Im a complete utter failure and i feel like shit

[Dee1985]

sorry you are feeling so low
i went through this stage when Harley was about Jakobs age too. i got so fed up with people making me feel like a crap mum. i took a break from this place and looked deep into my love for my babies and realised it was alot stronger then alot of other mothers. i would die for my children do any thing and every thing for them and love them so much it hurts.
i compair that to how i see some of my friends who breast feed and how they put themselves first then in a way it made me realise dont make me a bad/crap mum i am happy so it makes my babies happy.
i used to be so ashamed and dreaded people asking if i bF i used to lie and say how i did breast feed it was pathetic

like i said to you before in that pic i seen of you and Jakob the love looked so strong. you have nothing to be ashamed of you are a fab mum and should be so proud.

be a proud bottle feeder, you tryed your best

 

[beanie]

Cassi hun I am so sorry you are feeling like this. 10 weeks is a great achievement especially with all you have had to face. You gave Jacob a great start and you have no way failed him hun. Enjoy your baby boy

 

[Alfiesmummy]

Cassi listen to me hun you are not a complete failiure just look at Jakob ... hes a happy healthy little boy and i know you wanted so much to breastfeed but just think of the difference itll make, and youll be happy too when you see how well hes doing, bottle fed babies do just as well as breastfed and youve given him the best start havent you? you should have a medal for ten weeks i didnt even try at all, but then again i wouldnt of been able to anyway, Cassi your a great mum and hes such a gorgeous boy, you can see your doing a fabulous job, i hope your ok

 

[Eveadel]

Ah Cassi, sorry to hear you are feeling down - I think you have done really well and have given him the best start in life. It is not your fault some woman can do it easy and some cant. I BF for 3 weeks exclusively and then BF and bottle for another 3 weeks and my little one, well not so little now is very healthy - touch wood.

Chin up and big hugs to you

 

[cassi]

thanks very much i really dont know what id do without you guys...i definatly wouldnt of made it past aweek b'fing


xxxxx

 

[budge]

thats what the forums all about Cassi. Supporting each other!
are you feeling better today?

 

[cassi]

yes thx hun (see my newsig )

luv ya xx

 

[budge]

good for you cassi!

 

[skatty]

I'm glad you are feeling better and are a proud mum

 

[sam96031]

Just wanted to offer a hug hun I really wanted to breast feed but when Emma was in SCBU it was really hard to express it and it hurt loads, I felt awful and like a failure 2, as it felt like everyone was saying that Emma wouldnt cope without the BM all the nurses were pushing me to express and making me feel like crap about it. In the end I just had to put my foot down (which is not like me lol) and tell them that I wanted Emma to have formula, as she was having a bottle anyways and had formula when the BM ran out. So to cut a long story a bit shorter and to stop myself droning on just wanted to say well done for getting this far and don't beat yourself up about it.

 

[mdsremos]

I have to say that I know how you feel, I still feel guilty now and Charlie is 8 months old but in some ways I feel he is better that I couldnt in the end.

I was so determined when I was pregnant and after an emergency C-Sction he latched straight on and I was overjoyed...what I didnt take into consideration was that my body was not impressed with the surgery and my milk didnt come in so I managed to feed him colostrum for the first 5 days then reverted to the bottle.

My sister in-law on the other hand was a natural although her little boy fed 24/7 from birth, all day and all night and the poor thing was worn out!!!! Her little one still doesnt sleep through now and is only 10 days younger than Charlie and is abit clingy with his mum whereas Charlie doesnt mind being with anyone although we do enjoy a cuddle at bedtime with his last bottle of the day!!!!!

There are pros and cons to everything and I had to make the right decision although I miss the initial closeness but I salute everyone who was able to breastfeed.

 

[Lindsay]

Cassi you are certainly not a failure hun, look at your healthy bubba he is thriving

I breastfed Jacob for 6 months and was really upset when I had to stop. I knew that Jacob wasn't getting enough from me but the hv kept telling me that he was fine and that I should keep on breast feeding him which I did. He was loosing weight everytime I took him to the clinic but I was told

"some babies are born big but want to be small, others are born small but want to be big. Jacob is obviously a baby who was born bigger than he needs to be"

He was waking up every hour again during the night etc etc but still I was told to persist with breastfeeding as it is the best thing to do. When I was due to go back to work, I started to extract in preparation, it took me 2 days to get 4ozs, I rang the hv up again and told them that I was struggling to extract and was sure that my milk was drying up and he wasn't being filled up - they told me another load of dribble which I took on board.

Until one night, I cracked and spent most of the evening in tears saying that I was a failure and other people can feed their babies for longer etc etc all the same feelings you are going through hun. I made the decision that night to stop feeding Jacob the next day and buy some formula, which I did and it was the best thing that I could have done. Jacob guzzled down the milk and was so much happier for it. He slept a million times better and was so much more content.

Next time round I am going to listen to my heart and not listen to anyone else, from this I have learnt that no-one knows their baby like a mother does.

Chin up Cassi hun, you are a great mum

Xxx

 

[mummykay]

Ur def not a failure cassi, u tried it and gave Jakob the best bits so if he does go on formula now he will b fine!!

 

[xSuzx]

I can only echo what everyone else has posted, you have done wonderfully and should feel very proud of what you have accomplished.

You have a very happy healthy boy that loves you unconditionally and thats what matters the most.

xSuzx

 

[bagpuss]

I've only just read this post,and Cassi you have nothing whatsoever to be upset about - you tried and you tried your hardest,you have overcome so much to breastfeed for as long as you did,and you should be so proud for being able to say "I breastfed for 10 weeks,and I know that I gave Jakob the best possible start that I could"
Hold you head up high girl!!

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Hun you did such a great job so proud of you, be happy for how far you did make it hun
Katrina