I have a bit of a dilemma. My middle daughter has an ongoing medical condition that is controlled by regular operations at Great Ormond Street hospital, which is about 2 hours drive from our house. She generally only has to stay in one night after the operation. Normally her dad and I both travel down with her, either with the other kids or leaving them with my mum, depending on whether it is holidays etc.
This week, her condition worsened and she had to have an urgent operation yesterday. The doctors want her back in 4 weeks for her next operation, rather than the usual 6. My due date is 8th March and the operation is scheduled for 12th March. Obviously I realise that I will not be able to accompany her for this date, whether I have had the baby or not, but I am worried that the baby won't have arrived by then and I will go into labour while she is in London and my OH may miss the birth. And Molly will be in theatre while I am miles away having the baby. Obviously there will be complications with childcare for the other children as well and prob a million other issues that I haven't even thought of yet.
In addition to this, my Mum is due an operation on 4th March so would be unavailable to help as much as she normally would. My sister has a toddler and a new baby. My in-laws, though keen to help, are limited as to how much I could lean on them.
I have a consultant appointment next Tuesday because I have a history of big babies and I wanted to talk about management of labour bearing this in mind. I now don't know whether or not to bring up this new development and ask if they would consider a 39 week induction, so that baby is well and truly here before my mum's op and Molly's op. I don't know if I am just being selfish, wanting the baby out then because it would be more convenient and if this is even something they would consider.
Of course, there is always the possibility they may induce early anyway, because of the big baby thing, but if not, should I bring the subject of Molly's operation up? And how might they react? Should I mention it before the conversation about the baby being big or only bring it up if they don't offer me an induction for medical reasons?
Sorry if this is long and complicated, I just don't know what to think at the moment. I am tired and emotional from the past few days so am not thinking too straight at the moment.
This week, her condition worsened and she had to have an urgent operation yesterday. The doctors want her back in 4 weeks for her next operation, rather than the usual 6. My due date is 8th March and the operation is scheduled for 12th March. Obviously I realise that I will not be able to accompany her for this date, whether I have had the baby or not, but I am worried that the baby won't have arrived by then and I will go into labour while she is in London and my OH may miss the birth. And Molly will be in theatre while I am miles away having the baby. Obviously there will be complications with childcare for the other children as well and prob a million other issues that I haven't even thought of yet.
In addition to this, my Mum is due an operation on 4th March so would be unavailable to help as much as she normally would. My sister has a toddler and a new baby. My in-laws, though keen to help, are limited as to how much I could lean on them.
I have a consultant appointment next Tuesday because I have a history of big babies and I wanted to talk about management of labour bearing this in mind. I now don't know whether or not to bring up this new development and ask if they would consider a 39 week induction, so that baby is well and truly here before my mum's op and Molly's op. I don't know if I am just being selfish, wanting the baby out then because it would be more convenient and if this is even something they would consider.
Of course, there is always the possibility they may induce early anyway, because of the big baby thing, but if not, should I bring the subject of Molly's operation up? And how might they react? Should I mention it before the conversation about the baby being big or only bring it up if they don't offer me an induction for medical reasons?
Sorry if this is long and complicated, I just don't know what to think at the moment. I am tired and emotional from the past few days so am not thinking too straight at the moment.
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