Hello all,
I have no idea where to post this, & I desparately don't want to upset anyone, but my husband & I have received some awful news that has really unsettled me. I am after advice, really, if anyone has experience this, or heard of similar.
I am 34 weeks pregnant with my first, & my husbands ex partner was about 4 weeks ahead of me, with her fourth (her first is my husbands son). We heard last week, when he went round to collect his son for his normal visitation, that his ex had been taken into hospital to deliver her baby, which it seems, had passed away the day before. Tragic enough news, but unfortunately, it has got a lot worse. My hubby had sent a text to his ex, saying that he hoped she was okay, & to let him know if his son wanted to see him, which he didn;t ever get a response to. It turns out, that his ex is now in a coma, following some kind of reaction to the drugs used to induce her labour.
This is obviously absolutely horrific news. My husband & his ex didn't have a great relationship, but he was very upset by the news, & (although I have never met her), so am I.
Now, selfishly, I am starting to feel very unsettled, & nervous. I think it's mainly because we don't know the full story, but I am starting to worry about what has happened, & why. I am starting to worry about my own baby, & if I happen to need an induction of labour. I feel horribly self-centred thinking any of this, & donlt want to talk to hubby about it, & don't feel it is right for me to discuss it with my friends or family, as it seems like gossiping.
I am absolutely petrified of seeing my hubby's son, as he is apparently (obviously) distraught. I have no idea what to say, & if he will somehow resent me for being pregnant. I am also worried that it is going to completely freak me out. I obviously need to know what is going on, & part of me wants to know the full story, but the other part of me wants to bury my head in the sand, & pretend none of it is happening.
I really wouldn;t want to upset anyone on here by posting this, so I sincerely hope that this is not the case, & apologies if this does upset anyone.
I guess I am feeling a bit silly by being affecyed by something that has happened to someone I don;t know. I guess it just feels very close to home, & I'm not quite sure how to process this information.
Thanks for reading- it feels better just having put it into words.
I have no idea where to post this, & I desparately don't want to upset anyone, but my husband & I have received some awful news that has really unsettled me. I am after advice, really, if anyone has experience this, or heard of similar.
I am 34 weeks pregnant with my first, & my husbands ex partner was about 4 weeks ahead of me, with her fourth (her first is my husbands son). We heard last week, when he went round to collect his son for his normal visitation, that his ex had been taken into hospital to deliver her baby, which it seems, had passed away the day before. Tragic enough news, but unfortunately, it has got a lot worse. My hubby had sent a text to his ex, saying that he hoped she was okay, & to let him know if his son wanted to see him, which he didn;t ever get a response to. It turns out, that his ex is now in a coma, following some kind of reaction to the drugs used to induce her labour.
This is obviously absolutely horrific news. My husband & his ex didn't have a great relationship, but he was very upset by the news, & (although I have never met her), so am I.
Now, selfishly, I am starting to feel very unsettled, & nervous. I think it's mainly because we don't know the full story, but I am starting to worry about what has happened, & why. I am starting to worry about my own baby, & if I happen to need an induction of labour. I feel horribly self-centred thinking any of this, & donlt want to talk to hubby about it, & don't feel it is right for me to discuss it with my friends or family, as it seems like gossiping.
I am absolutely petrified of seeing my hubby's son, as he is apparently (obviously) distraught. I have no idea what to say, & if he will somehow resent me for being pregnant. I am also worried that it is going to completely freak me out. I obviously need to know what is going on, & part of me wants to know the full story, but the other part of me wants to bury my head in the sand, & pretend none of it is happening.
I really wouldn;t want to upset anyone on here by posting this, so I sincerely hope that this is not the case, & apologies if this does upset anyone.
I guess I am feeling a bit silly by being affecyed by something that has happened to someone I don;t know. I guess it just feels very close to home, & I'm not quite sure how to process this information.
Thanks for reading- it feels better just having put it into words.