In laws!

[MrsR]

My OH and I live in the northeast of England near to his family. I moved up here, away from my sister (we're very close) and parents who live in north west, to be with him. I've never felt at home up here. His mum is rude, she swears in front of our daughter, she's nosy and she really pees me off! I can't stand to be in same room as her. His dad is ok, doesn't say much and his sister is basically a double of his mum. I really miss my family and always said I didn't want a baby up here without any support (my parents used to have our daughter every other weekend with my niece and i used to see my sister regularly but his mum's point of view is 'they're you're kids you look after them and don't burden me with them). Were considering moving closer to my family but our daughters settled at school here, though she does miss her aunty and nana. Just not sure what to do! Please excuse this post, it's more a rant than anything!

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

Oh poor you; is there any way he would consider moving closer to your family? It must be difficult having to cope with MIL like that

 

[MrsR]

Yeah we've disscussed moving and it's something he's willing to do cos he knows how much I miss my family it's just difficult to sort everything out like school house etc being the other side of the country! Aagh it's so frustratin!

 

[scaredmum2be]

If my MIL was like that although she is abit like that but she gossips about her son's probs an slags people off.
I have to live with my MIL up the road from me and it is annoying lol.

Although i do live near my side of the family to so it isnt so bad but then my mum is no better for gossiping so i have to put up with both lol.

Hope you can find a solution but if you really dont have any other support then you need some of your family beside you. All the best in what you decide x

 

[scaredmum2be]

If my MIL was like that although she is abit like that but she gossips about her son's probs an slags people off.
I have to live with my MIL up the road from me and it is annoying lol.

Although i do live near my side of the family to so it isnt so bad but then my mum is no better for gossiping so i have to put up with both lol.

personally i'd go for it, i know there would be alot to sort out with school etc.. but you child would make more friends an get used to the idea
Hope you can find a solution but if you really dont have any other support then you need some of your family beside you. All the best in what you decide x

 

[scaredmum2be]

bloody double posting tonight x

 

[Princess81]

I'd go for whatever makes you happy, your daughter will settle into another school i'm sure, life's short, dont' spend it feeling miserable xx

 

[MrsR]

Thanks guys you've really helped! It's comforting to know I'm not only one with nightmare in laws!!

 

[scaredmum2be]

good luck with what you decide hun, but you do need to be happy an its extra better because your hubby actually agrees with you so i would deffo take up on the offer lolx

 

[katietateypot]

i agree with the girls, do what makes you happy, moving schools is a big deal for the first few days but they will soon settle in.
If your OH is willing then defo start considering your options of moving closer to your side of the family.

Hope everything works out for the best for you and your family!!
Katie xxx

 

[frankie707]

I agree with everyone else - my MIL is frustrating at times but at least I live about eqi distant between both sets of parents. Altough it might be a bit stressful for a few months whilst you move I'm sure you will all settle in quickly and be happier in the long term which is the important thing. Good luck!

 

[mel_ed]

defo move now while ur daughters still young, she'll settle easy. maybe get he rin the same school as ur niece????

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Go for it! If your OH is willing to move I say seriously look into it.. Like the others have said your daughter will soon settle and make new friends...Kids are quite resiliant and form attatchments with new friends quite well.... Good luck xx

 

[MrsR]

Thank you everyone! x Ive been trawling sites and phoning potential houses and schools so the wheels are in motion! x My niece is 12 so Summer couldn't go to same school, it's a good idea though x

 

[inky]

We moved a fair bit when I was young as my dads work took him all over the place, as a young kid I remember settling into new schools very well, kids are very adaptable so I'm sure your little one will be OK

I think it's more important that you are happy, as your happiness (or otherwise) will be felt by your children anyway, and if your OH is willing to support the move then I think you should go for it

 

[Bead]

It sounds like a very difficult situation for you Helen.

Is there any way of breaking the ice and talking to your MIL in a positive way, ie focusing on how things could be improved? Maybe she's unaware of how you feel about the relationship between the two of you, or maybe she's in the same boat and doesn't know how to bring up the subject either?
Maybe I'm just sounding naive, but my MIL passed away quite young and I never had the chance to meet her, which makes me sad. If it was't for them, we wouldn't have our lovely OHs.

I hope everything works out for you Xx

 

[Mamafy]

Life is far too short hun to live somewhere you're not happy

I'm making a move I thought I'd never make but I'm very happy to have made the decision and actually can't wait Even though it's probably going to be the scariest thing I've ever done

 

[Hypnorm]

Have you spoken to your daughter about possibly moving nearer to her cousin and nana?
That way she knows and will understand, involve her in the descion. good luck.

 

[Pudds86]

At the end of the day, although it is something that will take a lot of sorting out it will make your lives so much better to move! Your daughter will settle at a new school, she will make lots of new friends. You need a good support system around you and people you can rely on. x