Is this wrong / bad?

[Heulyn]

Linzie has been quite clingy and restless lately, wanting to be picked up every two minutes and generally grizzling at everything.

Tonight we decided that to solve this, we need to get her used to being apart from us, so we've given her a feed, changed her bum, put her in her night-suit, and put her in her crib.

Which all sounds fine, except her crib is in a different room to us!

The room in question (our bedroom) is only the next room in the hall - bear in mind we only live in a one level little flat - all the doors are open, and she's literally about 6 steps away.
We can see her crib and hear her if she cries, and OH thinks that all this is sufficient and a brilliant idea and we've nothing to worry about...
But I'm a worrier, especially with her being so so young!

SO.... What do you think? Is this okay? Or shall I move her back in here until we go to bed?
i'm just not convinced it's good for her to be in another room :/ x

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

sounds fine to me hun! think of all the rich b******* with massive living rooms, where the baby's probably further away than that in the same room!

 

[rbryan0205]

my LO has ben in her own room at night since she was 2 weeks old and shes 10 weeks old today because she wouldnt settle at night because i think she could sense us there and if she is in her pram i leave her on the garden to get some fresh air aslong as u can hear her if she cries i think it will probably do her and u good x

 

[Tasha89]

As she's so little I, personally, would have her with me. Not constantly but the majoriy of the time.

If you think about it she's been right next to you for 9 months, she's bound to get upset when she's away from you.

 

[Heulyn]

Thanks girls, that makes me feel a little better

On a good note, she's fast asleep and seeming quite content, which is brilliant because she'd normally be grizzling until one of us pick her up.
I'm checking on her at least every 5-10 mins, to see she's okay, and she's been sparko flat out every time - brilliant

 

[Tasha89]

Bless her! I'm far too paranoid to have her out of my sight for long now... lol! Glad she's sleeping well x

 

[StValentine]

Does Linzie have more room in her crib in the other room? I found that when we moved Jess into her big cot at 9wk she slept far better than when she was squeezed into her moses basket, plus hubby and I got more sleep without her shuffling next to us. So everyone was better off.

I hear that some people put their newborns straight into their own rooms. As long as you can hear her, and you feel comfortable with your arrangement after you've tried it out a bit, then it must be right for you.

 

[Heulyn]

I think that's another positive about this - it's a step towards me not being overly paranoid.
So theoretically when we go out the first time without her then the separation anxiety won't be so bad, and when she (eventually) goes into her own room then it won't be so hard on us. Theoretically.

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

i found with E aswell, that when i had her downstairs with me (i was living with my parents at the time so it was tricky to do things my way!), if i put her in the dining room just behind me with the light off, she would sleep well in there til we went up to bed, but if i left the light on, she wouldnt sleep at all well! so could be something like that!

 

[Heulyn]

She sleeps in her carry-cot wherever she is, we just set it in her crib at night, because she doesn't seem to like her crib on it's own for some reason.

It might be the light, but we only have a lamp and the vivarium lights on in here, and while she's in there the hall light is on so I can see her easily, so I dunno as it's about the same.

I honestly don't know why she's sleeping better in there.... D'ya reckon it's just coz she can't sense us or smell my milk or something?

 

[Laura_C]

We did the same with Grace when she was only 3 weeks old, worked like a charm and she has had such a good sleep routine and has never had any problems with sleep. She had her first full night sleeping through at 4 weeks old an was fully sleeping through at 6 weeks.

She too was in the next room and we could hear everything, had doors open too. She was so grizzly until we did this, it helped us all get some sleep

 

[Heulyn]

That's fab I feel so re-assured that I'm not doing anything bad!
I will be going to bed in the same room, just a bit later than her

.....Now I just have to stop myself jumping up every time she makes a noise xD

 

[FebMum2Be]

I wish I had of done this early, but I was in my mums until Odhran was 8 months, and he's still in my room with his room next door fully decorated for him to go into as long as she is close enough for you to hear her, as long as you're happy with it then I would say its fine and if you are anxious there are always moniters xx

 

[Heulyn]

She's still in our room Jen, and I came to bed at 11, so she was only on her own about. 2 hours, and that was with constant checking.
It settled her so well though, I might do it every night like that

 

[FebMum2Be]

Ohhhh, sorry then yeah that's even more fine :lol; its good for them to have alone time too, they were so quiet and relaxed in our tums the poor things don't know what's going on when we're poking and proding them x

 

[xxbeckyxx]

I completely spoilt Lizzie the first 6 weeks cos I thought she was too young to leave to settle herself. However, looking back I wish I had done this sooner as it wasn't until she learnt to settle herself that I got any sleep for myself!
If it works for you hun then carry on

 

[Heulyn]

Well girlies, that all went fine until I came to bed, because once I fell asleep OH decided to take over and took her into the living room again - where the lights and noises are.
She then proceeded to wake up every 2 hours because she was unsettled, and guess who had to get up with her? Me!
Not only that, but he used half the things I'd packed in her changing bag for today, so now I've got to pack that again while he makes a fuss because I'm taking too long to get ready!! ARRRRGH MEN!!!!

 

[ZMD]

Men have to ruin everything! i've been putting Tegan to bed since she was about 4 weeks old and just putting the baby monitor on and checking her every so often its nice to have some 'me' time. she's now 4 months old goes in her cot awake at 8pm and sleeps till 7 xx

 

[Heulyn]

I'm thinking about getting a monitor, but to be honest I can see/hear her enough without one, so can't really warrant spending that amount of dosh until she moves into her own room.
We've kept her in the living room tonight, because she's eaten none-stop all last night and today, like 3oz every hour(!!!!!!), and we're just tooooo tired to be going back and forth.
Poor LO must be so confused, no routine at all!

 

[Rayoflight]

I bought a babysense motion monitor yesterday (one or two pads that go under the mattress). It's such great peace of mind.

They're going on eBay for about £25-£30 or are £70ish new.

Tested it out before and it really does work. Took only a few seconds for the alarm to sound.

I wanted it after staying at my mums the other week. I went to bed early and Mum settled him. She put a blanket over the top of his carrycot, just draped not tucked in. Luckily he was sleeping literally right next to me. I woke up at 3am to muffled grunts from him - he'd managed to kick the blanket upwards and it was tangled and over his face. It gave me such a massive fright. I've been a bit of a mess the last few days and decided that investing in a breathing monitor would help me sleep better. If that had happened at home i most certainly wouldn't have heard him as the blanket was stuffed in his mouth. I think 3 foot away in the corner of the room where we had the Moses basket and I wouldn't have heard him, let alone his own room.

Husband went mad about the monitor until I put it to him that if anything did happen to Blake and we could've prevented it by spending £70 we would never ever forgive ourselves.

In addition to me hopefully sleeping better I'm thinking it will be better for him not having me come in his room every 10 mins checking he's breathing and disturbing his sleep! Plus I'll actually be able to watch something on the telly without hitting pause every 10 mins and driving my husband crazy!

It's so hard putting them in their own room but I do think they sleep better.