I FINALLY TOLD MY FAMILY *UPDATE* (long)

[laetitia85]

Remember I was telling you that this was an emotional time for me as this weekend I was going to tell my parents about my pregnancy, and that they probably wouldn't approve because in my culture you have to be married before you have a baby...

Well I did it - I had to do it in the form of a letter to my dad, because that was the only way i could really explain things properly. He read it and to my surprise, took it quite well. He understood and said things would be ok. However he said that some of the things in the letter needed to be modified for my mum as she would get a bit upset if she read them. For example, the fact that my fiance's mum has been my rock since the beginning of the pregnancy, when my mum doesn't know anything about it, she would be pissed off, almost jealous, as she's my mum - understandable.

So my dad and I sat together for 3 hours, we changed the whole letter, all the bits and pieces that needed to be modified etc... Dad was being so supportive, I didn't think my father would be so understanding and helpful.

Then he went home that day and gave it to my mum. (I don't live with them during the week so I wasn't there to see her reaction). He gave me a call this morning to tell me how she reacted: apparantly she was fine about it, she said she knew from day one that I was pregnant, she could tell.

However when I called her this morning she said that she hadn't slept all night and hadn't gone to work becuase she wasn't well, because of all this. I didn't really understand... after, we kind of had an argument, but quietly, if you know what i mean, the kind of argument where you're not shouting and screaming at each other but you know you're pissed off.

Anyway we're now talking of how to push our wedding forward due to culture etc... My parents also seem to be putting a lot of the blame on my fiance, which kind of upsets me as I know this whole idea was mine. Also, my little brothers know, which is kinda weird.

I don't really know how to feel now, we're all going to meet up to discuss things but right now I'm just focusing on making sure I have a healthy pregnancy. Thanks for your support girls xxxx

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

Im glad your dad took the news well
Dont worry about your mum, she'll come round

Dont let them push you to do anything you dont want to i.e. push foward the wedding.

 

[MissGobby]

glad everything went well hun - but dont let them push you into anything you dont want to

 

[x-kirsty-x]

At least now its out in the open and you dont have to worry about telling them anymore. They could've taken it alot worse I suppose.

 

[Tori]

aww hun, im glad it went better than what u thought. Ur mum will come round - when i told my mum she was devistated, angry n annoyed. We didnt talk for months, but now Leahs here, she LOVES her to bits and wouldnt change it for the world.

Lots of hun, everythin will sort itself out, dont worry n like u said - consentrate on havin a healthy,happy pregnancy

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Im so pleased your Dad was so understanding and supportive, it wont take long for your mum to come round to his way of thinking

 

[mum2A&L]

well done for telling them. im sure as it sinks in your mum will come around to the idea.

i got my mum to tell my dad as i was too scared i would have disapointed him (oldest daughter and all). he was at the pub at the time my mum called to tell him.

 

[kimmumof2]

hi hun well done in telling them, it must have been really hard. im sure your mum will come round. make sure that you and bubs stay healthy and stress free and i wish you all the best with motherhood and marriage huny. xxxxxx

 

[jenna]

Glad your dad was alright with it, im sure your mum will come round. She might just be in shock --->

 

[foxymum]

glad you've told them, yes it must be shocking, but hun you are 2 not 15/16, also don't let them push ahead with the wedding if you don't want to yet as you are supposed to enjoy the build up & organisation of the big day, not rushing it through coz you are pregnant.

i had Georgia at 19 & was un-married, also Rich (my still hubbie) had a 1 yr old son, so my mum was upset that i had done this! as you can imagine.
we now have 3 children ( 4 including his son) & have been together for 12.5 yrs & married for 7.5 yrs!
good luck hun.xxxx

 

[laetitia85]

i'm engaged and we were planning to get married next year anyway. But with my pregnancy, we really want to get married at least at the registry this year, before the baby is born. I don't really mind, i'm ready for marriage and so my OH. in fact he really wants to get married soon. I really have no objection, but it's true, things do seem like they're being rushed a bit... oh well, i knew all this was coming so i prepared myself mentally! i'll be fine!

 

[trixipaws]

good luck with it all

 

[Happybunny]

It is great that it is all on the open now. Your mum will come round, after all she is going to be a grandmother...she will fall in love with your little baby as soon as she or he arrives

Well done for being brave!!!

M
xxx

 

[Tangerinedream]

well done for telling ur parents, it must have taken guts. and nice one that your dad took it so well. Like the other girls say, your mum will come round