I even got tablets from the doc to up my milk but they didnt work...after nearly 10 weeks of trying everything i have failed at breastfeeding...and whats worse whenever i come on here i get it shoved right in my face how its best and it just makes me feel worse.
Im a complete utter failure and i feel like shit
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Cassi please don't feel this way, many many people don't breastfeed, i for one, its just not my personal choice, and my daughters are perfect! They rarely have colds, have never had ANY ear infections, ok one of my daughters has asthma, but very mild, and thats because it runs in my family!! So bottled milk must do just as good a job!!
Its not your fault you can't do it, its just nature! Do you know every person i know who tried breastfeeding, came off it within 6 weeks as it was too painfull anyway??
I hope no one takes offence to this post, as i have absolutly nothing against breastfeeding at all, i think iots great, its just i couldn't do it
Its not your fault you can't do it, its just nature! Do you know every person i know who tried breastfeeding, came off it within 6 weeks as it was too painfull anyway??
I hope no one takes offence to this post, as i have absolutly nothing against breastfeeding at all, i think iots great, its just i couldn't do it
awwwwwwwww cassi you havnt failed sweetheart just look at your gorgeous healthy little boy, hes like that because you gave him the best start hun your message really touched me cos i was desperate to breastfeed and only managed 2 weeks, you have managed ten and deserve a medal I got an infection and was really ill when tia was a week old and couldnt feed or express for her so she had to have bottles and i cried for days cos i thort i had failed her in some way! 
my milk was never the same but i did let her comfort suck on me to get to sleep which made me feel a little better. you definitley havnt failed cassi you have given your little boy the best possible start you could and you are a fabulous mum xxxx
you havnt failed sweetheart just look at your gorgeous healthy little boy, hes like that because you gave him the best start hun your message really touched me cos i was desperate to breastfeed and only managed 2 weeks, you have managed ten and deserve a medal I got an infection and was really ill when tia was a week old and couldnt feed or express for her so she had to have bottles and i cried for days cos i thort i had failed her in some way! my milk was never the same but i did let her comfort suck on me to get to sleep which made me feel a little better. you definitley havnt failed cassi you have given your little boy the best possible start you could and you are a fabulous mum xxxxFirst of all Cassi, i just wanted to say you are not a complete failure whatsoever. You have done everything you possibly could, so that just shows how determined you were to BF Jakob in the first place hun.
Please don't beat yourself up about it, you should be proud of yourself
Please don't beat yourself up about it, you should be proud of yourself
Hi, Thanks very much for the kind comments....its not so much because it think breastfeeding is better its because thats just what i wanted to do you know...i hope my post dosnt make it seem that i have something again bottlefeeding i really dont 
Im just so upset because i wanted so much to breastfeed and i thought if i kept at it it would get better but it just got worse
I have ashtma and i was breastfed for 12 months!
Im just so upset because i wanted so much to breastfeed and i thought if i kept at it it would get better but it just got worse
I have ashtma and i was breastfed for 12 months!
please dont beat yourself up about it. i know how you feel i felt awful when i stopped everyone i knew breastfed and i got a lot of unthoughtful comments when i stopped. i thought i would psychologicaly damage nathan, he would always be ill, hed hate me, people would think i was a bad mum and so on all of which were total rubbish. i new i had to give up when i begged my OH to take the baby away cos i didnt want it anywhere near me, for a moment i wished hed never been born i think i would have got pnd if i had continued so it was not the "best thing" for my baby, i was in utter turmoil. 
you done what you could and some people dont even do that give yourself a pat on the back and please please dont worry. i hate breastfeeding pushers i think its fantastic if you can do it but dont beat other people up if they cant or dont want to. thats not directed at anyone please dont take offence.
you done what you could and some people dont even do that give yourself a pat on the back and please please dont worry. i hate breastfeeding pushers i think its fantastic if you can do it but dont beat other people up if they cant or dont want to. thats not directed at anyone please dont take offence.Nathanmom thanks, yes there is certain things i have read in the last week on here that have upset me because they basically say bottle is not good enough for your baby, well Jakob is over 12lb, sleeps well, smiles lots and is a happy healthy baby.
I understand where you are coming from with it just taking over sometimes i would get so upset when Jakob just wouldnt settle or fill up when alan would come home from work i would be so glad i could give him to his dad and get away for abit...now he is so content i wouldnt give away 1 minute!
I understand where you are coming from with it just taking over sometimes i would get so upset when Jakob just wouldnt settle or fill up when alan would come home from work i would be so glad i could give him to his dad and get away for abit...now he is so content i wouldnt give away 1 minute!
Aww Cassi
I too failed breastfeeding at 8 weeks with my lad and it wasn't through the want of trying either, he just wasn't putting the weight on he should and i bawled my eyes out when i had to stop and felt like a complete failure.
Now when i look back i think i should have given up sooner as he flourished on the bottle, so i know stopping was the best thing i did.
Saying that i still intend to give it a go with this baba.
Whatever is best for the baby is best
I too failed breastfeeding at 8 weeks with my lad and it wasn't through the want of trying either, he just wasn't putting the weight on he should and i bawled my eyes out when i had to stop and felt like a complete failure.
Now when i look back i think i should have given up sooner as he flourished on the bottle, so i know stopping was the best thing i did.
Saying that i still intend to give it a go with this baba.
Whatever is best for the baby is best
Awww Cassi, don't beat yourself up about it.
You've tried and that's what counts. The most important thing is that your baby has you and your love - where the milk comes from doesn't matter as long as he's getting fed.
Let it go and stop putting yourself under pressure. Loads of babies are bottlefed from the start and are absolutely fine.
As long as he's loved, safe and full then he'll be fine.
Sending hugs. L xx
You've tried and that's what counts. The most important thing is that your baby has you and your love - where the milk comes from doesn't matter as long as he's getting fed.
Let it go and stop putting yourself under pressure. Loads of babies are bottlefed from the start and are absolutely fine.
As long as he's loved, safe and full then he'll be fine.
Sending hugs. L xx
Ahh, I now how you feel sweetie. I wasn't successful breastfeeding, it's very upsetting at first and you do feel guilty but now it doesn't bother me one bit.
Breast is only best if it suits you and your baby. My son just wasn't interested at all in breast feeding. You can only keep trying for so long.
Now I have a healthy, contented little boy.
It could be a totally different story for you with any future babies you have. You gave it your all and that's what matters and the well being of your baby.
Breast is only best if it suits you and your baby. My son just wasn't interested at all in breast feeding. You can only keep trying for so long.
Now I have a healthy, contented little boy.
It could be a totally different story for you with any future babies you have. You gave it your all and that's what matters and the well being of your baby.
Sorry you feel like this hun. I can sympathise with you & felt the same when I stopped (that was after 3 weeks) but don't look at it as a failure. You have given Jakob the best (colostrum etc) & you have done your best so thats not a failure.
Breastfeeding comes easy to some people & not to others, the same with everything in life and I personally feel its unkind for people to say that breast is best because bottle fed babies have problems i.e get ill more often, less intelligent etc, it does put pressure on those of us who can't b/f for whatever reason & does make us feel like poop but you've done really well so please don't be hard on yourself, you're a great Mummy & Jakob is a lucky lad.
When I gave up b/f Jamie it was the best all round. It would have been cruel to carry on trying as my milk flow was pathetic! & he wasn't getting anywhere near enough to eat, as soon as he had a bottle he guzzled it down & was so much happier, stopped crying & slept longer etc.
My Mum's milk flow wasn't very good when she had me & my Brother so we were both bottle fed & turned out fine. My DH & his 2 brothers were the same. Hubby is 6'5" so having bottles didn't stunt his growth
Breastfeeding comes easy to some people & not to others, the same with everything in life and I personally feel its unkind for people to say that breast is best because bottle fed babies have problems i.e get ill more often, less intelligent etc, it does put pressure on those of us who can't b/f for whatever reason & does make us feel like poop but you've done really well so please don't be hard on yourself, you're a great Mummy & Jakob is a lucky lad.
When I gave up b/f Jamie it was the best all round. It would have been cruel to carry on trying as my milk flow was pathetic! & he wasn't getting anywhere near enough to eat, as soon as he had a bottle he guzzled it down & was so much happier, stopped crying & slept longer etc.
My Mum's milk flow wasn't very good when she had me & my Brother so we were both bottle fed & turned out fine. My DH & his 2 brothers were the same. Hubby is 6'5" so having bottles didn't stunt his growth
You are NOT a failure! Cassi you really tried, much more than i think i would have if we had problems. You should be very proud, please dont beat yourself up hun.
You have a gorgeous little boy Cassi, bottle feeding wont change that!
You have a gorgeous little boy Cassi, bottle feeding wont change that!
Cassi huni don't ever think of yourself as a failure - you are far from it, you have brought a beautiful baby boy in to the world - how can that be a failure!!
Im sorry for you that you can't breastfeed when you really want to but I think possibly these days this is the danger of pushing this whole ''breat is best'' message - it can make new mum's feel so depressed / down and even a ''failure'' if they can't do it and I don't think that should be the case at all. Personally, Im of the attitude of not listening to all this ''breast is best, bottle is bad'' nonsense and am going to take it as it come - try Breast Feeding and if it works great, and if not, no biggie I tried, that way I won't feel the unfortunate way you do now!!
You have said yourself J is a happy healthy baby who sleeps through and his weight is good, so please don't feel a failure, im sure he doesn't think you are, try not to beat yourself up huni - your doing nothing wrong in going to bottle and your not depriving him in anyway shape or form
Try to cheer up
Im sorry for you that you can't breastfeed when you really want to but I think possibly these days this is the danger of pushing this whole ''breat is best'' message - it can make new mum's feel so depressed / down and even a ''failure'' if they can't do it and I don't think that should be the case at all. Personally, Im of the attitude of not listening to all this ''breast is best, bottle is bad'' nonsense and am going to take it as it come - try Breast Feeding and if it works great, and if not, no biggie I tried, that way I won't feel the unfortunate way you do now!!
You have said yourself J is a happy healthy baby who sleeps through and his weight is good, so please don't feel a failure, im sure he doesn't think you are, try not to beat yourself up huni - your doing nothing wrong in going to bottle and your not depriving him in anyway shape or form
Try to cheer up
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oh hun u have done brilliant to do 10 weeks dont feel down please!! i was the same really wanted to do it but i only lasted 10 days Braydon wasnt getting wot he needed
if u ever need to tlk, just pm me hun
if u ever need to tlk, just pm me hun
