx

 

[treetrunks]

I know what you're going through TT. We tried for over a year and I seemed to be the only one on an emotional rollercoaster. He always seems to be nonchalant about the whole thing. This year I sat him down and told him what was going to happen. I put my foot down so to speak. I stopped telling him when I was ovulating but I made sure we dtd at the right time. I know it sounds like a military takeover but I had to take control lol.

Thanks Sk8, I dont know, maybe he just isn't that keen. He has no problem wanting to dtd but then seems happy to let the necessary tests go.
I might have to put my foot down and say no until he does his side, oh I dont know im in alot of different minds at the moment.
Hope your pregnancy is going well, any early scan planned? Xxx

Midwife called, did everything over the phone (odd). Said I needed a higher dose of folic acid coz of my epilepsy. My seizures only occur in my sleep, maybe 3 or 4 times a year so I'm not on any medication. She did say i need to prepare myself for the possible increase in seizures. That scared me shitless coz I haven't had any this year. Other than that, everything seems to be ok for now

Oh that's worrying but controllable?
Im surprised you even got a call from the midwife, here they dont do anything till 7/8 weeks midwife wise.
How much folic acid have they told you to take? Xxx