My OH has really pissed me off today. The morning started off nice. He told me to stay in bed and have a nice lie in when my DD got up at 8am--since I'd only had a 3 hour restless sleep (still getting over a nasty virus). So I thanked him--called him a wonderful hubby--etc and told him to not let me sleep too late because obviously I wanted to have a nice day as a family... Ok--so he gets up with 2 yr old DD and the first thing I hear is the tv go on. (One of my pet hates--and OH knows this--I don't like her watching too much tv) I don't say anything and try to go back to sleep. I was surprised when I next woke up as the clock said 12! I had slept for 4 hours! So I get up and as I'm approaching the livingroom (still don't know if OH heard me approaching or not) but I hear him say "I'm gonna clear some of this shit up..." (talking to himself but right in front of DD which is inexcuseable!) and I walk in to find him clearing out our 'semi important paper' drawer--you know where you put the bills that can wait a bit longer to be paid, personal letters to friends you have yet to answer, receipts--etc. I also see my DD in a zombie state staring at the tv--OH hadn't even opened the curtains and he must have had a cigarette or two in the kitchen which is a big no no around my daughter! Lovely! SO...I keep my cool and the first thing I asked was "Can you just hold off on that till I get a chance to go through my papers?" (He gives me a dirty look and walks into the kitchen) Then I ask "How long's she been watching tv?" (Because I heard it go on 4 hours ago at 8am.) OH goes "I just turned it on for Roly Mole so she's only had it on a little while." I prod him a bit more and find out a little while means 45 minutes in man speech. Then he goes "She's been so awkward today, she screams when I try to turn the tv off, she won't eat..." and I said "Well have you tried getting out her toys?" All he had in the room was her table and chairs--most of her toys I put in the little cubbyhole at night because we have no space! (He knows this!) And that's when he loses it---"How about a fucking thankyou for all I've done! I've fed her, I've clothed her and all I get is shit from you! The tv's been on for a couple hours and you think you have the right to scream at me! (SEE LADIES--FIRST IT WAS ON A LITTLE WHILE, THEN 45 MINS, NOW A COUPLE HOURS!) I'm not havin this!" And the jerk puts his coat on and walks out the door. (He's done the walk out to me many times--once he was gone all night walking the streets of London and I was scared whitless--phoning him and of course he had it turned off...this was on Valentine's Day, ladies.) I ran to the door and said "And of course you did nothing wrong? Using filthy language in front of her... You're never in the wrong are ya? Always the poor victim being "screamed at"---well I wasn't screaming before but I AM NOW--GET LOST!"
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. What a jerk. Can't reason his way out of an argument like I always can when I'm "in the wrong"--he can't explain his actions like I always can---his first answer is to walk off. BUT IT NEVER MAKES THINGS BETTER! It only puts the bigger fight on hold till whenever the jerk decides to come home! It only prolongs all the ill feelings for hours! Doesn't he realise that? I've already made up my mind, I'm not calling him. I'm going to enjoy my day with my DD and try not to give him a thought. WHAT A JERK, HUH LADIES?!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. What a jerk. Can't reason his way out of an argument like I always can when I'm "in the wrong"--he can't explain his actions like I always can---his first answer is to walk off. BUT IT NEVER MAKES THINGS BETTER! It only puts the bigger fight on hold till whenever the jerk decides to come home! It only prolongs all the ill feelings for hours! Doesn't he realise that? I've already made up my mind, I'm not calling him. I'm going to enjoy my day with my DD and try not to give him a thought. WHAT A JERK, HUH LADIES?!