I am so upset.

[Tiffy]

Me and my boyfriend had a bad row, and I have bad cramps now. I feel so terrible. He stormed off, and now I am just in tears. He knows he shouldn't stress me, now I am so worried. UGH

 

[CB23]

have a lie down and try to relax

 

[poppy160]

Aww, I agree with CB have a lie down with a hot water bottle. Cramps are normal, it'll be okay

 

[fifi211]

Aww hope you get everything sorted soon

It's awful when you have a falling out especially as your hormones are all over the place.

I am being so snappy with DH lately and I can see him holding back and at some point he is gonna snap back

The cramps are just probably due to you being tense and upset, as the others have said just try to relax, easier said than done I know

 

[Tiffy]

Going on the computer usually helps me ease down at bit, just looking over the threads in here and such. Emiel absolutely bit my head off when he saw me sit down in front of the screen, even after I told him I needed to calm down. HE IS JUST BEING A SELFISH, SPOILED BRAT!!! I am full of raging hormones, I am trying to keep my baby healthy and stop these cramps, and all he can think of is his wounded pride!!!

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

 

[scottishterrier]

lol well he's a man and they tend to think of themselves first(its natural) if you want to stay healthy and keep sain go give him a hug and forget all about it.

 

[Tiffy]

I won't put up with a dumb man like that. Holy crud.
I will not hug him, he messed up. He knows he messed up, and I deserve an apology. I'm not anybody's bitch.

 

[Rosebay]

It's difficult I know. The only time I actually threw up with morning sickness last time I was PG was after a row as I was so tense that my body just didn't like it. I'm sure the cramps are just because your stomach muscles are tensed.

Can you explain that you now have a license to win arguments by default now that you're pregnant? It saves time . I get bad PMT and my OH knows not to try and argue with me then as I am all over the place but I was like that for all 40 weeks last time and a fair time afterwards. When we started arguing again I said "How come we haven't argued for so long, what's gone wrong now?" and he was like "Nothing, I've just been biting my tongue for about a year!"

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[scottishterrier]

without knowing full details i cant offer much advice, however i can sympathise, my lovely pathetic excuse for a man has now disappeared off the face of the planet!
hope you feel better soon x

 

[Tiffy]

It's difficult I know. The only time I actually threw up with morning sickness last time I was PG was after a row as I was so tense that my body just didn't like it. I'm sure the cramps are just because your stomach muscles are tensed.

Can you explain that you now have a license to win arguments by default now that you're pregnant? It saves time . I get bad PMT and my OH knows not to try and argue with me then as I am all over the place but I was like that for all 40 weeks last time and a fair time afterwards. When we started arguing again I said "How come we haven't argued for so long, what's gone wrong now?" and he was like "Nothing, I've just been biting my tongue for about a year!"

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I have tried explaining to him how irrational and grumpy I can be, and that I am sorry about it, and that I need his patience, and therefore his support - that doesn't excuse me obviously, but I hoped that maybe he would just be able to put down his pride and, you know, BACK OFF. Especially after I told him to back off, on the top of my freaking LUNGS.

Siiigh.

He left for a walk a long time ago, and he is still not back..

 

[fifi211]

Men eh?

Thank goodness they don't have to go through this. What annoys me most is when I get upset, and granted it can be over something really small, my DH rolls his eyes as if to say here we go again

Really hope you are talking soon and have things sorted out

Scottishterrier - Sorry you haven't heard from your OH, hope you hear something soon

 

[scottishterrier]

Men eh?

Thank goodness they don't have to go through this. What annoys me most is when I get upset, and granted it can be over something really small, my DH rolls his eyes as if to say here we go again

Really hope you are talking soon and have things sorted out

Scottishterrier - Sorry you haven't heard from your OH, hope you hear something soon

i agree, they'd never cope!

and thank you,

 

[Rosebay]

I have tried explaining to him how irrational and grumpy I can be, and that I am sorry about it, and that I need his patience, and therefore his support - that doesn't excuse me obviously, but I hoped that maybe he would just be able to put down his pride and, you know, BACK OFF. Especially after I told him to back off, on the top of my freaking LUNGS.

Yeah I think that's what I did just before I threw up that time, I was kind of shaking with rage I remember, not a nice feeling. (Don't remember what the row was about mind you!)

He left for a walk a long time ago, and he is still not back..

Probably just as well, it's good if you can both cool down a bit. I wish that guys could just experience what it's like to be pregnant just briefly so that they could understand. It's so difficult to explain isn't it?


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[Rosebay]

scottishterrier- he's probably just in shock, hope he gets back in touch soon

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[Tiffy]

He has been outside this whole time!!! Gonna go talk to him, guys. I'll keep you updated. Thanks so much, and scottishterrier, I am thinking of you.

 

[scottishterrier]

He has been outside this whole time!!! Gonna go talk to him, guys. I'll keep you updated. Thanks so much, and scottishterrier, I am thinking of you.

hope you get it sorted and thank you.

 

[muppetmummy]

Hope you guys can sort it out

 

[Tiffy]

One word: sulking.

 

[fifi211]

Who? You or him?

Between me and DH, I'm the sulker. You will be making up in no time I'm sure

 

[Tiffy]

He's sulking big time. I turn into the hardass who demands an apology (when it's rightfully in order), and he's the one who sulks about it because his pride says no.