trixipaws
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my mum loves christmas. she is also still very "mummy"ish with me and my lil sis. she still treats me like a child in some ways- one of which is she would bail me out of anything, she tries to do whatever she can helping me out financially, babysitting, etc she did my laundry until i was 23 and if i go out clubbing and end up at 4am with no taxi money i can always call her and she will come pick me up at the drop of a hat (i dont anymore tho it takes the piss- but i could if i liked, shes happy to do it rather than worry about me getting into trouble etc)
but also she worries too much, she takes my problems on board too much and makes herself sick with worry, so i tend to shelter her from the truth, i dont tell her about my problems coz she honestly would worry about them more than ME!
she is a bit of a drama queen too she gets upset about silly things- for example when she was on holiday earlier this year i texted her asking how it was- and because it was raining she said she felt "suicidal"! she lets silly things like weather spoil the whole bigger picture and she is an eternal pessimist!
anyway, she loves having us round on christmas day, iv been living with my boyf for over 8 years now but we've always been there for xmas (theres never any "competition" coz my boyfs mum is dead and his dad estranged)
this year we've decided that its time we start doing our own christmas. i used to spend xmas with my parents i never went to my grandparents, and we think its only right millie does the same, the focus should be here at ours. also, for those who dont know, my boyf and my lil sis had a massive fall-out in may this year, and last xmas my boyf found it a little overbearing that my parents fussed over millie and there were pics of her with them and my boyf felt a bit pushed out.
i think my mum probably assumes we are going as usual, and my sister is moving to aylesbury in november so this year might be the first year ever my mum doesnt have both her daughters there on christmas day!
when i *officially* left home in 2003 when we bought our house, my mum cried- even tho i hadnt lived there since 2000 i'd been living at my boyf's flat, just all my mail still went home. so she makes a big deal out of principles and im expecting her to be absolutely crushed about xmas!
i keep putting off telling her, idk how to tell her either. can anyone gimme any advice?
sorry its long and seems trite but honestly if u knew my mum you would kno it isnt trite for us!
the closer i let it get to xmas itll probably make it worse so i need to do it. i so dont wanna! eep!
but also she worries too much, she takes my problems on board too much and makes herself sick with worry, so i tend to shelter her from the truth, i dont tell her about my problems coz she honestly would worry about them more than ME!
she is a bit of a drama queen too she gets upset about silly things- for example when she was on holiday earlier this year i texted her asking how it was- and because it was raining she said she felt "suicidal"! she lets silly things like weather spoil the whole bigger picture and she is an eternal pessimist!
anyway, she loves having us round on christmas day, iv been living with my boyf for over 8 years now but we've always been there for xmas (theres never any "competition" coz my boyfs mum is dead and his dad estranged)
this year we've decided that its time we start doing our own christmas. i used to spend xmas with my parents i never went to my grandparents, and we think its only right millie does the same, the focus should be here at ours. also, for those who dont know, my boyf and my lil sis had a massive fall-out in may this year, and last xmas my boyf found it a little overbearing that my parents fussed over millie and there were pics of her with them and my boyf felt a bit pushed out.
i think my mum probably assumes we are going as usual, and my sister is moving to aylesbury in november so this year might be the first year ever my mum doesnt have both her daughters there on christmas day!
when i *officially* left home in 2003 when we bought our house, my mum cried- even tho i hadnt lived there since 2000 i'd been living at my boyf's flat, just all my mail still went home. so she makes a big deal out of principles and im expecting her to be absolutely crushed about xmas!
i keep putting off telling her, idk how to tell her either. can anyone gimme any advice?
sorry its long and seems trite but honestly if u knew my mum you would kno it isnt trite for us!
the closer i let it get to xmas itll probably make it worse so i need to do it. i so dont wanna! eep!