I'm going back to work...

[x-kirsty-x]

I'm starting work full time in a few weeks and Ryan will have to go into a nursery full time. I feel really bad, I know that's what nurseries are for, and some babies start younger than him, but I don't like the idea of him spending more time there than he does with me

If money grew on trees I'd continue being a SAHM but I chose to go back to work because I feel so isolated at home, and we want the extra money to be able to afford luxuries instead of just scraping through every month.

I feel like a terrible mother for wanting Ryan to be in the care of someone else for 5 days a week

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

I'm sure Ryan will like nursery... it wil make the time you do spend with him more special

What job do you do?

 

[pilkers]

I might be putting myself in the firing line here but I'm a big believer in a good nursery. Children need to socialise. My nephew was very withdrawn but since he's been going to nursery he's like a changed child! he's so much more confident and outgoing...

it used to be hard wotrk getting him to say a few words...now we can't shut him up!

Evie will be going to nursery when she's 6 months and I go back to work...just a day a week to start with as my SIL or my mum will be having her the rest of the week.

I expect I'll feel guilty too but we'll need the money by then so I'll have to go back to work.

I bet your LO loves it!!

 

[x-kirsty-x]

I work in Childcare, I'm gonna be working in a nursery (not the one Ryan will be going to though). Ironic isn't it?

I have no doubts at all that he'll love it and I know it's gonna be good for him, Josh started nursery at 14 months and stayed right up until school and it was so good for him.

I just feel guilty for handing Ryan over and buggering off to work It'll be worse for me than it will be for him I bet.

Me and OH had a discussion tonight and I think we're gonna start off with 3 days a week, he'll go to his Grandma's for the other 2. That way I won't feel so bad

 

[Tangerinedream]

In went back to work full time 3 weeks ago and personally Im soooooooooooooooooo glad to be back, its like ive never been away and my mummy brain has dissapeared Jake really enjoys nursery and I really do feel that it does him more good than I alone could being at home all day.

Good luck. You will feel loads better about it when you have been back a few weeks

 

[x-kirsty-x]

In went back to work full time 3 weeks ago and personally Im soooooooooooooooooo glad to be back, its like ive never been away and my mummy brain has dissapeared Jake really enjoys nursery and I really do feel that it does him more good than I alone could being at home all day.

Good luck. You will feel loads better about it when you have been back a few weeks

Thanks... I'm actually really looking forward to starting, I just feel as though I'm putting him into nursery so that I can go and look after other people's kids all day

I'll get over it after a few weeks when I see how much he doesn't miss me

 

[Tangerinedream]

I'll get over it after a few weeks when I see how much he doesn't miss me

Aint that the truth!!

Cant he go to the nursery where you work? Jakes nursery let their staffs kids go there iykwim lol

 

[x-kirsty-x]

[quote="x-kirsty-x":3r615hq3]
I'll get over it after a few weeks when I see how much he doesn't miss me

Aint that the truth!!

Cant he go to the nursery where you work? Jakes nursery let their staffs kids go there iykwim lol[/quote:3r615hq3]

There wasn't gonna be any places for him until September, plus he'll be going to Josh's old nursery and I know the staff and how things are done so I feel confident about leaving him there.

The nursery where I'm gonna be working doesn't allow staff to work in the same room as their child so it'd be a bit difficult anyway because I'll be swapping between the baby room and the older childrens room 8)

 

[Krystal]

I know it's hard but I think your doing the right thing.

What's the point in having 24/7 at home with kids when you can't afford to do nice things? That's what I think anyway, I know I could afford to stay at home with Jack but we'd be on our arses every month in terms of money. I go back in April, I know it's gonna be really hard leaving him but i'm also looking forward to having a bit of 'me' time with adult's to talk to. Imagine that, actual real life grown ups who can talk and hold a conversation, omg i'm actually excited

Sure i'll change my mind once i've been back over a month and i'm sick of it lol.

 

[x-kirsty-x]

I know it's gonna be really hard leaving him but i'm also looking forward to having a bit of 'me' time with adult's to talk to. Imagine that, actual real life grown ups who can talk and hold a conversation, omg i'm actually excited

That's EXACTLY how I feel, I can't wait to feel like me again and not just a Mummy

 

[amzhunny]

I am dreading it too hun, for one reason and another i am extending my maternity leave for another month although money is going to be really difficult.

But lots of for you and you are not a bad mummy its the world we live in today and cant afford to not work....its crap!

 

[Hellokitty]

Maia has been going to Nursery two afternoons a week for quite a while now. She loves it. Sometimes it irritates me a little how pleased she looks when I drop her off!

You know you have to do what is right for you Kirsty, and as you say, it'll be worse for you than for Ryan.

 

[trixipaws]

im back to work on monday, and really really dont wanna
its part-time (21 hours/week) and lucky for us my dad will hav her but i still wish i could be a SAHM too