I'm sorry but I'm finding all the pg women posting on here a bit .........

[clairebear22]

All you pregnant ladies & Mummy's can stalk my TTC threads if you like. I love your tickers!!

Can't wait til I can make my own pregnant one! lol

xxx

 

[vixforever]

All you pregnant ladies & Mummy's can stalk my TTC threads if you like. I love your tickers!!

Can't wait til I can make my own pregnant one! lol

xxx

Sending you all

xxx

 

[clem]

Ok, well feeling pretty ganged up on .... I didnt actually say anything was offensive!

The tickers arent an issue that merits turning them off! Jeez.......

I was merely trying to suggest that this is a part of the forum for those of us trying to conceive and finding kindred spirits to talk to, and as most of the replies to the thread are from people who arent trying to conceive I guess I was wrong in thinking that........

I dont want to create disention, just voicing a feeling that it is a bit hard to see it so much in a place we go to when feeling like the 'real' world is full of people who already have kids and arent going through what we are.

It's now been taken totally out of context and become a justification by those who arent trying to concieve and a reasurrance thread by those who are.

I apologise for being honest, and I will keep my feelings over how hard it is to myself

I will go and 'lump it' as suggested

 

[Toonlass]

Clam, like i said before, i DO understand how hard it is to see people falling pregnant and to have pregnant people around you when TTC. I had mega long cycles when TTC my 2nd and i was actually envious of people who had periods never mind those who were pregnant. This is an open forum full of lovely amazing people and none of these people (including myself ) intent to be 'thoughtless' I understand your journey has been long but it appears you are letting jelousy take over your emotions. One day you will be pregnant or be holding a baby and i hope to god you will give advice to some person on a long TTC jouney and bring them hope, i also hope that that person doesn't find your advice thoughtles xx

 

[vixforever]

Well said Toon xx

 

[munchkin1982]

very well said toon. and clem - the last thing we are doing is "ganging up" on you... xx

 

[vixforever]

and clem - the last thing we are doing is "ganging up" on you... xx

But sorry if you feel that way x

 

[clairebear22]

I agree with Toon too. I'm only on cycle 6/7 at the moment and I admire your strength through your long journey and hope I have the strength should it be me. I just like the positivity that the pregnancy tickers bring me because I know it's will be me one day.

I get jelous by pregnant women etc all the time and it's even harder for me because i'm a childminder so ALWAYS have small babies and children around me. I was out today and saw the most beautiful new born baby boy and ended up staring at him (i'm sure his Mum thought I was a weirdo!!).

I really really hope you get your BFP soon Clem!

xxx

 

[mablestarr]

I've been following this thread all evening but have waited until now to actually post something. I can see how after months/years of TTC scanning through a page and seeing others with their tickers on highlighting their pregnancy can be dificult, and although I think Clem is possibly being slightly over sensitive about it I can see her point.

However the forum is called Pregnancy forum so as expected there are going to be pregnant women (and men) here. If members read a post and feel that they can offer support/advice then I have found that they will post something regardless of which topic it is originally posted in.

I do think however that comments such as 'like it or lump it' or whatever was said can be counterproductive and could be taken the wrong way.

On a personal note I will not be stopping posting in the TTC area. xxx

 

[Toonlass]

I am yet to see ganging up or 'bad blood' on PF. I think you raised a very contraversial topic and have actually offended alot of people and we are simply giving an opinion on the subject you brought up. I have not intended on upsetting anyone with my replies but i do feel sad that i may have come across as thoughtles to women TTC on here when i have offered some advice xx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

well said toomn! clem, we're not ganging up,merely offering our opinions, whichm, afterall is wht a forum is for!

 

[Toonlass]

Who said like it or lump it?

*off for a second look* xx

 

[vixforever]

No-one said like it or lump it and sorry if you feel offended by a post that might of implied that! We really shouldnt have to be explaining ourselves though, we understand the difficulties of TTC. And just wish to offer you advice and support x

 

[munchkin1982]

just slightly off target here... but anyone think we should have a "like" button as well as a "thanks"? only many posts i find that i'd like to "like" rather than "thank" if that makes sense? xx

 

[Toonlass]

I cant find a like it or lump it post either. If i'm wrong, please correct me xx

 

[mablestarr]

Post 49 actually does say like it or lump it. Doesn't bother me in the slightest but can see how some poeple would take this the wrong way as Clem seems to have done in post 63.

 

[mablestarr]

Not from you Vix nor you Toons. x

 

[vixforever]

Nope Toon, no like it or lump it. But as I said it's called Pregnancy Forum with a WWT, TTC, Pregnancy and Parenting and general stuff sections. Welcoming anybody.....So obviously admin thinks TTCers will benefit from all points of view x

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

end o the day right, most of us have been TTC at some point, therefore, hence or otherwise, we understand to a certain degree! ok some were/have been trying for longer than others, but thats the same anywhere you go! all we want to do is offer support and advice where we can?! noone said like it or lump it as far as i can remember! we're all here to help each other through our individual journeys, no matter which section of the forum we "fit" into best!

 

[vixforever]

As we all said everyone has their own points of views/opinions/advice etc. x