Me and my partner have been together just over 4 years. They have been a hectic for years we have 3 children. He has his hobbies, golf, football, drinking, playstation, his phone/ipad. So we have 3 children and he says to me all the time if it wasn't for the children we wouldn't be together. He will come home from work take a nap on the sofa, wake up play playstation or sit on his phone then il serve tea and do dishes then it is bed time so I will bath the boys and put them to bed and he will get in the bath and stay there until about 8 then he will get out and watch tv. Our children are all under the age of 3. I don't work as he refuses to help with child care costs and I just wouldn't be able to make that type of money working. So I spend my days doing house work and odd jobs taking the boys out for a walk/ go shopping (I don't have a car) I won't lie it is hard it is difficult when there's one of you and 3 of them and they are so little as well. He will be so miserable when he gets home from work and is constantly making sly remarks towards me telling me I'm fat (I have but on half a stone since before my first child I weigh 8st 4lb) he says I'm lazy that being at home is a luxury and I should respect him more because I bring in no money. He tells me I'm screwed if he was to leave me as I have 3 children so nobody is guna want me. I do everything for him he doesn't even need to pull the flush he asks for something I will do it I have no problem doing this for him but surely he should treat me with some more respect? He shouts at me infront of my children and makes me look like a complete fool. If we have an argument he will go tell his parents who will then tell me how much of a bad parent I am how he earns the money I should shut my mouth. The way he is with the kids is disgusting he will shout at them for trying to wake him up he slaps them so now my eldest thinks it's ok and slapping is fine. I have sat him down and had to tell him daddy shouldn't hit people it's naughty. I've asked him to stop hurting them and to use the naughty step but he just can't be bothered to get off the sofa. When it's just me at home the kids are well behaved they know what is wrong and when they are to stop what they are doing. My partner refuses to buy anything child related because I receive the child benefit therefore that is what that money is for. A couple months I fall short of things so I borrow money off family members but it shouldn't be there place to be feeding my children. I am so unhappy I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm scared if I tell him to leave im going to be worse off than I am now. I'm scared I will be unhappy and struggle to pay bills. I have told him in the past couple days our relationship isn't working he says I'm ungrateful and I'm the cause of the unhappiness between us. Then he went to work yesterday and started texting me saying sly comments like pack up all his stuff and he doesn't believe what I'm telling him I replied and said look I told you on Saturday how I was feeling not once has he apologised to me or even suggested he could change. He came home at 5 yesterday and didn't say a word to me so I didn't speak back. Then my friend popped over to collect a DVD she left and he caused a big scene packed up a bag and said I'm leaving. He has left me with no money I have no food for my children he knows there is no food here. There is no milk for them they are living of toast and yoghurt a because I have absolutely no money. I text him and said when are you coming back he's not replied. I have now made plans for tonight for a friend to bring us over tea and milk and stay the night. I haven't text him to tell him I have made plans. Should I? Have I been too mean? Should I give him another chance? My head is all over the place I'm not sure what is going to be best.