I need to learn to calm down!

[moss]

I'm not going to post again (right now anyway!) about all of the reasons why I'm stressed out, but now all of the big issues are making me stress about the silly little things, too. I have my baby shower on Saturday and I should be looking forward to it but all I can think about is how it's just my husband's family and one of his friends (NONE of my friends) who are showing up! Also, we registered online and the only things that are reserved are the things I reserved because we ordered them through my mother-in-law. It sounds so spoiled of me to say but I'm worried I'm just going to get a bunch of silly newborn outfits I don't need. The list is there for a reason!

I know that sounds terrible, but I'm being honest... I can't help it! I can't do the nesting thing because of my stupid back and SPD and I think that is also making things a lot worse! (Not to mention I'm getting nervous now that I am at 37 weeks!)

 

[aramintalovegrove]

Sometimes when we have big things to worry about its the little things that break us coz they are much more easy to moan about.

Its quite off that none of your friends are going to your shower, but I bet once you have it it will be lovely anyhow.

If you get crap prezzis ask for the reciept so that you can exchange and sod em if they are not too pleased it would be better to have things that you will use than clothes you wont get time to Put LO in (I had loads of duplicate outfits as gifts with DS)

Most importantly come on here for a rant!!

 

[Hazel]

You're probably focusing and worrying about that instead of the up coming birth.

I was worried about people getting me lots of newborn things but thankfully only got a couple of bits given to me. I've seemed to have ended up with 7 packs of newborn nappies somehow but my friend said to me to take them to Tesco and they would probably exchange them fro the next size up.

 

[dannii87]

Welcome aboard 'The Calm Train' Miss Moss!

I have my baby shower on Saturday and I should be looking forward to it but all I can think about is how it's just my husband's family and one of his friends (NONE of my friends) who are showing up!

Can't you invite some of your friends & family to it?

Also, we registered online and the only things that are reserved are the things I reserved because we ordered them through my mother-in-law. It sounds so spoiled of me to say but I'm worried I'm just going to get a bunch of silly newborn outfits I don't need. The list is there for a reason!

People would have more than likely already bought your presents so you can't say anything now - So don't panic! If you do get lots of newborn outfits then it's not a problem! This is JUST your baby shower, you'll get more presents once baby is born and you can reiterate that there is a list if anyone wants to buy anything...

I can't do the nesting thing because of my stupid back and SPD

You don't HAVE to nest hun! As long as the house is clean & tidy you'll be fine! And that's more for your own piece of mind so that when you return home with your baby you don't have loads of stuff to do! You could nest in other ways like making a cute blanket? SPD usually goes once babies are born (that's what I heard anyway!) So approx another 3 weeks of the discomfort and it should all be over

(Not to mention I'm getting nervous now that I am at 37 weeks!)

That is sooo natural! And I bet once you get the above sorted you'll feel a lot more calm about baby arriving so this statement is a kind of "sum up" of all your worries.

You will be absolutely fine hun you really will! xx

 

[moss]

My mother is coming, but all of my family is spread out around America. My friends are all flakes and have made up reasons they can't come. I don't believe most of them. I am the first (with one exception) to have a baby and I have the feeling I'm going to have to make some new friends after this.

 

[dannii87]

I'm similar! I have 1 proper friend (mainly because I moved a couple of years ago) who has a 3 year old and a newborn and she's always been there for me, as have I for her even when I wasn't pregnant - I think she really appreciated that I was free & had no responsabilities yet I was still there for her, some other "friends" but not real close ones... Ones that I expect will be there for a night out but at no other time

I have some neighbours with children but they really are like Desperate Housewives. Every part of their lives revolve around their children and they NEVER do anything separate from their "Mother" role - Not that I think that's a bad thing lol! I just would like friends that are Mums AND their own person (because we always need an escape from Motherhood I'm sure!)

You could always try Mothers&Tots groups or something once LO is born?

I'd be your friend Moss But you live so far away

 

[Bubalu]

I hope that things turn out better than you anticipate - your baby shower guests may surprise you. Don't worry about the nesting...I'm finding it too difficult to do the things that I wanted to get done but I figure that our LOs are not going to be inspecting the tidiness of the house. As long as it's not dangerous and they are comfortable, there is nothing to worry about. We probably won't care so much either once we have our LOs in our arms.

As for friends...I am sure that you will meet other mums. I have several friends with children and they say that they made some very close friendships through mothers groups and just chatting with new mums that delivered at same time.

 

[Tadpole]

Like others have said - it is easier to worry about these things than the birth. I also think it probably doesn't help that you are still working as you may feel you have so much to do and not enough time to do it. Come here to rant anytime and take some deeeeeeeeeep breaths as it WILL all work out fine in the end. :hug;

 

[kalia]

Yes, you will end up with far too many newborn and 0-3 outfits that you don't want. For the most part these will come from Mothercare, Next and Marks and Spencers. Fortunately these stores are really great about returns - I returned everything we didn't want and was amazed at how much money would have been wasted otherwise. I returned over £200 of stuff!!!! With the Next money I went shopping in the sale for clothes for her for next summer. With the Mothercare money we got her a fantastic bouncy chair that means we can finally put her down and vests. We still have the £50 credit note for Markies. Return everything you don't want and get things you do want.

 

[moss]

I have never returned a gift before! I guess I might be getting the practice soon! I wish stores gave refunds instead of credits. I went into M&S the other day and couldn't find anything I liked (I got vouchers from there). So I am buying my fruit and veg there this week. It's more expensive, but it will technically be free for me anyway so...