I miscarried :(

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Hey girls, some of you saw my last thread where I said i was really worried I was miscarrying...well it was true...I had to go back to the hospital the next day as my pains got worse and I started bleeding more and the blood was a more reddish colour than brown...well we got to the hospital and there the pains became excruciating, they felt like very bad period pains (my period pains are usually mild but this was something else)...the other women there were looking at me weird as I was in so much pain :( I knew something wasn't rright, I had felt it since the day before but I still had a glimmer of hope..

a nurse came not too long after and i was taken into an examination room in the gynaecology ward where I had my blood pressure taken and was then left to wait for ages...while writhing in the pain :( thankfully my oh was there with me and was very supportive. The doctor came and asked me some questions, then she said she'd have to examine me with one of those duck things the see if the opening to my womb was still closed shut or what was going on...well as soon as she opened that thing up he said to the nurse, 'there's a lot of blood in the way here, i need some gauze to clean it all off before i can see' and my heart sunk :( they kept scraping but i didnt know what was really going on and judging by the amount of gauze they used i gathered it must've been quite a lot of blood...when she was done with that she took the thing out and said to the nurse 'i wont have to do an internal examination' and i knew i had miscarried :( she said to me that the entrance to my womb was open but blocked by the embryonic sack that was on its way out...which had cause a lot of bleeding around it :( she told me they cleared everything up so i should be having a complete miscarriage and should expect more blood in the next few days to come. At first I just looked at her then i burst out in tears as i realised my baby was gone and there was nothing i could do...she gave me and my oh a few minute and we just lost it....this would've been our first, and although unplanned and only at 6 weeks when it happened, we loved and really looked forward to seeing this baby :( we were over the moon and ecstatic, i did everything i could to keep it safe, but something must've gone wrong and my baby couldn't carry on anymore....this is the hardest thing i have yet had to go through and i would never wish it onto someone as it is utterly devastating. We had so much planned already and had told my whole family and his...everyone was so excited and i kept having visions of my newborn baby but sadly it was all cut short. I think it's going to be quite a while before me and my oh accept what's happened. we're both staying over at my mum's for now so we have some support here and a break from where we live. We lost the baby last thursday, 21st of april, the day before things looked fine and i was told by a gynaecologist that my womb was shut tight...i don't know what happened. It's now been 4 days since and I'm still bleeding, but it's slowly stopping now. me and my oh are still devastated and all we think about is our poor baby :( it's very hard seeing young families with small children or babies outside...it instantly strikes a chord...or seeing a heavily pregnant woman.

If any of you ladies are worried about any miscarriage in early pregnancy, don't hesitate to message me or post in here and i will try to help you with any worries you have. The symptoms I had with mine were: brown spotting at first and some cramping but i had cramping since ages before that so it was normal for me, the brown spotting is completely normal in pregnancy, but what alarmed me was the rate at which my symptoms worsened...brown spotting turned into more brown blood not spotting, then quickly to a lot of reddish and brown blood and cramps worsening quickly...all this accompanied by my sudden decrease in pregnancy symptoms told me something might not be right so i got checked out. Just remember, all these symptoms can be completely normal! but if you are worried, keep an eye on them and get checked out if you need reassurance...

To all those women out there who have lost their babies before they had a chance to be born, I hope you've all had support through it and I hope your little angels are resting in peace, maybe they just weren't ready :(

oh and I'm very sorry to put a downer on this section...pregnancy is an amazing, happy experience but also very worrying and exhausting. I had to put this in here because I thought it might help others out who have gone through it or who are worried about it.
 
I am so sorry for your loss hunny, massive :hugs:
Take care of yourself, we are all thinking of you.
I know it doesnt seem like it now but I promise it does get easier x x


 
Sorry Hun xxx mustve been awful for u and so raw at the moment with it only just happening x take care of yourself x
 
Like the other girls said, I'm sorry you are going through this, it's really upsetting reading what you went through x
 
Really sorry for what you have gone through. Take care of yourself and OH. :hug::hug::hug:
 
Aww hun I'm so sorry can totally understand, same happened to me at 8 weeks in april last year. Was a horrific and heartbreaking time but now I'm preg with my little man and I gotta think he wouldn't be here without that happening so that's they way I've tried to look at it. Things happen for a reason- most likely something was wrong and body was dealing with it x
 
Really sorry to read this Hun, take care of yourself xxxx
 
im so sorry to hear this hun!
look afer yourself! x x
 
aw hon...im so sorry and like the other girls have said, the pain does ease with time....i promise. and you just have to think that something wasnt quite right and your body knew that......it will happen again for you. xx
 
I am so sorry for your loss hun :( I really wish I wasn't reading this thread at all.
You sound like such a brave person. The fact that you are going through a heartbreaking tragedy right now, yet you still find it in your heart to care for the other girls here. Your OH should be very proud.

I wish you the best with everything and like many other girls have said, we don't know why these things happen to healthy pregnant women who take care of their unborn child the best they can. The same questions are asked when a completely healthy person is diagnosed with cancer. Nobody knows why these horrible things happen, but all we can do is comfort each other and be positive about the future :)

Take care of yourself
& thank you for being so caring. xxx
 

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