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January mums?
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I'm sure some January mummies will be along soon Hey Bunny! Congratulations!! I saw your other thread; those bfp lines are amazing. I will almost definitely be a January mom (I tend to go pretty late, at least a week) so I will be posting here too. And we are both expecting baby 4!!! So cool!
My first was 10 days late then our second was 5 days early which totally surprised me! With the third I went into labour on my due date, although he was born at 2am so didn't quite make it. This time I'm just hoping I don't go into labour on new years eve, lol.
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Im sorry to hijack this thread but bunny and knoll... can I ask whether you found it really difficult jumping from 2-3 with relatively small age gaps? Im pregnant with our (very much wanted) third and will have a 5 and an almost exactly 2yo when this one arrives and I have been trying to seek out mums of 3 for their experience. Cant be that awful if you have both gone in for another! 
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Congrats!!! Xx
I’m sorry to hijack this thread but bunny and knoll... can I ask whether you found it really difficult jumping from 2-3 with relatively small age gaps? I’m pregnant with our (very much wanted) third and will have a 5 and an almost exactly 2yo when this one arrives and I have been trying to seek out mums of 3 for their experience. Can’t be that awful if you have both gone in for another!
I won't lie, there were days that it was really hard and the house spends more time looking a tip than I would like to admit but there are great moments too. Once our youngest got to a year old I found it a lot easier. I was thinking about posting a similar thread about mum's who have gone from 3 to 4, lol.
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Im sorry to hijack this thread but bunny and knoll... can I ask whether you found it really difficult jumping from 2-3 with relatively small age gaps? Im pregnant with our (very much wanted) third and will have a 5 and an almost exactly 2yo when this one arrives and I have been trying to seek out mums of 3 for their experience. Cant be that awful if you have both gone in for another!
I won't lie, there were days that it was really hard and the house spends more time looking a tip than I would like to admit but there are great moments too. Once our youngest got to a year old I found it a lot easier. I was thinking about posting a similar thread about mum's who have gone from 3 to 4, lol.
I think you should definitely start a thread, sure there will be some mums who can share experiences XX thank you for replying to me and sorry again for asking in your thread xx
No problem, feel free to join in!
I think one of the biggest things is letting go of perfection but that is the case with two LOs also. There are times when the baby has to be left crying while you mop up the container of milk your toddler just poured on the floor or your toddler wants attention and you have to change the babies nappy etc. I try to keep things tidy enough in the house to run smoothly but even on the best days you have to let go of the details a bit
. Getting the older kids envolved with tidy up etc definitely helps even though it feels like it would be easier just to do it all yourself to start with.
I think one of the biggest things is letting go of perfection but that is the case with two LOs also. There are times when the baby has to be left crying while you mop up the container of milk your toddler just poured on the floor or your toddler wants attention and you have to change the babies nappy etc. I try to keep things tidy enough in the house to run smoothly but even on the best days you have to let go of the details a bit
. Getting the older kids envolved with tidy up etc definitely helps even though it feels like it would be easier just to do it all yourself to start with.Yes, my kids are expected to do "chores" with me. Even if they aren't exactly helpful at first, my oldest can now actually wash dishes and fold her clothes properly. She tidies up her toys and puts everything away. My son is... getting there. And even if they're not really doing the chore the right way, it at least allows me to get the housework done as they "help" instead of having them creating a mess elsewhere or demanding something. I also think it's a vital life skill to start early, and it helps them not take me for granted and it helps me not feel like a resentful maid to my children!
For me, going from one to 2 kids was BY FAR the hardest. It absolutely broke me. Part of that was my son's temperament; he was colicky and unsettled all the time. He's still a very fiery, passionate little guy but now (except for the tantrums haha) he's an absolute delight. Communication changed everything; when he started talking and understanding, our dynamic became a lot easier.
I am nervous about going to 4, especially cause I don't know how I'd handle another colicky baby (or a baby with medical needs, or something, I mean who knows what this baby will be like and of course my mind spins with the possibilities) and now I'm convincing myself that by writing it out I'm dooming myself to something... but of course it doesn't work that way.
How are you both feeling?
For me, going from one to 2 kids was BY FAR the hardest. It absolutely broke me. Part of that was my son's temperament; he was colicky and unsettled all the time. He's still a very fiery, passionate little guy but now (except for the tantrums haha) he's an absolute delight. Communication changed everything; when he started talking and understanding, our dynamic became a lot easier.
I am nervous about going to 4, especially cause I don't know how I'd handle another colicky baby (or a baby with medical needs, or something, I mean who knows what this baby will be like and of course my mind spins with the possibilities) and now I'm convincing myself that by writing it out I'm dooming myself to something... but of course it doesn't work that way.
How are you both feeling?
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That's exactly it, even though it isn't exactly helpful at times the fact that they are 'helping' me means they are not ransacking something else. Some of the time they hate it but sometimes they actually enjoy it and have fun and it means I am spending more time with them.
I found going from one to two easier than I expected. I think that is because our 1st was a hard baby and got easier as a toddler. Our second was a much easier baby. I worry about this one being like our 1st too. I didn't exact find going from 2 to 3 harder just more constant. When there was 2 I would get moments in the day when things were quiet. With 3 there is always something going on and someone needing something which gets a little wearing sometimes.
I found going from one to two easier than I expected. I think that is because our 1st was a hard baby and got easier as a toddler. Our second was a much easier baby. I worry about this one being like our 1st too. I didn't exact find going from 2 to 3 harder just more constant. When there was 2 I would get moments in the day when things were quiet. With 3 there is always something going on and someone needing something which gets a little wearing sometimes.
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Thank you so much girls, I think the chores thing is a really good tip and I’ll be putting that into practise as of now! Dd always likes to help but I tend to fall into the whole ‘it’s quicker and better if I do it’ but I think you two are both right in that it’s good for kids to lead to do chores early on and the help when I have three is going to be much needed xx
I showed our oldest where some of the baby stuff was too, like bibs nappies and baby grows. She loved being involved in looking after the baby and it was dead handy sometimes when I sat down to change the baby and forgot something.
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Aw yay another January mom!!! Welcome, Sezzy! How old is your daughter? Will this be baby 2?
How are you ladies feeling? My symptoms come and go like crazy, it is such a worrying time right now. I made the mistake of taking another wondfo (internet cheap test) yesterday and the second line wansn't much darker (if at all) than it was 4 days earlier so I had a total meltdown until I found thread after thread of women saying their wondfos didn't EVER get dark. I know better by now. The obsessive testing does no good. It was only like a 10-minute hold with super diluted pee cause I was drinking soooo much water.
I remember with my first baby I tested for the FIRST time one week AFTER my period was due, got a positive, and then just peed on the second test for fun like 2 weeks later. Ah those were the days!!! I had no idea about line progression or anything like that!
Only consistent symptoms are pulling cramps, some gagging after eating (in the morning especially), sensitivity to smells, fatigue. Though yesterday I felt great (so I panicked and took that test haha).
Hope everyone is doing well!
How are you ladies feeling? My symptoms come and go like crazy, it is such a worrying time right now. I made the mistake of taking another wondfo (internet cheap test) yesterday and the second line wansn't much darker (if at all) than it was 4 days earlier so I had a total meltdown until I found thread after thread of women saying their wondfos didn't EVER get dark. I know better by now. The obsessive testing does no good. It was only like a 10-minute hold with super diluted pee cause I was drinking soooo much water.
I remember with my first baby I tested for the FIRST time one week AFTER my period was due, got a positive, and then just peed on the second test for fun like 2 weeks later. Ah those were the days!!! I had no idea about line progression or anything like that!
Only consistent symptoms are pulling cramps, some gagging after eating (in the morning especially), sensitivity to smells, fatigue. Though yesterday I felt great (so I panicked and took that test haha).
Hope everyone is doing well!
I have been doing my nut trying to work out my dates because something just wasn't going together. I finally worked out that I wrote down my LMP on the wrong week. So it means I am actually due the week before, December 27. I couldn't work out why my lines were so dark for my dates, I was just starting to worry about twins!!
Knoll - I have found some of the ICs get to a certain point and then just don't get much darker also.
Knoll - I have found some of the ICs get to a certain point and then just don't get much darker also.
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